You would find common interests as a great place to start when getting into a relationship; what kind of music do they like, what kind of foods do they like to eat, what passions do they follow through with. One of the things I want to talk and ask about is the person in question's political party affiliation. It's great for two liberals or two conservatives to date because they would agree on a lot of the issues at hand.
But, would a liberal and conservative mixture ever work? You have a good mix up of debating and plenty to talk about. However, depending on how passionate the two are, things can sometimes get out of control and cause fights. It usually isn't as black and white as that, though. There are instances where you an get along great when participating in other activities and discussions besides politics.
But what happens when politics do come up? Would politics have to be handled the same way as religion? Keep it to one self? Sometimes, religion can go hand-in-hand with their political views. In my past relationships, all the girlfriends had the same ideals as me (liberal). My first serious girlfriend was more agnostic and would keep up on current events (which got me to read more into current events and what is happening to our futures). My second girlfriend was Catholic and never discussed politics (the furthest we went into politics was saying we both voted for Barack Obama). The third was Catholic, but had liberal tendencies.
Other than talking about gay marriage, we merely just kept our politics hidden. I feel that this would be the appropriate measure to go with if you both know that politics can rile up your relationship.
What about you guys? In your relationship, do you keep politics to yourself? What happens if you found someone you got along with, but have your political views on opposite ends of the spectrum? Would you still consider dating them?
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I would if, like you said, it is never brought up. Â The last thing I want though is for said girl to try to convert me to her political viewpoints as a condition of being in a relationship.
With me I would tell them straight up about my political views , and if he had differnces that would be fine with me. Because we both can't be alike completely that would be boring Cx. So I don't think I wouldn't date him just because he had a different view . Now there's that, but if he's way to obbessed with his views and he's to much about it . Then no I would not date him C:
lm not into politics and could care less about it all. im one for ignorance is bliss kinda deal. though i did find my political science class interesting, i hated how politics are so fucked up. theres just no winning. the only way politics could end my interest in a guy is if a) he was obsessed with politics b) he wasnt pro choice which in itself is a life thing and shouldnt be a political thing to begin with or c) he nags on me about my views or lack of interest in todays happenings.
Not really. I guess it depends on the people involved but I think if they are overly obsessed with it and are the type of people that don't care for any other view point than their own..then I see a problem.
But other than that..I don't see why a relationship should be hampered by political leanings.
No we don't. We have differing opinions but we are both loving adults and we can talk about it civilly. No, only the way a person handles their projection of opinions would make me shy away.
My ex and I had some differing political opinions, but I think the
amount of passion towards politics makes a difference too. He was a
political science major and constantly berated me for not knowing as
much about politics as he did, and he once full on lectured me for
having Google as my internet homepage, instead of Yahoo (so I could see
current news displayed every time I opened my browser). He was so
obsessed with politics that it was too much - and I'm not ignorant of
politics, I keep up with issues and vote in elections. Also, when there were differences of opinion, there was no "civil discussion" or "agreeing to disagree" - I was, according to him, an "idiot," whenever my opinion differed from his. However, of the two, I would say
religion was the far bigger problem between us.
I'm more conservative than my husband is, definitely, but it doesn't affect our relationship because we don't talk about politics.
Uh...depends on your career and how relevant politics is to your daily life. For example, a year ago I wouldn't have cared about my SO's political beliefs. Now I have to care because I'm pre-law and law and politics go hand in hand. My whole life will involve politics from here on out, and I sure don't have time to worry about stepping on my SO's toes after working 12+ hours a day.
i'm very politically active, so it'd be hard for me to be in a relationship where we couldn't talk about politics. i'm liberal and would never date a conservative.
I don't understand why people feel the need to pick a side. Why can't people just be and act independently and make up their own minds on the issues rather than looking to political figures to choose for them. Be your own person.
Political differences shouldn't be an issue if there's two rational, mature individuals in the relationship. There should be room for understanding and compromise. If your not capable of either of those, then you don't belong in a relationship, period.
Political views though are a reflection of personal views, and I personally believe it's important to have that conversation BEFORE YOU GET INTO THE RELATIONSHIP!
I definitely know that my current SO and I share different thoughts on a lot of political issues. I am a very passionate person when it comes to things that I have firmly set my beliefs in (funding for developmentally disabled children and parents... welfare... etc.) and I do not mind debating at all, as long as the other person is respectful of my views. I will take anyone's opinion and views into consideration and try to see where they are coming from, even if I know in my heart, I will never be able to fully believe in things the way they do. I only ask for the same respect.. and not ignorance while talking about these issues, and that is something that my partner and I have with each other. We know how to be respectful towards one another when approaching serious and sensitive situations, and we always talk out our differences if one person gets more heated. Something like this is not enough to ruin our relationship because we are two different people, and the world would be boring if we only were around people who believed in everything the same as us.
I think that a lot of other people have not found their true values and beliefs to stick with them firm enough and there are also a lot of people who just can't handle that other people will have different opinions from them and that's when trouble arises. Anyone can overcome issues and be in a relationship, it all depends on how much they want it, and how they want to work through it.
as long as he isn't an extremist and would go into bitchfits of rage, or starts drama due to politics, then I'm okay possibly dating him considering other important factors.
Never, ever, mix politics and a relationship. Doesn't help things at all, and can aggravate existing problems...
My boyfriend is extremely into politics (that's his major in college), and I know didili-squat. I learn from him though. Sometimes I wish he would just cool it though, because he can get very worked up over it.
We're both pretty liberal though and usually I agree with most of what he's saying. It probably disappoints him though that I don't take such an interest in it as he does.
Political views have a lot to do with moral convictions, which are important to me. But I'm an independent and agree with different sides on different issues, and on some issues I agree with neither. So it'd be hard to find someone with the same views as me.