Thursday, 18 August 2011
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Everyone Loves to Bitch, But No One Likes a Bitch
Is it human nature to leave nasty comments when one thinks you can't see or feel the person you're talking to? Is it more rewarding and less wrong to judge a person when you know you'll never meet them?
I've noticed this recent rash of blogs going around which are written by a young lady who seems to be incredibly opinionated. Nowadays, the term 'opinionated' carries a lot of negative implications-- but really the only people who ever stir any kind of emotion from anyone else are people with strong opinions. If you really believe in something, you will respond-- if you really disagree with something, you will respond. The aim of writing a piece of opinion is to share a different perspective with a broader range of people -- and though you hope as many people as possible will be able to relate to your topic, you should be aware that you can't ever please everyone all at the same time.
Okay. So maybe her (this young lady's) blogs and I don't agree very much. (In fact, this young lady's internet persona and I agree with basically nothing) -- and for a moment after reading her entries I am insulted that she should make such erroneous generalizations about me or any other woman in the world. Then I realize that she's experienced different things than I have, and she feels different emotions from me; and I realize that I don't in fact know anything more about her besides what she has written.
For all I know, in her day-to-day life she and I may be friends. I suspect that the stories one shares online tend to be stories in one's life that are strange, even to you. This is why no one ever blogs about walking to the mailbox....
Now usually I'd leave it there, just wave my hand dismissively and say, "Well, she's not for me." read a few comments maybe leave a quip of my own, and then forget about the whole affair. Then I noticed the development of nasty replies as the Internet goes down the line. "You're a hypocrite." "Judgmental bitch, there's something wrong with YOU." "You're a terrible person." and I can't help but feel sorry for her.
There's a difference between disliking what someone is saying, and disliking who someone is. Okay, considering her last post had this picture saying 'I love being hated', then maybe getting mean comments is what she wants-- but me, if someone judged me for a story I wrote without ever meeting me, I would maybe huddle around my laptop in a corner and start crying. I know that as a writer you have to be able to take the bad comments as well as the good ones, but some of these responses seem unnecessarily personal... at least keep the insults related to the topic of discussion and the material in the article, and not about individual herself.
Anyway, it makes me wonder, if a bunch of Xangans disagree with her and we all gang up and tell her what a horrible person she is for being... well, the person that makes her unique -- would that be considered cyber bullying?
Just out of curiosity, would any of you be as sharp to her face if you met her and talked to her in person or is this just one's online persona?
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oh my god. this is older news than jersey shore. can we talk about something new? i'd rather have another post about why guys can sleep around and girls can't bla bla bla bitch bitch moan than read about this again.
I would probably be sharper to her face. If she truly acts like that in person (I think I know who you are talking about), then I would let her know how shallow, vapid and rude she is. Not to be a bully, but because if she really thinks of other people and herself like that... she IS the bully, only in a more subtle more harmful way.
yet another pointless hypocritical two way street blog? yes, if she was pissing me off i would be in her face. in fact i stood up to a 300 pound drama queen b4 right in her face. and i'm like 100lbs. something and was ready to take her down if need be. don't fuck with a fam of black belts who earned their black belts and not bought it either
so she can write nasty blogs about fat chicks but i highly doubt she'd have the guts to make fat remarks to a big girl in person. it's a two way street. stop with these hypocritical blogs.
SHUT UP! She wants these comments, that's why she keeps pissing people off. Doesn't that "I love being hated" sign knock you in your face as to what type of person she really is?
Why the hell do you screw balls keep defending someone who WANTS these comments? She doesn't even acknowledge you defending her and you continue to write countless story books defending her. You people seriously are amusing. She makes entries about she loves being hated, hate comments, but doesn't even acknowledge the few with many screws loose defending her, lmfao. I would suggest you stop wasting your energy breath defending someone who obviously doesn't give a shit. That's why she blogs and doesn't respond to the comments because she loves the attention.
no, it's not cyber bullying. when someone is being mean in person and you call her out on it in public, i wouldn't consider that bullying. IT'S BECAUSE SHE DESERVES IT. bullying is when the victim is innocent. and it's not b/c it's online that i "bash" her. i would do it in person too.
There's a difference between disliking what someone is saying, and disliking who someone is.
What she is saying is EXACTLY how she is like in person!!! it's not like's writing a terrible novel. she's writing HER OWN THOUGHTS. so in this case, it really is the same. THIS is why everyone is bashing her. it's not b/c of her writing style is weird or she writes boring stuff (she doesn't).. it's b/c she shows who SHE is and we don't like it. if ANYONE says that they're prettier and better than everyone and guys should treat her like a queen, of COURSE people will call her snotty & so on.
once again, NOT bullying!
Is this about Jenn?
I would love to see more articles written by shimmers.
*facepalm*
@xxx_MYLiFE@xanga - agreed. it's definitely not bullying when she continues to fuel the fire and doesn't acknowledge the few ppl who do say "nice" things about her as much as she acknowledges the hate. i wonder when people who write long bs blogs about her will comprehend that. probably never. that's why they keep blogging about it to get attention. /face palm.
