Friday, 12 August 2011
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End of Summer Romances
Quickly and bitterly the sweetness of my summer love is expiring. As cheesy as it sounds, I can even feel it in the air. The air is not as damp and hot as it used to be. It’s now becoming crisper and cooler, alerting me that summer is ending soon and autumn is around the corner meaning that it’s that time of year again.
It’s the time of year to go back to school. It means that this romance has had its run. I am not ready for it. Usually I am not the type of person who can’t move on from things no matter what (I’ve had enough practice to train myself). But this time it’s different. This time I’m in love, and I feel like I’m preparing to hold my breath for a really long time.
I don’t want to let go and say goodbye! I don’t want to go back to my world of gray where everything was faded, and every day blended in with the next. I want the excitement to stay alive. I don’t know what I am supposed to do. He leaves for Cali in September, and returns to Spain in October (permanently).
Why do all good things come to an end?
I don’t even know how I’m going to get through it. I just know it’s going to be rough. Rule number one I’ve learned from this is that you should monitor how often you see someone. The second it becomes a daily thing, you’ve turned it into a necessity and it becomes like a drug, and you become dependent which is what I am.
I think the hardest part for me will be realizing that I have to go back to the same batch of guys at my school that are never right for me. I’ve always felt so unfit when it came to the guys that I’ve dated, and now that I’ve found this person who only makes me feel at ease, I have no other choice, but to lose that.
I feel like I’m getting ready to be sick. It's as if by knowing that this end is hanging over my head, I can’t feel 100% right.
Part of me wants to get it over with already, just rip it off like a band-aid, so the pain can be over quicker. However, the other part knows that no matter how quickly I get it over with, the sadness will still endure for a while. The second part also knows that all I want to do is prolong it as much as possible.
Have you ever fallen in love with what started out as a fling? How do you prepare yourself for an ending you’re not ready to have? What is the best way to ease yourself into the separation?
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- About Me: Born and raised in NYC, I am about to be a senior in college, and still feel clueless about exactly what I'm going to do after I graduate. For most of my life, I haven't been involved in anything too serious except for one relationship 2 years ago and one that is progressively getting serious now. Dating can be really exciting or extremely stressful sometimes, I'm excited to try and unblur (just coined a new word) the fine lines between the two here on this site. =)
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This sounds like you aren't specifically in love with him, just in love with being in love.
Particularly because of this part: "I think the hardest part for me will be realizing that I have to go back to the same batch of guys at my school that are never right for me."
I didn't want my LDR to end so I moved to live with him. I know that's not a possibility for everyone, but other than that I've never had to prepare for any sort of ending that I didn't want.
I went on a date in February expecting it to be a casual thing, but we ended up dating and being pretty serious. From the beginning we knew that we would be splitting up in the fall because we were going away to different colleges. I fell in love anyways.
What you said in this part couldn't have been more true as fall approached: "Part of me wants to get it over with already, just rip it off like a band-aid, so the pain can be over quicker. However, the other part knows that no matter how quickly I get it over with, the sadness will still endure for a while. The second part also knows that all I want to do is prolong it as much as possible"
Saying goodbye was the absolute worst feeling. I don't what's gonna happen from here. But you're not the only one going through this! Best of luck :)
Wow someone knows my pain! About 2 years ago I started dating a senior when I was a junior. From the second we started dating he told me that he didn't want to continue dating me in college because he wanted to be single. Since it was my first relationship/fling I decided I didn't care and was going to enjoy it while it lasted...well I had an amazing time while it lasted for about 9 months but when it ended...it ended. He went off to college, we talked maybe 3 times since and he found a new girl. I ended up really liking him. Our relationship/fling may have not lasted more than a year but he had a very deep affect on me ;(
I had to take 8-9 months off of school beause i got "sick" and around that same time i met a guy and we became fast friends over time.
Then he tells me he fancies me.And I like himBut we had 3 weeks left of me in town, since he can't leave the county.Now we have 2 weeks left.I'm going to miss him something ferice.Why does it have to end after summer's over? I had something that started out as a fling, not during the summer though, but during the beginning of the year almost two years ago. He's moved 4 1/2 hoursish away this past summer. Just because he moved didn't mean it stopped there. I in fact for the past 3 weekends went up to visit him at his new place, and he came home a couple of weekends, too.
However, to pass the time, I busy myself with work or browsing the Internet, etc. We talk to each other every day, too so that helps to continue the LDR.
This is exactly my situation. I just got out of a long term relationship, and so did he, and we both agreed to something fun that wasnt serious, but kind of ended up being pretty emotional. If we both hadn't been in these relationships, and our fall schedules completely clashing, i feel like we'd stay together.
It's a sad goodbye
@thisiswhereItellyoueverything@xanga -Agreed.
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If someone cares enough, then they won't give up.
Unless this was pre-decided to break up before hand..then there's no excuse.