Sunday, 07 August 2011
I usually get attacked or criticized for being my usual confident self. But, the thing is, I'm not really sure why everyone has such a problem with confidence. When I meet someone who is happy with how they look or who they are, I take an instant liking to them.
Some of my "fans" left comments inquiring whether or not I get angry when negativity and anger is aimed at me. The answer to that question is "no." My mother always told me that when someone is trying to pick a fight with me, I should walk the other way.
In this case, I simply click the other way. Because there are always going to be people who dislike you and there are always going to be people who don't necessarily dislike you, but they have such self-loathing that they project their hatred onto you because...you're there.
This, my friends and frenemies, should never hinder your confidence. Lady Gaga bans ice from her concerts because she's afraid crazed people will throw it at her. Does she stop her career? No! She gets crazier! I relate to her oh so much, fans.
I find this exact confidence to be an insanely attractive quality on both a guy and a girl (hmm, maybe that's why I love myself so much? ;)). I'm not saying someone has to kiss their mirror or anything (although I am totally guilty of this), but it's nice to see someone who appreciates and takes care of themselves.
I would take someone constantly speaking highly of themselves over someone always complaining about the way they look, eat, suck, any day of the week.
The fact that the word confidence is so often substituted for a different, less positive word – cockiness – is baffling to me. If you look good in a new dress or hair cut, is it so wrong to say so? According to most people it is.
But tell me, why is complimenting a new car considered to be different and more acceptable?
Look, I've been on the other side of the railroad tracks. I have the mild scoliosis to prove it. I have to work on holding my back as straight up as my personality would suggest it should be every day. I know what it was like to feel like an outcast and uncool and "unpretty."
But one day you just have to snap out of it, and instead of hating on yourself and everyone who you consider to be better than you, work on fixing your confidence level. Smile a little more, walk in the sun, treat yourself to a spa treatment and an ice cream cone.
You will feel better about yourself, your life, and those in it (personally and virtually). Remember, me being pretty and confident does not make you feel bad about yourself – that is all on you, my friend.
Do you view confidence as cockiness? Why or why not?