Thursday, 18 August 2011
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I'm Not a Woman Because What?!
Long hair, short hair, or no hair on a woman? What difference does it make as long as she feels good in her skin and can rock her attitude with it? I honestly love having my hair short because I feel I look better with this style. But apparently to one of my friend's boyfriends, women who have short hair are not women. Say what?In his own defense, he stated that "Women with long hair have been the eye of beauty since the beginning of time. When I see a girl with short hair it makes me feel bad that they try so hard to be a man instead of a woman." Okay, maybe from the butt crack of time women had to grow their hair long, yes it probably was a signature of beauty or probably still is. But to say a woman with short hair is trying to be a man, give me a break.
Colin: Think about it, when you read romance novels or watch movies, you see the long haired beauty getting more action then the chick with the short pixie cut or whatever mop style that's in.
Me: You're kidding me, now you're saying women with longer hair get more action. Where in the hell do you get this shit?
Colin: Well for one, girls with short hair are more aggressive, and tend to be less cooperative than girls with long hair.
Me: Okay that is total bull crap.
Colin: You are proving my point, you have short hair, you are aggressive and you think to highly of yourself.
Me: Fine. So what if I'm "aggressive," speaking my mind and standing up for what I believe in is how I am. If you don't like it, take your ass somewhere else and--
Colin: See, you're doing it.
At that point my friend who had been quietly listening to this conversation put her hand against my back and told me to calm down, and that he didn't mean what he was saying. To which he replied quickly stating that all men could agree with him, long hair is more sexy and beautiful compared to short haired girls trying to be men. Adding more gas to my fire, I finally did what a "girl with short hair trying to be man" would do, threw my drink in his face before slamming my fist into his jaw. Knocking him over some, before storming out of the area. Probably not one of my best attributes, but I refuse to believe that all men think that way.
I believe beauty shouldn't be judged by outer appearance, or how we style ourselves. It should be judged by our actions and our personality.
What do you think?
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I'm not saying that what he says is true, but most of the time (depending on the girl and in my opinion), long hair is sexier. I had hair down to my waist and recently had to cut it all off, and while I know that I'm still attractive with my short hair (actually, not that short, it's only right above my boobs), I feel like I lost my sexiness
I would have to say that you went about making your point in the complete wrong way, and there would have been a better way to go about it.
I have short hair, and although I am opinionated, I do have a strong sense of self... and I may come across as 'hard'... I also have very feminine traits as well.
My boyfriend prefers me with short hair. I pull it off very well. He loves pixie cuts on girls. It's just something that has been appealing to him. I know other guys who don't really care about the length of hair as long as the girl takes good care of it, and is comfortable within who she is.
I, for one, do not need someone to tell me how I look. I feel attractive with short hair and it shows. I think that is more attractive then anything long hair could do for me.
Okay, psycho.
Hey, I shaved my head in high school just to make my mother cry and I rocked a pixie cut for years. It can be beautiful, absolutely. But men like long hair because its a signifying factor that the woman is healthy and ready to mate. its truth.
Lol, you're silly. I feel your anger though, dear. Most men find long, pretty hair more attractive on a girl because it indicates health more easily than shorter hair, since it takes much longer to grow longer, so it shows if you've been healthy for much longer. On the other hand, I don't think most guys would dismiss a girl he'd otherwise be attracted to for having short hair. If he would, he's not worth your time. Instead of punching him in the jaw (i have no problem with this, but it obviously caused you anguish), just tell him that you don't care what he has to say.
Hair does not a woman make. What about those going through breast cancer and have lost it all due to chemotherapy? Are they any less of a woman?
"I believe beauty shouldn't be judged by outer appearance, or how we
style ourselves. It should be judged by our actions and our personality."
Being violent and revengeful is not beautiful. Overreacting is not beautiful, either.
Still, I know not all guys are like that, so for that guy to say it is perfectly fine. However, his comment about how women with short hair want to be men and are argumentative and aggressive is ludicrous. Women who have short hair are usually the ballsy type who don't take shit. If that makes you less than a woman to that guy, then i guess he prefers the wimpy, timid type, which is fine because I know I won't be dating anyone with that preference. Also, women I know with long hair loooove my short hair because it takes guts to cut it as short as I did. I guess men like that don't understand the value of individuality, let alone being someone who doesn't do things just because SOME men out there PREFER it. Fuck him. I'd throw a drink in his face too, and don't let anyone make you feel bad for having that gut reaction.
He's full of crap.
