Thursday, 28 July 2011
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Why Did I Ever Date THAT Guy?
What are your craziest ex stories?I dated this guy who was 33, (I was 24) and he had been laid off from his job. I was working and going to school full time.
After dating him for two months I learned a few things:
He hadn't applied for a single job in the entire 8 months that he'd been laid off - I didn't know this initially.
He religiously listened to Coast to Coast AM radio and actually thought that it was all true... which to me is the equivalent of believing Tabloid stories. I didn't realize at first that he actually believed this stuff, I thought he just thought it was entertaining. No. He believed it.
He was living off of unemployment and smoking pot every day.
He was embarrassed to buy condoms. At 33 years old. Which was fine because we ended up never even sleeping together, but seriously? At 33? You might as well be embarrassed to buy toilet paper.What is wrong with you?!
He always bought plastic silverware and paper plates.
One day I asked him why he did it, and he told me he didn't like to do dishes.
...He was 33, didn't own a single pot or pan, and ate all of his food off of paper plates with plastic silverware. He couldn't even just have one set of dishes that he'd wash after using? What is this? I don't even...
I broke up with him and I even reported him for unemployment benefits fraud for not ever actually applying for any other jobs, although as far as I know that never helped. If you haven't applied for a job in eight months and you're living off of the state and spending your money on pot, I'm going to say something about it.
I became friends with his best friend Cara and she told me that eventually he had to run an extension cord from his neighbor's apartment up to his apartment to have any power because his utilities got turned off.
They lived in a house, so there was an extension cord running across the back deck and up the stairs.
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I don't even know how I spent two months with the guy, but I think a lot of it had to do with me spending most of my time at work or school.
Do you have any past relationships that you look back on and wonder what you were ever doing with that person?
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I'm always super embarrassed when I buy toilet paper. =/
Sikeeeeeeeeeee.
I definitely have one or two ex-relationships that I look back on and go - what was I thinking? These types of relationships historically have occurred during a time when MY life was particularly stressful or unpleasant.
Ha! That guy needs some kind of wake up call. Geez, he needed to be reported, working people already get ripped off more than they should to be supporting people who aren't even trying to contribute.
lolll. thats hilarious. yeah i def had a reflection like that last year. so ridiculous.
@SarahC0828@xanga - yeah i agree my crappy thing happened because i was at a low point in my life. that will never happen again.
I "dated" this guy for about 3 months because I wanted to have a "normal" relationship where my mom didn't HATE my boyfriends and on paper, he was great: owned his own place, his car, his bike, had a decent job, grad from UBC, etc etc... except he was a self-centred, inconsiderate, insensitive dickwad who was SUPER cheap; even when he's buying his best friend (since gradeschool's) birthday gift and bragging that he only spent 10$ when the tag (that was still on it) for $25. And then he started to "expect" sex when he has forgotten my birthday, forget that I HATE carnations and get lazy. I used to buy things that he wanted to see; dvd collections and etc, lend him my CD collection which I never got back, when he never learned to GIVE BACK what he should have. If I had to say "WHY THE HELL?" then, I'd pick him. He was a mistake. I learned something very grand and important but my god, the least I could have done was date someone who actually CARED about being with me and showed a little gratitude every now and then. BLEH
@SarahC0828@xanga - That makes a lot of sense, both of my exes who I look back on like "lolwhut" happened when there was a LOT of other stuff going on stressing me out too.
"He hadn't applied for a single job in the entire 8 months that he'd been laid off"
What does that have to do with you?
Men are not accessories. You love a person for who they are, not what they do, what they have to offer, or how good they look on your mantle.
Evolution was thrown offtrack thousands of years ago, sweetheart. Trying to play "hump the fittest" now is worse than pointless, it's destructive. Those who are the fittest are those who don't sacrifice their own time to make some fat ass retard of a boss more money than they deserve. How's that for a wake up call?
LOL Oh wow :| thank god it was only two months..
I'm glad you reported your ex for unemployment benefits fraud! So many
people get away with that because people won't report it. He sounds like
a scumbag! Good thing you only wasted 2 months on him.
My ex never changed the power bill into his name after I moved out (I only lived with him for a month) and I found out a year later that the power remained in my name the whole time he lived there and I (HE) owed them $400! He only paid it like every other month to keep it on and then when he moved out he just stopped paying. If I had known it was still in my name I would have had it turned off. I definitely regret that relationship. He'd tried to act like he was such a great guy, hell he even told me over and over what a good guy he was, yet he stopped paying his bill because he knew it wouldn't effect his credit at all. It still hasn't been paid, I'm broke, so I may have to take him to small claims court.
LOL. On behalf of all taxpayers, I thank you for reporting him, and let's hope it did do some good.
This reminds me of a guy I met online who is addicted to ADHD medication, among others that he DOES NOT need. So in other words, speed. This makes him delusionally grandiose and manic. 22 years old, lived with his parents last 5 years doing nothing but smoking, eating junk food, and sitting around making crackpot theories by reading wikipedia. He paid for his meds by taking a seasonal landscaping job (which he was fired from a few months ago) and getting unnecessary unemployment the rest of the time. No money saved, no school, not a working vehicle, nothing. He was useless and a recluse. He was insane too. I have to keep my xanga on friends lock because he's obsessed with me. Unlike you, I did not wait to consummate the pseudo-relationship. O well. Took me even longer than you to realize how full of shit this guy was, but I will definitely not be making this mistake again. Hope you learned as well!
