Monday, 01 August 2011
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I Got Asked Out on the Train By a Guy I Thought Was Gay!
I have just caught the 8:42 train back home after meeting up with my friends for dinner. I got a seat in an empty row and was very happy to keep it that way. When I opened my book to start reading some guy interrupts me and asks if he can move into my row. As I look up I'm relieved to find a guy that at first impression is most likely is gay (I based this thought on his fashionable cut off tight jean shorts and loose tank). I say relieved because there are many creepy men on the train that irk me and a gay man, for me at least, feels non threatening and almost comforting.I don't know how it started but we started talking about the city and dating and what we did and where we came from. I was really enjoying my conversation with this stranger and felt comfortable letting down my guard because I didn't have to worry that he was hitting on me. He was definitely cute and a smart guy so I obviously thought in my head the phrase "all the good ones are either gay or taken".
So we talked for 45 minutes about every topic you can think of, friends, funny stories, career paths, musical theatre and bad dates where I found out that he in fact was not gay and just had a date with a girl. Then we arrived at my stop. As I got up to leave my new friend said well I'd really like to meet up with you and take you out for dinner and I froze. Totally uncool, awkward and in shock I spurted out "Well I'm sure I'll see you around!" and ran off the train. As the train pulled away and I got into my car I couldn't stop thinking, "Carly, you moron, a nice guy was talking to you. You make assumptions that he's gay and when he turns out to be straight you run? What is wrong with you?" I don't know, who knows.
I talk about this all the time-why can't guys just approach me, I'm friendly, I don't think I'm intimidating, blah blah blah. But then I freeze up the one time a guy actually does ask me out. I wasn't even quick enough to say, "well here's my number." I just hauled ass off that train car never to see Joe (I didn't get his last name) ever again!
After calling up my friend "Mandy" and retelling her exactly what happened in detail she couldn't stop laughing at how ridiculous I am. Well now I will never know how that situation would have panned out but the next time I won't assume someone is gay or at least respond like a normal human being.
Ever miss out on a great date because of your own assumptions? Ever get asked out on the train?
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- From: CarlyPaige
- About Me: Currently I am a college student studying English and Education. A true monogamist, I have only had 2 serious boyfriends but have been single for 2 years. The dating scene in college is complicated to say the least and here I will share with you my experiences, my friends experiences, both past and present as an example of what to do when confronted with awkwardness, confusion and love.
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awww, poor guy! this was a cute story even though it wasn't a happy ending for everyone. guess it's just a good lesson learned for next time.
I met my boyfriend on the train. Well, actually, just saw him while boarding and was too afraid to talk to him so I stared at him from about 10 seats back until my stop, then threw my phone number at him while I was getting off. :D
@starcrossedloversdivine@xanga - lol I wish I had enough ladyballs to do that
After reading this, I assume that YOU are gay.
@starcrossedloversdivine@xanga - wow! that's such a cute way for you guys to meet and kudos for giving him your number. I envy you for being so courageous!
Ya girls always say they can't meet guys,
but when a guy comes along that has the balls to ask them out,
they don't know how to handle it.
This is what happens in our walled in, text/facebook conversation society.
@Chibi_Son_Gokou@xanga - STFU Don't act like you've never made assumptions about anybody. In fact you worship somebody who makes assumptions about people ALL the time. Funny how the queen you worship can make assumptions about people but if it's someone you "dislike" they aren't allowed to. You have "GREAT" logics there.
I assume you are a twat. No wait, you ARE a twat.
In this post: http://www.datingish.com/752425175/european-metrosexual-or-gay/
that author says pretty much the same thing, and this post isn't nearly as offensive as that one, yet you worship that post, lmao. *smfh* @ people who will allow one person to get away with assumptions but not another.
@Chibi_Son_Gokou@xanga - By the way, if you're going to bash someone for assuming, in your wannabe smart ass retort, you shouldn't do the same. That makes you on the same level of the people you bash. :) And YOU assuming she is gay makes you mature? LOL.
Even if you assume something "good" about someone, you are still making assumptions about someone. ;)
I hate when panic situations like that happen...
never been on a train. when I used to take the bus, usually senior citizens sit next to me and talk my ear off
@starcrossedloversdivine@xanga - That's pretty cool :) Actually, that's how I got asked to the prom, lol.
So you will give in and go on a date with a guy to not seem racist but you will RUN like a coward when an actual nice guy asks you out?
Hmph.
Funny story!! just saw two cute guys today on the subway too, but if that happened to me, i might have done the same thing lol. quick reflexes and logic disappear sometimes in the presence of a cute guy.
aw you should so post an ad on craiglist in the missed connections. who knows? maybe he`ll check it out and you guys can reconnect!
@xo69bl0ndie69ox@xanga - hahaha you beat me to it!
My title guessing must be off today, I thought this would be a Jenn post :/
lolz at straight people who think they have gaydar. They only ever notice the super flamboyant gays, and everyone else is just an assumption.
Need to revise your mind and views !!
): that blows, sounds like you lost out on a real great guy.
This could possibly be the cutest story I've ever heard (thats actually reality). I ALWAYS think "why can't guys approach me" as well..so I definitely enjoyed reading this blog post.
All I have to say, is maybe this isn't "the last time you'll see Joe". I think whatevers meant to happen will happen, and if you two were meant to be; you'll run into him again, and perhaps next time - you'll give him your number! :)
Even if you never meet up with him again, then you know it just wasn't meant to be.
Also, this is a big coincidence...but, before I read your blog I put on the song "Just a Kiss" - by Lady Antebellum, and in the video two people sort of meet on a Train as well.. how ironic! Lol.
poor guy, he probably feels like such an idiot now.
@Chibi_Son_Gokou@xanga - You know, I don't know WHY you keep talking? You're not all that you make yourself out to be, even some girl who you thought "liked" you is blowing you off. So I don't know why you still act like all the girls want you and that you're some "God" LOL. I read your blog about that one girl blowing you off. It's amusing how u still sit on the Internet acting like hot shit bashing other people's blogs. Whoever would "rec" your comment is just as ignorant as you. I bet it's the child who likes to call themselves "reality" LMAO.
@shimmers - At least I get invited places and I don't delete friends from Facebook whenever I'm feeling insecure.
@Chibi_Son_Gokou@xanga - So you want to play that way, huh?
STILL TALKING? I find it amusing that you don't actually talk about my blog on my blog post, and don't comment on it at all but then bring it up in another blog post. You're SOOOOOO "TOUGH!" I used to submit blogs anonymously because I didn't have an account, but then I decided to submit one with my actual user name to see if anyone would start shit on my posts or actually talk about the topic. It's funny how you're the only one in this post and my post who is causing drama.
Since you feel the need to bring up my blogs. I'll bring up yours.
At least the guy I'm with likes me back and likes to hang out with me and doesn't blow me off unlike the girl who you think "likes" you.
At least people who interview me call me back and I get the job. Says the "hot shit" JOBLESS God who continues to talk. :)
And I'm not about a million friends or popularity contest, I'd be happy with one or two really close friends. I'm not like you who needs the world at my feet. I'd rather dump 10 fake friends than have a 10 fake friends.
At least I have a job while you're still blogging about being turned down for 5 interviews, LOL.
Keep talking you son of a bitch.
Also, hanging out with people isn't a priority in my life right now, working is. :) Unlike your priorities.
You really would fit right in with the people I talked about in my blog, because you think you're high and mighty when you're really not just like them. :)
@shimmers, @Chibi_Son_Gokou@xanga - ...really? No one is winning here.