Monday, 15 August 2011
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The Pull Out Method is NOT a Method
The Pull-Out Method. I don’t even know how this method got the title of being a method. This does not work, obviously, yet it is referred to as a preventive method of not getting pregnant.
How so?
The other night I was fooling around with my guy and we were about to start having sex, however he just decided to enter me without a condom. I stopped him, and he said, “Don’t worry, I can control it”.
Sorry, but that doesn’t cut it. 1) No, you can’t. 2) Even if you could, why take such a big risk? 3) What is it with guys that insist on using this “method”?
Anyways, I objected and told him that I don’t want to risk any chances. He insisted again until he finally gave in and I asked him myself. Why are you so persistent? Do you like the risk?
He said no immediately trying to brush it off, but he didn’t have me convinced for some reason. Call me crazy, but for a split second, I almost believed he wanted to get me knocked up.
I know this isn’t true. It can’t be true. I refuse to believe that it would be true, but for a moment, I had a small doubt in my mind.
My guy isn’t the typical “oh it just feels so much better without a condom” guy nor is he the “I don’t really care what happens to you kind of guy”, but he is the “hopeless romantic possibly baby making kind of guy”?
I still don’t understand why so many couples take this so nonchalantly sometimes. You could easily reroute the course of your life with this “method”.
I have had friends that have made the mistake of not wearing real protection, and have paid a consequence for it. Does the act of sex maybe sometimes cloud your judgment?
My friend Kelly* practiced this method and ended up having to get an abortion afterwards. She swore that she would never let it happen again, but she said that at the time it was as if it didn’t really matter.
I simply don’t understand how something so life changing could not be of importance to the person whose life could change as a result of it. I know that at times you can get lost in a person due to love, but if I were a man I wouldn’t need to be reminded twice to put on a rubber.
What is so attractive about it? Is running a risk while you’re having fun what drives couples to commit this sex crime? Or is it sheer laziness?
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IF IT WORKS IN IRAQ, IT SHOULD WORK IN THE BEDROOM *pounds fist on table*
I've done that with my girlfriend. I actually insisted on wearing condoms and she was the one that didn't care (maybe her being Catholic had something to do with that). But, from here on out, I will always plan to wear protection (unless I have the intent of creating another life, which won't be for a bit until after I'm married).
Well, it does work after the guy has a vasectomy...
Yes, sex feels better (for both parties, I understand) when it is flesh against flesh, but you have also hit on a truth there. I know, for me, a few times when my wife let her pill run out, and it had been a few days, I talked her into having sex anyway, and the possibility she could get pregnant made it more exciting, for me, at least.
I also heard a study discussed where, among gay men a large percentage admitted to having unprotected sex, saying that the danger (risk of getting HIV/AIDS or, I suppose, another STD) madethe sex more exciting.
@QuantumStorm@xanga - OMG THIS WAS THE BEST COMMENT EVERRRR.
But the Catholics swear by this and the calendars! You're telling me they're lying!?!?!?!?!?!
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@QuantumStorm@xanga - LOL XD
Yes, it is a method, but not one I or most others would recommend using alone if you're adamant on being childfree in your immediate future. Just as any other method, it has its typical use rates (the ones that are inconsistent use, like sometimes not pulling out), its perfect use rates (calculated control and consistence), and its risks. If people are willing to accept those risks, as they would with any other birth control, they can do whatever they want.
I usually advocate for pulling out more than my boyfriend does -- obviously I ask if he's okay with it -- because I time it with the Fertility Awareness Method within the days following ovulation so they're the least likely days to get pregnant. Egg is gone, period is close to starting, a bit of spillage is usually fine but has yet to occur in our case. More often than not, he'll want to put a condom on half way through anyway since it's less messy. It does feel way better skin on skin though.
@JEDIJESSICUH@xanga - Not to be picky, but if he stopped pulling out, then you weren't really using the pull-out method. It wasn't the pull-out method that failed, it was him not being careful, or something. That being said, it is true that the pull-out method is not really a method at all.
I think a lot of times, maybe guys just don't understand that it doesn't really work. It works in theory, but theory isn't reality. I've realized that more often then not, when it comes to sex, guys don't think in terms of reality.
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to be blunt; he likes feeling the woman's juices. that's what my guy told me. of course I wouldn't go along with this method. he just straight up told me that it makes him turned on upon contact of her juices because her being very wet is a signal that she is very turned on by him and that turns him on.
@JEDIJESSICUH@xanga - I am aware of that, and I wasn't saying that it's not a method at all, just emphasizing that it's not as effective, and if someone actually wants a method that is dependable, there are other options. I was less concerned with whether or not it was a method and more concerned with the fact that by your husband no longer pulling out, it wasn't the method that failed, which I now see in another reply that you were saying it worked until then, sorry that's not how it came across.
She'd better have had a hysterectomy if she wants me to do it without a condom. Until I'm ready to have a baby that is.
Condoms suck, abortions feel much better. :P TROLLLOLOLOLLLLL
but in all seriousness, condoms really do suck.
@LoBornlytesThoughtPalace@xanga - Uh huh. Uh huh. Does the Bible teach you to steal fitness instructors' pictures and pretend to be them, too? ;)
Sex does cloud judgment. And humans are psychologically made to look for a 'mate,' aka, someone to make children with. Whether or not he realizes that or wants a child now, humans are innately built with a subconscious desire to procreate.
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Some people just really don't get it. Or they figure that because they haven't gotten anyone pregnant yet that it must be working. It's honestly just luck. You absolutely can still get pregnant even after pulling out so why take the chance? Also there is the fact that some people have little to no proper sex education or the people that taught them about it were just as misinformed. My boyfriends parents are like that. He basically learned about what he knows from porn and some of school. Which is clearly not enough. Some of his friends are just as misinformed. One of them told me he could "control" it too. I called bullshit and had to actually explain to him why that does not hold true and he was still confused.
@LoBornlytesThoughtPalace@xanga - Ironically, you're being bigoted. Go steal some other physical trainers' pictures and write blogs about how to be fit, won't ya? ;)
@LoBornlytesThoughtPalace@xanga - Yeah, so what are you doing here, Denise Paglia wannabe? Do you see anything in this post about stealing other people's identities? No? Me neither.
I used the Pull Out method with my ex for over a year.
* GOD it felt good *
It's risky, but if we had a baby I would have been ok with it.
I only do girls that I could see myself in a relationship with.
@LoBornlytesThoughtPalace@xanga - What are you going to do next? Going on about how Christianity created the whole Western culture? Predictable.
You think you're very good at re-directing the subject, hence, make yourself seem knowledgeable. But open your eyes, it's evident that no one is listening to you. You're in no position to preach about religions when you, yourself, are hardly an upright martyr, and have many times stolen someone else's pictures and lived a lie.
Why's that? Ashamed by your religion? Don't go around and put God to shame because the Bible never teaches anyone to be pretentious, stealing, lying, and opinionated.
@LoBornlytesThoughtPalace@xanga - Likewise, what I do and why I do it is my business only. If you can't be criticized for falsely posing as someone else, then feel free to ignore my jokes.
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