Tuesday, 09 August 2011
I don’t know how I feel about this following story. My friend Kelly* and her boyfriend Mark* went to her annual family camping trip to the mountains recently. As she was describing it to me, she stumbled onto a part of the story that was negligent to her, but as soon as I heard it, I had to put her story on pause.
During the trip they stay in cabins, all the women stay in one and all the men stay in another. Now, I know this can be a very cute idea, but at the same time many of these family members are married with kids etc…. However, even the married couples do not get a room of their own. As you can expect, my friend who is unmarried, was definitely separated from her boyfriend too.
When I asked her why this was always the tradition to divide the family up this way, she told me it was because of respect. Respect for her older family members (aunts and uncles) who still live in their conservative ways.
Okay, my friend is only twenty-one so I do understand that in this day in age we still might want our kids to be in separate rooms; they’re still very young blah blah blah. The whole idea regarding sexual intimacy of: “if I don’t see it, it doesn’t happen,” but when you’re around me you’re still going to pretend it doesn’t happen.
However, I think it’s a bit much to still separate married couples, isn’t it?
I think in the year 2011, it shouldn’t really matter how conservative auntie is, if you are married and have created a life for yourself, auntie should get over it. Obviously, I didn’t say any of this to my friend, but I definitely thought it. It was just shocking to me, shocking that this rule existed, and shocking that the family obeyed it.
It’s like this boundary of hush hush, yes we know you are together, but we don’t need it to be out in the open. Why should it be kept so hidden? In my opinion it should be embraced, not ignored. It seems so much more childish. I just find it to be more awkward that her family separates everyone like everyone is living in another decade. I think it would be less uncomfortable if everyone simply respected everyone's personal life.
Maybe it’s just me, and perhaps the family likes their tradition that way, and if that’s the case, then more power to them, but to that is just plain insane.
So what do you think? Are they insane in the membrane or is this acceptable? Am I making a big deal over nothing?