Friday, 12 August 2011
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For God's Sake, EAT On A Date!
I can't stand when girls refuse to eat on a date. Look, I'm not saying order like you're on death row. I'm just not understanding why a salad and some oxygen is considered to be standard for some insecure girls.
There's a hilarious YouTube skit that shows four guys imitating their girlfriends' eating habits. One says, "I'm not going to eat because I actually digested a huge gust of wind for breakfast."
Every guy I've ever met has always loved the fact that I eat ten times a day. It shows that you have enough confidence in yourself to show a new dating partner that you can actually get the nourishment necessary to live.Constantly telling a guy that you're watching your weight or can't cheat on your diet isn't making you seem any better, either. Especially if you're thin, you just look like you're obsessed with your weight in a really unhealthy way. If you were in a pool with the guy, you'd swim, right? But chances are you're at a restaurant...so eat.
Now, I can and would never speak about girls who are anorexic. That is a disease of the mind that needs treatment to prevent the continuing malnourishment of the body. It's the girls who pretend to be anorexic that piss me off. Chances are they're just going to go home and stuff their faces anyway, and understandably so, since they starved themselves at dinnertime.
I speak this way because I was one of those girls. I've ordered the salad and the water so that guys would think I was dainty. And then I realized I am dainty and I didn't need to torture myself with leaves to prove that.I recently went out with a group of new friends and was shocked to see how many salads were ordered! When I inquired as to why they weren't getting meat or fish dishes, one told me that she was a vegetarian and the other two said they were simply in the mood for a salad. Are those words that I've ever uttered in my life? No. But I respect their ordering choices because they didn't do it to appear cute or skinny; they did it for themselves.
Conclusion? Eat on dates. Don't order a salad unless you actually like salad (like a Cobb or awesome grilled chicken kind). Show a guy you're a human. Chances are he won't run away. And, if he does, he's a loser who has his own body image issues.
Happy dating (and eating!).Do you order salads and Diet Cokes/waters just to seem skinny on a date? Why or why not?
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- From: Jenn
- About Me: I have been on more bad dates than I have fingers and toes to count on -- and I'm only in my early twenties! I laugh when I watch 'Sex & the City,' because I've had so many dysfunctional relationships that they might as well as made me their 5th friend. Even so, I used to love going on dates with different guys (now I only let one guy take me out on dates), eating great food, and talking on the phone until 3AM. I never did get over the idea that a guy should treat a girl like a princess -- even if I've encountered one too many frogs.
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Hmm. Honestly I hate eating in front of people esp. new to me. I'd have to constanty worry if there was sauce on my face etc. Also I hate ordering food in which there is left over (like pasta). And burgers and sanwhichs can get so messy. Gourmet salads are big, filling and not so bad but I definately get what your saying with this post.
@scribbles - completely understandable, it can be seen as you're sloppy and don't care who you are with. but it can also be seen as you are comfortable with who you are eating with as well.
its a double edge sword no doubt, but people who mind, don't matter and people who matter, don't mind.
Forive my use of caplocks:
DUDE IT DOESN'T MATTER, IF I SMELL THE DELICIOUSNESS INSIDE THE KITCHEN IT'S ALL OVER. NOMNOM.
But seriously, the only time I ever did this was when I wasn't in the right state of mind. Now I eat a salad at a resurant, but only WITH my main course...and because I want to feel remotly healthy for scarfing down all the beef ribs/chicken, etc. :P (And because I never eat enough greens).
In the end, I hear about this..but didn't realize that people seriously do this. EAT GODDAMN, IF HE DOESN'T LIKE IT, HE CAN GO FRAK HIMSELF.
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Sometimes I order salads because I haven't eaten anything vaguely green all day, but then I always feel like I'm trying to "put on airs" and I hate it. I don't think guys care WHAT you eat, they care HOW you eat it. You can order a tiny salad and eat like a pig, and you will still look gross.
I also don't get this either. Most girls I know will only drink water...ugh. I went on a date with one girl who wasn't afraid to slam down a couple beers though.
