Friday, 19 August 2011
It’s sexier than the hot barista that works at Starbucks around the corner from your house. It’s sexier than fame. It’s sexier than being rich. It’s confidence. You could be the ugliest person walking the face of the planet, but if you have confidence it doesn’t matter. It’s a difference of night and day when you meet, greet or whatever with a person who is confident. All of a sudden that person is ten times more attractive.
He/she has this air about him/her that all of a sudden draws you in. It’s alluring and even more so noticeable when that person walks into a room. All eyes are like magnets on this body.
All confidence is, is a person who is sure of him/herself. However, what is interesting is how easily confidence can border on arrogance. If you become too overly certain of yourself, you can all of a sudden be an arrogant prick or a stuck up bitch.
Therefore confidence speaks loudly and clearly in that those who are confident are balanced people in some way or another because being too extremely confident can portray this opposite image. I’ve talked to my guy friends in reference to this before and they’ve said to me that somehow when a girl is confident and knows what she wants and is certain of who she is, it is sexier than anything.
When I asked them why they find it sexy, many have said that it is because people who are confident love themselves, and aren’t afraid of being rejected or judged which also means their self-worth is determined by themselves, not by anyone else.
When you hide behind your own shadow people feel less compelled to notice you which is why if you want to be noticed by a prospective crush, it's best to carry yourself confidently. It shows strength.
Is confidence a quality you look for in your crushes? Does confidence turn you on or do you not care at all?