Monday, 22 August 2011
So my boyfriend and I have been together for just over nine months, and we are happy together, but there's been more and more rough patches recently. There are things I've put up with for nine months and I'm just getting fed up.
One, he drinks. A lot.Like this past two, maybe even three weekends (I've even lost count at this point), he goes on three days binge drinking escapades.
And he doesn't just get tipsy, he gets absolutely hammered, to the point of being unsafe, to the point of throwing up, and not being stable enough to ride his bike home. I'm worried. But I can't say anything. I tried once, twice, and even a few more times, but he just yells and tells me he's "tired of the lectures."
So I sit quiet, get over it and essentially let it boil up inside me. On a side note though, I drink as well, maybe two times a week, yes, I get drunk, sometimes pushing my limits, and he says I have no right to lecture him, hence why I no longer do.
Two, he "drunkbooks" (drunk and on Facebook, always a bad combination), something his bros think is just hilarious. He is an ass to people, he disrespects people, spams people with caps lock and obnoxious insults.
I have over and over and over again expressed how much I dislike this blatant display of immaturity. I've expressed how much I hate waking up to that every single morning on the weekends, and he thinks it's just nothing. So why should it matter?
He doesn't understand why I get so upset. But it's about respect, he tells me he won't, but goes aorund and does it anyway. It's like he's intentionally trying to piss me off. If it's something so little and insignificant, then why should it matter if I ask him to stop? But he argues if it's so insignificant why should it matter if I do it? This is the current argument.
And then, there's stage three, the hangover. He's grumpy, tired, and incredibly apathetic. I'm fuming angry about the whole weekend antics, and he's like, "Yeah. whatever." So nothing ever gets solved.
So what do I do? I've expressed my opinions, more than once, so what now? How do I get my point across? Or should I just damn well give up already, suck it up, and be "more chill" as he asks me to be?