Actually Jenn's method could be potentially healthier. I'm not entirely sure about eating 10 ten times a day but having five small meals over the course of the day keeps your metabolism going and you lose weight, probably more so than just that salad and diet coke at dinner.
I've had a few bizarre experiences with female friends/acquaintances and them eating at a restaurant. One woman ate only salad while she was out and said she was a vegetarian...Then she chomped down a steak tip when she got home? Evidently only a vegetarian when it was convenient for her. Another woman kept prodding me for eating "too slow". I guess my jaw's rhythm and speed wasn't up to hers and I had lost the human vacuum competition.
This was a great post. I order salads not to keep fit or anything, I just really like eating 'em LOL so many types of salads out there.
well i for one am picky about food. so i tend to eat very little when i go to places.
can you make a link to the youtube videos?
Amen! I'm sick to death of feeling like a pig because every other girlfriend is eating a tiny portion of food or ordering a salad.
Didn't Datingish already post this?
-Katie
if i want to order a salad, i will order a damn salad. i don't care what any boy thinks.
I love salads..so I'll order one if I want to. Guys like it when you eat. One time I had Ribs at Chilis and my ex was staring at me, I'm thinking wow he thinks I'm super gross. When we finished our meals he said, verbatim "I think I have a boner now from you eating ribs." Yep. Boys are weird.
i actually like this post of yours. =) amazing. umm, when i go on dates, i eat whatever sounds good. be it chicken fried steak or a burger, whatever! ive never ordered a salad or diet coke on a date unless it came with it or was a ceasar salad with chicken of course lol. i always warn the guy im messy as hell too. no ones complained yet! =D
OMG, something I actually agree with you on! I don't care who I'm with, I'll chow down if I'm hungry. In fact, both my guy and I pig out with each other and we're fine with it. I eat buffets with my guy friends all the time. I don't care and they don't care what I eat.
xanga really needs to start posting the authors with the title of the blogs when they're featured; i get so tired of reading your blogs, and i usually don't realize it until i've already started, and each time, i get you a fresh new chance to proove you aren't shallow, and each time you proove me wrong again. just because YOU can eat 10 times a day, doesn't mean, for every single body type, that all women can. i'm blessed with the love of running, so if i eat more than i should, it doesn't matter as much, where as my sister can't eat 1/2 a snickers without gaining a couple of pounds. in today's society, let women worry about their weight, because if they don't they'll just become another unhealthy, obese american pig. i eat what sounds good, until i'm satisfied, and if that means 6 bites, that means 6 bites. who are you to judge everybody else, and set this standard to you?
for me, i just try to avoid eating certain food for practical reasons. like crabs which are messy to eat, chewy meat which easily gets stuck in my teeth, and too many onions which gives you bad breath! haha..
Totally agree. I love all fruits and veggies and meats and whatever is out there. Salads are supposed to either be an appetizer or a side dish, NOT a meal. The only people I would understand ordering salads are the people who struggle with their finances and might not be able to spend that much on a meal (if they're at a decent restaurant.)
It's funny, but when I'm with my friends at a restaurant, we order TONS of food to go around. This is how REAL women eat: to their fill! If you're on a diet, then you're not just eating the right food, but you're eating enough food to keep you alive, well and functioning, and you're exercising. The "I'm on a diet so I eat a measly salad" girls need to learn this and thus enjoy their foodz :)
I've ordered a salad on dates before, never because I wanted them to think I was dainty, but because I either really wanted a salad (that shit's delicious) or because I was super nervous and felt it was the only thing I could handle. When you're super nervous, an entree is too complicated.
Just because someone doesn't order a big sloppy hamburger doesn't mean they're 'insecure'. Who cares what someone else eats? And yeah I suppose "REAL" women are also obsese... excuse me I mean "curvy'' and thin women are idiots and aren't "REAL". If someone actually told me they had an issue with what I was eating on a date I'd throw the shit in their face. I don't need to gorge myself and be a slob to get a guy to like me...I don't know about you....