I like her, and I think a lot of people submit to gang mentalities. I have absolutely no qualms with any of her entries.
Wait, is this about Jenn or the blonde girl?
The blonde is less interesting to me, but still stirs nothing.
Jenn is a great writer and very entertaining. She writes the type of things you are not meant to take seriously.
I don't take her blogs that seriously or personally. she's another wannabe celebrity, who thrives off drama and being 'hated' because she idolizes sex and the city and wishes her stories were fabulous enough to turn into a show. it isn't anything new because facebook and other site are filled with these, who are delusional and think that everybody is just jealous of them, because they have a case of kanye west diva syndrome. sometimes it is annoying, sometimes funny.
You need to learn the difference between bitching and being a bitch. Bitching is slang for complaining, which is what someone does when something happens to them that they don't like, a bitch is slang for someone that's mean. Nobody likes for people to be mean to them. Jenn, is an arrogant, concitied and ugly bitch. You can't expect people to read her blogs and think she's just acting and even if she was, she would still deserve the nasty comments on her posts because the persona calls for it. Do yourself a favor and make this your last blog about her because associating yourself with the enemy is going to make you enemies.
If you can like her then people can hate her. Quit trying to censor people. Good God. You don't see many of us continuously writing blogs about this outplayed drama. Only you defenders keep blogging about someone that doesn't give a shit about you.
I would be just as sharp to her face. Worse actually, because she seems like the type to cry if you were mean enough and I think shit like that is really funny.
I just don't have any tolerance for women like that and really, someone explaining to her face that there's a reason people are so rude to her and it's her own damn fault might do her some good.
Although to be completely honest. If she were pretty, I'd probably embrace her too-high opinion of herself and/or think it was cute.
I would say the exact same things to her face. The way she comes off shows she is not a very nice person. Being a bitch and bitching are two different things. She is not opinionated, she is down right mean. There is a difference.
I agree with you. People have to freedom not to read her blogs if they hate her so much...
@xaannnniieex@xanga - we've went over the reason why people keep reading her blogs countless times...she's all that they mostly ever feature so no shit people are going to read something that's featured a lot of times.
This excuse is lame, and you people defending her are extremely hypocritical. Honestly, I don't get why you nimrods defend someone who doesn't acknowledge she's even liked by the few she's liked. She keeps blogging about she loves being hated and the hate comments.
You definitely have quite a few screws loose more than the hate comments. At least when people hate her, she acknowledges it. She doesn't acknowledge you self-righteous bitches defending her and continues to provoke to the hate comments. It's NOT bullying when she provokes it. Learn your vocabulary.
@raspbxrrryjam@xanga - Jenn's the type of person who can talk up a storm behind a person's back, but she doesn't have the guts to say all the rude things she does to a person's face. I, however, will not tolerate people like her and I WILL go up to her face in person as well. I don't care if a person is bigger than me, I almost took down a bigger a-hole for starting crap. Luckily, I had a way with words where physical violence was unnecessary and she backed down.
The fact that Jenn blogs about topics to get people riled up, but then never responds to the comments shows just how truly gutless she is. At least with the blonde, she participates in the comments discussions good or bad, and she acknowledges people who like her writing and I've seen her thank them, though her writing may be boring to some people. In her racist article, at least she responded to her comments. Does Jenn ever respond to her conceited blogs with comment discussions? NOPE. Not even her semi-decent articles either.
When she bashed those strippers at the strip club she went to, she hid in the bathroom to talk shit about those strippers and not where they could hear.
You call us gutless but she's the one who doesn't respond to what she dishes out. The way you describe the hate comments actually fits Jenn's description more. She isn't entertaining, she's the one who needs an attitude check.
She acted fake nice toward Gabriella, but then wrote that Gabriella was a non-threat and she's a 4 behind Gabriella's back. Did SHE say this to Gabriella's face? No. At least Gabriella said things to her face. If anyone hides behind a computer screen, tt's Jenn and many of you hypocrites defending her, and you're preaching up the wrong tree.
WHO is the one who actually won't say shit to people's face but will blog about it online? Yeah, not the hate commentators.
@shimmers - Wow, you are quite mean. I just meant people can write what they want to write... it's freedom is speech. Like, I blog too, but I write for whole different purposes and for different audiances.
And just to get this straight-- I am not a Jen-follower who tries to defend her. I am simply agreeing with the poster about all this meanness coming from the net targeting one person. And if anything... you are more likely a Jen-follower because of the abundant amount of comments you left on this post, and you keep talking about her!
So anyway, I AGREE WITH THIS POST. The end. This writer has as much freedom to express her opinion as much as Jen has the freedom to write. Stop hating and being mean.
The hate comments are what keep her going. If everyone ignored her posts, the editors would not keep posting them. So said by one of the actual editors.
She's like poison ivy. You keep scratching and scratching, it will spread and get worse.
I don't like that she's propagating the idea that most women think the way she does, you know, vapid, shallow and conceited. (As one guy actually stated he believed after reading one of her articles.)
TL;DR.