Friday, 19 August 2011
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Confidence, Probably the Sexiest Quality Anyone Can Have
It’s sexier than the hot barista that works at Starbucks around the corner from your house. It’s sexier than fame. It’s sexier than being rich. It’s confidence. You could be the ugliest person walking the face of the planet, but if you have confidence it doesn’t matter. It’s a difference of night and day when you meet, greet or whatever with a person who is confident. All of a sudden that person is ten times more attractive.
He/she has this air about him/her that all of a sudden draws you in. It’s alluring and even more so noticeable when that person walks into a room. All eyes are like magnets on this body.
All confidence is, is a person who is sure of him/herself. However, what is interesting is how easily confidence can border on arrogance. If you become too overly certain of yourself, you can all of a sudden be an arrogant prick or a stuck up bitch.
Therefore confidence speaks loudly and clearly in that those who are confident are balanced people in some way or another because being too extremely confident can portray this opposite image. I’ve talked to my guy friends in reference to this before and they’ve said to me that somehow when a girl is confident and knows what she wants and is certain of who she is, it is sexier than anything.
When I asked them why they find it sexy, many have said that it is because people who are confident love themselves, and aren’t afraid of being rejected or judged which also means their self-worth is determined by themselves, not by anyone else.
When you hide behind your own shadow people feel less compelled to notice you which is why if you want to be noticed by a prospective crush, it's best to carry yourself confidently. It shows strength.
Is confidence a quality you look for in your crushes? Does confidence turn you on or do you not care at all?
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Isn't this sort of ancient news? Who would say confidence turns them off?
"Yeah, I like insecure people who constantly ask me if they look alright." Sheesh.
That said it is ridiculous how many people think that being an arrogant jerk is somehow the same thing as being confident. I'm willing to bet that every arrogant jerk actually has really low self-esteem.
@thisiswhereItellyoueverything@xanga - Manipulative people naturally do not like confident people, so there is one group of persons.
@thisiswhereItellyoueverything@xanga - my point. It feels like the author is trying to achieve two things:
1) trying to recyle the popular belief of confidence is stronger/greater than outwardly or wealth aspects of a person. OR
2) trying to support another theory that needed a prequel (this entry) to work into it. Either way, this "new" entry is nothing unheard of...
I think the careful borderline to watch out for is "confidence" vs "cocky, arrogant, attitude"
@MelancholyxBallad@xanga - Yeah I guess that's true...I wasn't really thinking about creepy unhealthy people. I assume manipulative/abusive/people who lack confidence may be turned off by confidence in other people.
@thisiswhereItellyoueverything@xanga - It's a power issue. They seek out those whom they know are weaker. More often than not manipulative people actually have more confidence than most, they just use their tactics for personal gain at the expense and even harm of others.
I know very unattractive guys who have extreme confidence and it doesn't make them sexy, it makes them creepy.
Quietly confident? Someone whose extremely sure of themselves, who they are, and what they are doing, but who doesn't feel the need to take over the room, the conversation or anything else to prove it. That is who I want to be, and that is the girl I want to meet.
"You could be the ugliest person walking the face of the planet, but if you have confidence it doesn’t matter."
Actually, if you're the ugliest person on the entire planet, that's probably going to matter at least somewhat.
Looks will always matter. They'll matter for jobs, they'll matter for romance, they'll matter for all first impressions. The difference is that when you're confident, you roll with the punches rather than falling down under them like someone would who isn't as sure of themselves. Instead of sitting in a corner they just keep on talking and laughing until the next person comes along, who will feel their vibe more.
Idk. This is kind of an old topic so probably 10000 people have already said the same things I'm saying, in reply to 1000 blogs just like this one. I think we'll all come to the conclusion that Yes, confidence does help make you likeable and popular.
all of my crushes have been cute, but that wasn't the only thing, they were the whole deal with looks, brains and personality. the uglies with a lot of confidence can attract and have each other
yes, bc confidence is sexy. when you know what you want and how to get there, that shows a lot of confidence and it's so attractive.
I've always been more attracted to men and women who seemed to have little confidence in themselves mostly because I've always wanted to show them exactly what they weren't noticing and in some cases it worked and the relationships ended on good terms. Because confidence is key to everything in life work or play its definitely a necessity.