Generally nowadays long hair is considered more feminine, but most of the short cuts you see women have, most men wouldn't sport.Also speaking as someone who just had long-ish hair and then cut it super short less than a week ago, I would have been tempted to knock him on his ass, no matter what length my hair was.Still, you did overreact. Still, he's a sexist bitch.
It's definitely crap. I have short hair because I'm lazy, and styling longer hair is a pain in the arse... especially if you go through so much to style it and it STILL looks a mess! I think I've gotten more compliments on my hair with it being shorter (and no longer relaxed to be straight) than I did when it was down to my shoulders. I also feel more confident.
As far as I'm concerned, if he likes long hair that much, he can get a weave. He should get a weave and have to: wash it, condition it, and style it day in and day out. He might see why most of us cut it after all that and have a little more respect for a woman with a shorter cut.
Still, I know not all guys are like that, so for that guy to say it is perfectly fine. However, his comment about how women with short hair want to be men and are argumentative and aggressive is ludicrous. Women who have short hair are usually the ballsy type who don't take shit. If that makes you less than a woman to that guy, then i guess he prefers the wimpy, timid type, which is fine because I know I won't be dating anyone with that preference. Also, women I know with long hair loooove my short hair because it takes guts to cut it as short as I did. I guess men like that don't understand the value of individuality, let alone being someone who doesn't do things just because SOME men out there PREFER it. Fuck him. I'd throw a drink in his face too, and don't let anyone make you feel bad for having that gut reaction.
So if one have a really nice face shape n is confident enough to get a short hair cut ( above the neck that type of short) then I think this person would appear more “ strong” in character, therefore making the men think she wants to be like men....because men are suppose to be the one with “ strong character” .... you know what I mean?
Also, I think there are plenty of guys who like the “ strong female character”. So I really wouldn’t worry about what the guy says...
I wonder what would happen if that guy got drunk and had a one night stand with a short haired girl. Would he think he slept with a dude? Funny.
Okay, I can respect that he likes longer hair on women. I'm assuming that's not the part you were so angry about as much as the "pretending to be men" part. And that, is ridiculous to think that short hair = trying to be a man.
double standard situation. if it was reversed, he would be tossed in jail or chased down by a mob if he was physically violent.
I can see where you anger is coming from. This boy is stating his hurtful, narrow-minded opinions as facts and is expecting you to believe them. Next time just tell him, I'm wearing my hair the way that I want to, if you don't like it don't look at it.
I have long hair. I always had it. My hair gets poofy when it's short so even if I wanted short hair style, I can't have it. It's sad, really. I used to have short hair when I was a kid. Hair was less tougher to work with back then.
The fact that moronic men like him even exists STILL in this world makes me laugh. I'm tall, aggressive, less cooperative with other girls and I have long hair. He's an idiot. Hahah I'd be as mad about it as you were!
I am equally aggressive with short and long hair. And actually.... started growing out my hair around the same time I started spending more time working on cars... aka trying to be a man. ;D
He was being a douche bag but it wasn't necessary to hit him. As someone who deals with intense and violent anger issues if that is something you feel very often you might want to talk about it with someone. There are times when my BPD gets completely out of control and if someone says a certain thing that makes me feel rejected I will have an incredibley hard time not going crazy on their ass. Just something to consider...
But either way I think it is stupid and childish when people say "A real women/man does these things and looks like this etc". When people say things like that it makes me think they're extremely immature. Especially when they think everyone else should hold the same opinion.
It's not your short hair that makes you a man, it's your lack of humility, reacting in a I'm caveman get out my cave type of fashion.
I think there are SEVERAL problems with things he said in that conversation - it goes way beyond stating a simple preference for long hair over short hair.
Well for one, girls with short hair are more aggressive, and tend to be less cooperative than girls with long hair.
You are proving my point, you have short hair, you are aggressive and you think to highly of yourself.
He basically not only insinuated you're trying to be a man because you have short hair, but he basically said that because you disagreed with him, you're uncooperative and thought too highly of yourself. The first comment I pointed out basically states a preference for women who will cooperate with him and agree with whatever he says. My ex was the same way, and interestingly enough, felt the same way about short hair. Odd, being that his mother had a very short haircut and was the one of the biggest doormats I've ever met.
Hitting him might have been going a bit too far, but I don't blame you for throwing the drink in his face. :p
It isn't okay to use violence against someone, sorry to burst your bubble, honey.
But I do agree that a woman is a woman, no matter how she chooses to style her hair. I also have short hair, but luckily I have not met much crap for it.