Sunday, 07 August 2011
Sometimes I think PDA can be really sweet. For instance, when you see a couple hug or caress each other in a delicate way.
However, when people are dry humping on the floor, having a way too intense make out session on the subway or grabbing at each other’s parts in public places, it’s just perverse and gross. Like, can’t you be a little respectful to the people around you? We have a right to not being obligated to see that, don’t we?
My god father used to tell me that I only didn't like PDA because I'd never been in love before.
I never agreed with him even though at the time I still hadn't been in love, but now I think I can say that I am more accepting of it. Even though in certain situations I still don't necessarily like it, I blame that primarily on my personality of wanting to keep things that are intimate intimate.
My friend Jessica* and her boyfriend Kyle* used to make out in front of me all the time. At first it was whatever, but eventually it got to the point where I would never hang out with them unless there was someone else besides me and them.
I was such a third wheel. I am not even exaggerating when I say that they could not keep their hands off each other.
It was like a never ending cycle of horniness.
I would be having a conversation with Jessica and she'd be talking with me while making out so her words would be muffled. It was a little ridiculous. I always felt the need to turn away or pretend to be interested in something else as a distraction, but in reality I always felt so uncomfortable and regretted agreeing to hang out with them.
What I find funny is when some people respond to those who don't like PDA by saying, "well if you don't like it, you don't have to watch."
The problem with that is, if it’s going on I can't help it but to watch because they keep drawing attention to themselves. It’s like I am trying to avert my eyes, but they keep awkwardly falling back on to the PDA-ers, and when I do look away it’s with a deliberate effort. Why should I put so much work into looking away because you are so touchy feely?
As you can see I have very mixed feelings about the PDA. I do believe there is a line between acceptable and unacceptable, but sometimes it’s a little too blurry to define. Regardless, PDA is the big giveaway that you are more than friends with a person and that you don't care about showing it publicly.
What are your feelings on PDA? Are you as mixed as I am?