
In the age of Robert Pattinson, Blake Lively, Taylor Lautner, and Jennifer Lawrence, it's hard not to crush on attractive celebrities. (
Karen Gillan is my personal poison.) But the more I read about how obsessed some people are with celebrities, and how closely they tie their own identities to these people who they've never met, the more I'm reminded of an interesting study conducted on this very topic.
In 1980 Kenrick and Gutierres, researchers at the University of Montana, asked 81 male students to rate the attractiveness of a photographed woman. (Unknown to the students, the woman had been previously rated as having an average level of attractiveness.) Approximately half of the students rated the photograph after watching the television show "Charlie's Angels," and half rated the photo during the time the show was being aired.
The authors found that the men who rated the photo after watching the show reported the woman as being less attractive than did the men who were in the control condition. That is, simply watching a television show depicting unrealistically beautiful women negatively influenced men's ratings of another, average-looking woman.
Recognizing flaws in their design, Kenrick and Gutierres conducted two additional studies and found the same results. Thus, they concluded that their results were being driven by the contrast effect:
Looking at exceptionally beautiful women makes other women appear less attractive. Think about the implications of that for a moment.
Simply watching television can influence how attractive we find people around us. Of course, the contrast effect isn't limited to when we watch television. Magazines, websites, movies, and advertisements can have the same effect. How much more powerful, then, is the contrast effect when it's applied to more overt forms of physical exploitation?
Kenrick, Gutierres, and Goldberg (1987) conducted two studies to assess how erotica influences males' ratings of female attractiveness (and vice versa). The researchers simply asked participants who were in a live-in or marital relationship to rate the attractiveness of nude opposite-sex individuals and then rate aspects of their own relationship on an established scale.
Frighteningly, the researchers found that men (not women) who viewed the erotic images (vs. those who did not) said that they loved their partners less after viewing the pictures!Together these studies suggest that crushing on celebrities or viewing pornography can have a real, quantifiable, negative effect on our relationships with others. We begin to see people differently. They're not quite as attractive as they once were. What's worse, our love toward them may even be reduced, simply because we can't keep our eyes where they belong: on our partner and on him/her alone.
Now, I'm not trying to argue that the media controls our behavior, nor am I implying that these studies absolutely prove one thing or another. I'm merely pointing out the contrast effect to caution us: Wishing that Ryan Reynolds or Megan Fox would give you a call, or watching those erotic videos in your spare time, seems to be a relationship-altering waste of time. In fact, a better use of our time is to truly appreciate the people we already have in our lives.
Source: Kenrick, D. T., & Gutierres, S. E. (1980). Contrast effects and judgments of physical attractiveness: When beauty becomes a social problem. Journal of Personality and Social Psychology, 38(1), 131-140.
Source: Kenrick, D. T., Gutierres, S. E., & Goldberg, L. L. (1987). Influence of popular erotica on judgments of strangers and mates. Journal of Experimental Social Psychology, 25, 159-167.
Comments (9)
I get that people need to calm down with the Taylor Lautners and Mila Kunis's of the world. To immerse yourself in their lives beyond (yeah, (s)he's super hot and a decent actor) is silly at best.
But all I have to say is that if having a celebrity crush or even watching porn is enough to destabilize your relationship or MARRIAGE with someone, then there obviously were worse underlying problems in the first place with the relationship.
Basically, you only have yourselves and each other to blame for a relationship gone bad. Not Megan Fox.
@The_Aftershock_3650@xanga - Agreed.
@The_Aftershock_3650@xanga - Good point!
It annoys me tho to always hear girls crushing on celebrities and saying "i would let him have his way with me" all the time even tho they are taken. Then they get all cutsie when they see him on TV or in a movie as if it was a high school crush. You're standing there, thinking "REALLY?" as if you're never gonna be on par with a celebrity. If a girl says that to me, I'm just gonna walk away or rant off about so and so and go into details.
So basically only women are allowed to watch porn now, right?
Lol but on a more serious note, guys often choose partners based on what's available to him.
If you live in a place with tons of pretty girls, you're going to strive for a prettier girl who perhaps rates a 9/10.
If you live in a place with less attractive girls, you might be perfectly satisfied with a 7/10 because she's one of the prettiest girls there.
These studies are old news to me, but I'm pretty sure that being surrounded by REAL, attractive girls is potentially more damaging than being surrounded by images of perfect, photoshopped girls you've never seen in the flesh. There was some study about how if guys are in constant contact with very attractive women, his marriage is likely to be less stable? Something about how college professors apparently have very unstable marriages compared to engineers or lawyers, etc., and how this is an indication that having accessible, attractive women around guys makes them feel less satisfied with their partners.
I mean, makes sense, doesn't it? Most girls throw a fit if their boyfriend suddenly becomes friends with an uber sexy single girl who would rate 9/10 instead of freaking out over a billboard displaying a girl who's hands down 10/10.
I have celeb crushes on jude law, jensen ackles and pharrell williams amongst others, but my guy doesn't look like one of them-he is biracial and looks like a mix of them:D it is only unrealistic if the person can't find or get with a hottie. I wouldn't say that I'm demanding because I don't really go searching for anyone or want to change him into my ideal guy, he was just that way on his own. my guy found me, so I guess I'm attractive enough to attract other hotties.
You cited sources and actually made decently thought out, cohesive statements. /swoon
I like this article, but obviously, we can't escape the media. Sex is everywhere and good looking people are everywhere. I went to see The Change-Up last week, and when Olivia Wilde came on the screen, my self-esteem immediately went down because I know that my boyfriend thinks she is super hot. And let's face it, she is hotter than me. I also hate the idea of porn. However, there is something to be said for a real life connection. If that connection is there, I don't think seeing someone who is better looking should affect the way you see your SO.
I really like that you said "a better use of our time is to truly appreciate the people we already have in our lives. "
I agree %100.
But I would never choose the stereotypical "hot guy" over my boyfriend. Lol. Not even if I had the choice.