Saturday, 13 August 2011
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I Reek of Boyfriend: Can You Tell If Someone Is In a Relationship?
One of my "less-remembered" stories from college involved me meeting these guys at a pizza place with two of my friends, going back to their house to eat more pizza, and then staying up with them until the early morning playing video games and watching YouTube videos. Nothing too crazy going on there, I swear.
I told my R.O.B. about that night the morning after. He wasn't annoyed/jealous/mad about it, but he did jokingly say, "didn't you realize they were just hitting on you? And were trying to entice you to go back to their house with the promise of more pizza?"
"They weren't hitting on us. Anyway, they wouldn't try anything on me. I reek of boyfriend."
"You REEK of boyfriend?! Do you think I smell bad?!"
"NO! I just mean that people are usually right in guessing that I'm in a relationship."
Like I've previously said, I always listen to my gut, and sometimes I am spot on at guessing what someone's relationship status is after meeting them for the first time. They may not say anything about their current situations, but I just get a feeling that grows stronger and stronger the more I talk to them.
When they confirm my assumptions (yes, yes, I know I shouldn't make assumptions about people, but I like playing those games with myself), I get that awesome "I knew it!" feeling.
Lately I've been wondering if people do the same with me when they meet me. I actually feel like I haven't really been single for too long since I started dating, and just assume everyone will know I'm in a relationship. Do I give off a certain "I'm taken!" vibe, or do I come off as having an entirely cryptic past?
Are there ways to tell if people are in relationships without them mentioning anything about dating, sex, or their current/former SOs? Have you been successful at guessing someone's dating status just by a single conversation?
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- From: dangelb
- About Me: My name means "daybreak" and I'm usually awake to watch the sunrise every morning. I'm a college student, obsessive tea drinker, and contemporary dancer. My first love was the piano before I learned how to love people. I love my R.O.B.--Really Outstanding Boyfriend--who gets just as excited as I do over antique books, soft-baked cookies, and Sporcle.
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Well unless you have good insight, you can normally pick it up on how they revere themselves in the conversation or how they feel. all in all i am normally hit or miss with that sorta thing.
lol at "do you think i smell bad?"
I don't really know you, but I know that I, personally, reek of being taken. Haha. I've been with my now husband since I was 15 and he was my brother's best friend. I guess I never learned that single girl swag. Haha. I was actually talking out loud to my brother one day (after my now husband and I had been together for about a year), and I was saying that all of my friends had guys hitting on them left and right, but I had never even had a guy ask for my number (I even asked my now husband for his number....lol). He said it was because I had "TAKEN" written on my forehead. Six years later with a new record of only two guys ever asking for my number and/or flirting with me before finding out I'm married (yes, SERIOUSLY, and no, I don't always wear my ring too often because of school and fear of losing it so that's not the reason), I have come to the conclusion that either he was right or I'm REALLY ugly and somehow oblivious to that fact. I choose option number one.
I guess some people are really easy to read or especially when you first get into a relationship it's pretty obvious. Most people don't know I have a boyfriend until I literally mention it. But I've been with him for 6 years so he has become subconscious in my life to the point where I don't mention him unless he needs to be mentioned. I don't like to sit around talking about the people I love or care about.
It's hit or miss with some people. Sometimes I can, and sometimes not.
Maybe you can read microexpressions.
I wish I reeked of boyfriend. Then I could go out dancing alone without having to pretend I'm married (I usually go with my boyfriend so he can fend them off, and I'd go with friends but most of them are usually busy on Saturday nights). And sometimes, apparently a big-ass diamond ring doesn't do the trick... too subtle for some dudes.
When I'm in a relationship, I am more withdrawn and I don't really open the conversation up more to suggestive hang outs or lunch dates.
I miss subtleties with guys whether they are in relationships or not, but if they talk to me really often about random things, it means they like me and they aren't in a relationship. That's just the way I see it. I tend to lose my really close guy friends whenever I'm in a relationship because of boyfriends. So lame.
I don't think I reek of boyfriend when I'm around people who don't already know I have a boyfriend. Example: I left my old job and when I started my new job nobody knew I had a boyfriend until I was working there for the first few months. I see my boyfriend pretty much everyday and when I hang out with my best friend we, for the majority of the time, talk about our boyfriends. So at work I don't really talk about him because its nice to have that time in my life where I'm not focused on him. Also, most people don't give two shits about your boyfriend anyway.
I get hit on more when I'm in a relationship.
I give off a socially awkward vibe