Tuesday, 16 August 2011
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Dreaming with a Broken Heart
(Sorry about the John Mayer title-stealing)Last night, I had a scary dream. It wasn't a dream that involved blood-thirsty clowns or axe-wiedling maniacs. Actually, it wasn't that scary, but it had the same effect that a nightmare would have. I'm just glad I realized it was a dream.
I was going out clubbing with a few friends and the boyfriend was going to hang out with his friend. I was having fun and then I get a phone call from the boyfriend, presuming it's in the same pukingly adorable vein as the rest of our conversations go, I venture away from the club and pick up with a smile. Very quickly I realize that the boyfriend is super drunk, even though you know he claims, "I'm just a little drunk." This is how the rest of the conversation goes:
"So, how's hanging out with [friend]?"
"Good. [Other friend] might be coming over too. He heard about the sex," he drunkenly slurred.
I chuckled and said, "Wait, what?"
"Yeah, I slept with [friend] and [other friend] wants to hang out."
Quickly realizing this might not be a joke, "Seriously? You slept with [friend]?"
"Yeah."
"WHAT?! WHY?! HOW COULD YOU!?" (So angry. So so angry.)
"I dunno, it just happened. Sorry."
"WTF DO YOU MEAN SORRY. UGH. I don't even..." *hangs up*
At this point, I start walking quickly back to the club, determined to snag a cute boy (or five) as a sort of "HAH SCREW YOU" in response to the above phone conversation. I'm panicky, angry, sad, and confused. In my mind I'm thinking about how this relationship could be fixed (which I determine it can't) and simultaneously, how quickly I can rebound. As I get closer to the club entrance again, I am able to discern that this is a dream and wake myself up from it. I wake up scared, with my heart racing. Then I proceed to grab my phone and text my boyfriend about this crazy dream I had.
Have you ever dreamed about a significant other cheating on you? How did you react?
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It's really sad, but I've had a dream or two about my boyfriend cheating on me, and I wake up absolutely livid with him. I'm sorry to say that sometimes, I even snap at the real him because of what his dream version did :(
No. When I was with my ex, I kept dreaming of me about to cheat on her. Other women would get really close to me and I always end up pushing them away. So many times I'd be close to having sex with them and I always end up rejecting them in my dream. Now, I will sometimes dream of having sex with my ex, or just holding her hand. It sucks, but I just try and shake it off and not think too much of it.
I dreamt of my ex cheating on me and I told him about the dream. He looked at me confused and said that this was so weird. Then he reassured me that it would never happen, that he wouldn't turn into a douchebag and cheat on someone who loved him so much. Months later, he did. I still dream of him, but they're usually nightmares now. I've had so many that I can't remember them all. He doesn't just haunt me in the day, he's also in my head when I'm supposed to be resting too. I wish there was a way that I could just stop thinking about it.
I have never had dreams of others when I'm in a relationship. I also don't usually dream about my boyfriends. However, I sometimes dream about friends in a sexual manner and that is REALLY awkward when I wake up. But I just dismiss it as my friend is attractive, but it will never happen.
I don't think I've ever had dreams about my exes cheating. But I know what their current SO's look like and my subconscious is quite a douchebag in that area. I've dreamt about
Thembeing together and I wake up like "WTF?" and feeling quite sick. When I dream about my first ex now though, It's random and weird. And it's always him back in the days of when we first met. The person I loved. Then I remember how he is now (a cynical asshole) and all the feelings go away when I realize I could've ended up Mrs. Hates Life. :D
It happened to me 3 or 4 times. I always woke up crying and pushing my
(then) boyfriend away when he tried to hug me.
I had a horrible dream once after my first S/O and I had gotten back together after a brief breakup, during which he had dated another girl. In the dream, we were sitting in a car and he told me that he had dated multiple girls during that time and was still dating multiple girls now. I was freaking out when I woke up and I couldn't get it out of my mind. It was the worst feeling, I felt sick for days.
Its an awful feeling I can relate to. I went through a rough patch with an ex that lasted way too long and during that time, had many nightmares. One stood out from the rest which basically involved him making out with his ex, unaware that I was watching but she was and after they finished she looked straight at me and smirked. I then broke up with him through text, and for a few days he tried sweet talking me back to him but I couldn't get over how sick I felt in the dream. It all felt so real that I really thought I had indeed broken up with him when I woke.
Ironically, he had dogged me in front of her in real life before, and has pummeled my self esteem to the ground on various occasions. Pretty disconcerting as well how he makes sugar coated (and rather compeling, much to my chagrin) arguments in real life exactly like in the dream. In some sense, he was lying to me about a lot of things (such as how a former fling of his stayed the night at his and when I confronted him before, he denied she was even with him) during the relationship. I don't know if he had cheated or not but I decided to stop wondering and broke it off eventually.