Friday, 05 August 2011
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The Game
I was at the gym, casually walking around after my 30 minute run on the treadmill. I spotted this really cute guy, we made eye contact few times, I briefly smiled at him and looked away. (Did I mention he was really cute? It got me nervous.) I contemplated talking to him. Yup, thought I'd make a move for once. But then it got me thinking; why these games? Why the awkward small talk?
Honestly, I really can't be bothered making the small talk with guys and giving subtle hints I'm interested. Also, I feel that if a girl approaches you at the gym it's a big green light. But then again maybe it's the fact that I can't flirt and have "no game." Nevertheless, I can hold a decent conversation with a guy as long as he reciprocates and it doesn't get awkward. All in all, what's the point of flirty small talk when the bottom line is "I'm interested"?
Now, I've read in a book and articles online that guys like the chase and the playful teasing. It gives them a sense of a challenge to putsue a girl. So maybe I just need to better "my game."
What do you think?
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I think I just lost.
Did you end up talking to him? How did it go?
The chase is fun. It's not about the destination, but the journey that matters. You can get a high school diploma, but it's what you did in high school that you remember. You can get a degree, but it's the college life that you should enjoy.
flirting and small talk is fun! it gets the ball rolling. i think it's just weird if someone walks up to me and says "i like you. let's go out." i'd rather we talked a little bit and see if we both can flirt our ways through to each other's minds/hearts.
Wow! I'm surprised I got posted. Sorry about the grammar/ spelling, did the post on a whim :$
@stanlee255@xanga - Nope! When I walked by a couple of times after, he was lifting weights. I plan on approaching him,if I see him around at the gym. I'm more of "Hey I'm interested and would like to get to know you better on date" kind of person but of course I never say that because it will creep the dude out. haha
Most guys like the 'chase' but that's a generalization in itself. It's more important to know what you want. Do you want to be chased? OR does it not really matter?
If the end state is the same...why bother with the games?
Just my 5 cents.
But...the chase is half the fun. :D
This is the third article in a row with the word "game" in it. Â Give it up, Datingish!
Silly woman.
You dont have to be able to flirt or know game.
That's what men are for.
We do just about everything in terms of dating most of the time in this so-called egalitarian society.
I would agree with you, why not just go out on a date, and then get to know him?
Oh but he might be a creeper, or a serial pedophile murder rapist.
Women usually seem to be turned off by the direct approach, so that's why us men have to play the game.
Sorry. You made it that way, not I.
i like it when a girl is flirty "in a seduction kind of way" not flirty "run away from him if he talks to you".
You know, she grazes your arm as she's talking...gives you strong eye contact, a little smile while her head is looking away but her eyes are looking at you ...
or gives a compliment but then maybe backs off a bit.
Example: JOAN from Mad Men...I like that.
Older women do that...why can't girls these days do that?
yes
@SlackerSociety@xanga - you have a point there, nice to hear the other side for once :P.
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Um, yeah, I think you might need better game. But if you're looking for a guy who doesn't play games either, then what's the sense in sharpening yours? I mean, you have to be you. Not everyone wants someone with 'game'. It has to be what works for you, you know?