Yes. Thank goodness I learned from them! And it sounds like you did too. :)
@OstentatiousEloquence@xanga - Hey, what a coincidence, I'm that guy...
See?... yay my life.
@InfinitelyEternal@xanga - yeah, and she wants to love a person for his drive in life, not his ability to cheat society by using taxpayer money on pot. i totally agree that i hate the idea of (proverbially) sucking some guy's dick to make money for the rest of my life, but that doesn't mean i'm going to mooch off of my parents so i can get high all the time.
I commented here first, relating to a similar situation and describing real love beyond superficial accomplishments and possessions. She posted after I did, quite expectedly boasting an erroneous description of the superficial aspects of my life that were of no benefit to her thus proving my point.
Predictable.
Yay my life.
I know humans better than they know themselves.
@TheNotoriousGOD@xanga - Pot? Try amphetamine. Psychostimulant. Quite different. I use it to provide days and nights without sleep to research and solve problems you can't even begin to comprehend.
@TheNotoriousGOD@xanga - Instead of making up reasons to (not) love someone, just love them for who they are. You cannot objectively gauge a person's "drive in life" by observing external circumstances and situations, genius.
I honestly cannot say any of my ex's were that bad. Strangely, this makes me remember even the worst fondly. :P
@OstentatiousEloquence@xanga - Fair. I feel bad for you. Some people are wrapped up in their delusions, can't be helped, but at least your out of there now :)
I wonder that, then I remember. We were both underage. We were both curious. We were both teenagers. Oh, and we were both stupid and inexperienced. Oooooh, thats why :P
Well, you learned from it and it makes a fun story, which are the 2 best things that can come from such a situation. I have an ex like that too where when I look back now I wonder what the HELL I saw in him. I think it had a lot to do with the fact that at the time I was super-stressed out with school, had rampant depression and anxiety that I hadn't learned to control yet, and a developing eating disorder. It's hard now to believe I was really that out of it, but I was definitely not in my right mind and should not have been in a relationship because I allowed myself to be treated like crap (although that does not make it okay that he treated me like crap).
It did not help my confidence issues when he basically told me once that he cared more about his 1990 Honda CRX with an ugly matte primer paint job and expensive-ass stereo system than he cared about me. Took me another month after that to see the fricking light! Argh. Oh well, chalk it up to lessons learned.
My last one. Abusive on all levels. Everything was always twisted to be my fault.
@InfinitelyEternal@xanga - "Trying to play "hump the fittest" now is worse than pointless, it's destructive. Those who are the fittest are those who don't sacrifice their own time to make some fat ass retard of a boss more money than they deserve. How's that for a wake up call?"
Uh, people who don't work to support themselves and expect the government to support them are not the fittest."Men are not accessories. You love a person for who they are, not what they do, what they have to offer, or how good they look on your mantle."
Yeah, you love people for who they are when they're lovable people. Losers who have nothing going for them and expect other people to take care of them are not the type of people I'm going to fall in love with. They aren't the type of people ANYONE is going to fall in love with. I wasn't viewing him as an accessory, but I couldn't view someone like that as a partner either. I'm not his mommy, I'm not going to pay his bills and wash his dishes for him.
@InfinitelyEternal@xanga - Oh, I see now why you didn't understand my post...because you want to keep living your life like how my ex lives his.
@OstentatiousEloquence@xanga - That is kind of hilarious and sad - your story AND the fact that your ex is the one guy to respond to this post the way he did. "What's wrong with being a loser? LOVE ME FOR ME" bahahah. Oh man. Horrible. I'm glad you moved on!
@InfinitelyEternal@xanga - no one's "making up" reasons for anything. i don't expect anyone to contribute to society, but i do expect that if you're going to benefit off of my efforts in life, that you make your effort to return that favor to society (even if it doesn't benefit me personally). and yes, i assure you that i solve problems that you can't comprehend, and much unlike you, i actually get my shit done without the use of drugs. and yes, i assure you that i can and will gauge someone's drive in life if all they do is sit on the couch smoking weed all day.
if you can make some claim that justifies the living-off-your-parents'-couch-smoking-pot-all-day lifestyle, i'd really like to hear it. i'm willing to admit that i could be wrong.
@thisiswhereItellyoueverything@xanga - recommend x1000. though unfortunately, you're wrong about one thing--that type of person will get some, with the same type of person. i wish they weren't allowed to breed.
@OstentatiousEloquence@xanga - whoa whoa whoa, hold on. is that guy actually your ex???
@TheNotoriousGOD@xanga - Ugh, at least if they're all hooking up with each other they're staying out of the dating pool for people who are actually worth dating. Unfortunately we all make mistakes and sometimes date losers, but at least it can just last for a couple months instead of a lifetime.
And yeah I'm pretty sure that's ACTUALLY her crazy druggy ex. Hahaha. No wonder he responded to this the way he did.