Tuesday, 16 August 2011

• I Wonder Why Girls Hate Me So Much

  I am the type of person who gets along with everyone. I smile, I converse, I charm. I learned from a very young age how to make people feel at ease and comfortable around me. It's the main reason I form friendships so quickly. This is why I am absolutely shocked when I meet someone who is so bitchy that they actually reject my calming, nice persona and go out of their way to be rude to me.

  Case and point: I was walking through the city today with my young boss. We hit a mob of people somewhere around Union Square and I decided it would be better to walk behind him and hold onto his bookbag so I didn't lose him in the sea of tourists.

  All of a sudden, a girl grabs his arms.

  "Heyyy strangerrr!!!" she says, not letting go of him. So I let go.

  "Oh, hey," he responded in a much less excited tone.

  That's when she looked at me – no smile, no curious "Who's your friend?", just a glare.

  Shocked, I raised my right hand to wave and was about to say "Hi." I got two fingers bent and a "Haa" sound out of my mouth and the freaking bitch turned her eyes away from me. Yes, she saw me saying hello and willingly chose to ignore it and make me look ridiculous.

  My boss introduced us, to which I got a "Hello" and then kicked out of the conversation a second time.

  When she brought up a new app she wanted to do PR for, I told her that my boyfriend absolutely loved it. I tried to drop in the fact that I had a boyfriend and was not in fact my boss' new girlfriend, but that did nothing to ease her obvious hatred of me. As a matter of fact, she must have experienced a "How dare you speak" moment, because he completely moved from her spot in between me and my boss and moved completely to his left, alienating me from the conversation altogether.

  When she left, she went to hug him and was completely shut down when he said he had too much stuff in his hands. (Haha, biatch.) I got a pitiful "Nice to meet you" as she hurried off embarrassed. Of course when I complained about it to my boss, he had no idea what I was talking about. Guys.

  When it's okay to be bitchy to girls: About a year and a half ago, my boyfriend was performing in a jazz concert at NYU (he's a jazz trumpet player). He told me not to come, but I decided to surprise him. He was so excited, and started introducing me to his professors and friends after the concert. And then there was Gabrielle. Gabrielle was a non-threat to me. I'd give her a 4. And I knew Danny would, too. So I wasn't in territorial mode. That is until, she started talking, or should I say how she started talking. And then touching....

  "Danny, oh my God, can you believe this concert is finally over. All those months of practicing in class!"

  "Yeah, I know. Hey, Gab, this is my girlfriend, Jen. Jen, this is Gabrielle."

  After we exchanged pleasantries, Danny tried to move on to the next group of people he was intriguing me to. Apparently Gabrielle had other plans.

  "So," she said giggling, "You must know my name pretty well. Danny and I have lunch all the time." Arm touch.

  As she touched my boyfriend's arm and bragged about spending time with him, I narrowed down the ways I'd kill her to 3 options. Stiffening my back and stabbing my thumb nails into my fingers (so as not to stab her), I went a different route.

  "Actually, I've never heard Danny mention your name once. Have a great night." Fake bitchy smile, walk away.

  My boyfriend found me a minute later and said, "Babe, you didn't have to say that and leave. She wasn't trying to be nasty."

  "Are you kidding? Of course she was trying to be nasty! I was totally justified!"

  "Hey, you don't have to explain yourself to me. I love that my girlfriend is a hot little bitch."

  "Umm, thank you...I think," I said, and kissed him.

  Are people of the same sex mean to you? Is it because they’re jealous of who you’re with (whether it be a friend or a boyfriend)? Have you ever had to be harsh because someone was blatantly flirting with your boyfriend or girlfriend?

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