Sunday, 31 July 2011

• He Gave Me the Hope That I Don't Have to Settle for Someone

  
  I met a guy named Doc. It was the week before "Dead" week of this Spring semester. We had a class together, but NO ONE ever spoke to each other in it. And so he comes up to me and says to me that I am in XYZ sorority and friends with XYZ girl. I was freaked out that he knew that, but I didn't think anything of if. I send out a generic email to everyone for a study group and Doc was the only one who showed. And then a few days later he added me on Facebook. I thought nothing of it.
  
  After school had been out for a week or so I put on Facebook that I really missed my XYZ university town. Doc "liked" it and we started talking on Facebook chat. Randomly. At the most bizarre times. And then we stopped talking. But at this point we have been talking for about 6-7 weeks. He gave me his number a couple of weeks ago and I kinda sorta like him. So everything is fine and dandy right?
  
  About the same time I started talking to him, I went to a summer camp/school thing in Florida. And it was five days a week with the same people for 4-5 hours a day. And no one really wanted to study the subject we were studying. So over the course of being in this program I met 3 people that are important to this story: Lima, Nait, and Willis.
  
  Lima and I were the only two girls in the program. We went to about 2 or 3 parties and a few guys from class would be there. But Willis and another dude from the class would never go. Everyone would make fun of his awkwardness and what he wore. But he definitely didn't know he was "that guy." On the other hand, Nait, was a party animal but never showed up to the parties because he had things to do. But he was definitely well-liked.
  
  So fast-forward to the week before the program ends. By this time Willis has told people me and him hung out when we actually hadn't and everyone thinks he likes me. About 6 of the guys in the class plus me decide to go back and drink in someones dorm. I am straight-edge--no sex, drugs, or drinking. I was sober the whole time.
  
  Willis lives next door to the guy that we were drinking with so we invite him over. Now Nait has been licking me the whole day. And I didnt want anyone to think I liked Willis. So Nait gets COMPLETELY WASTED and takes cookie dough and smeared it all over my face. Then proceeds to lick it off my face. IN FRONT OF EVERYONE. Then he starts licking my mouth and tells me that I can't makeout. OH HELL NO! I can make out.
  
  He is WASTED and I am SOBER. So we make out in front of Willis and he looks super hurt. Long story short, Nait passes out, stays. Willis goes back to his room. And I went to a party and had to come back to where Nait was because we forgot stuff. I invite Willis and his friend to party at the place I was going back to. And Willis was like, "I think I will just work out." By the way, I'm still talking to Doc almost every night and he doesnt know about any of this.
  
  The day before we leave to go home, Willis and I agree that we are gonna ask Lima for a ride to the airport. And we had a serious heart to heart. He told me that instead of going to the gym, he went back to take care of Nait, even though he doesnt really like him. He always said that he really liked Lima and had been trying to get her number the entire time.
  
  And he said he didnt really want to party because it wasn't his crowd--the one that gets wasted just to get wasted. The next morning we said that since Lima was driving us he had to get her Starbucks. What was odd was he texted me and asked me if I wanted anything. Which he totally didnt need to do.
  
  Somewhere between that and leaving for my plane, I kinda got smitten for Willis. Why? Well besides the fact that he is pretty stinking attractive, he is a super nice, good guy. Much like Doc, who I am still talking to.
  
  But the difference between them was that Doc feels like he's being the way that he thinks people want him to be. If you met Willis you could see in his eyes that he does stuff for himself. He treats girls and everyone the right way, because it is right. And he's one of those guys that I had always wanted: a guy with a back bone, that's fun, that doesnt drink to get drunk, that is confident, hot, and lives his life with conviction.
  
  And then there's Doc. Who is a good guy, but he doesnt seem like he believes in how he is living. And I've been talking to him for about 2 months now. It's like we don't have that X-factor there. But with Doc, I knew we could never be together because he lives in California and I live in Arkansas. I was still estatic that I met him, and to a lot of people that might be confusing.
  
  The truth of the matter is, I had never seen someone live out what they believed and who they wanted to be as much as I had seen with Willis. It was by far the sexiest thing I've seen in my life. And even though I know I'll prolly never see him again, he gives me hope. He gives me hope that I don't have to settle for someone like Doc--good intentions, but not bold enough to go against mainstream voicing them. It gave me hope that there are good guys out there, guys like Willis. Sexy because they believe in how they are living.
  
  So I'm not going to be in a relationship anytime soon with either one of them. And some people may say that is sad or disappointing, or I should still try. But to that I say hell no. I say hell no with conviction, and zeal, and power in my heart. Now that I have met Willis I know there are other guys out there that are worth the wait.
  
  Have you ever met someone who gave you hope in relationships, but wouldn't consider dating?
  

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