Thursday, 28 July 2011
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Excuse Me - May I See Your Dating License First?
Having recently gone through a break up, I've found myself thinking about excess baggage. My last relationship was filled with it: trust issues, insecurity, his past, my past. It's exhausting to even think about!I was venting to my friend, Matt, about how I wish my ex wouldn't have pursued a relationship with me. He still had severe trust issues that he had to deal with before even considering a relationship with someone. He then started telling me about his ex who has exaggerated attachment issues. She literally still stalks his every move (one year after the break up).
"Wow, we really pick the winners," I said.
"If only there was a way that we could see if someone else had savage relationship issues before wasting our time on them."
"I know," he said. "Some people shouldn't be allowed to date. We should be required to pass a test before we're allowed to pursue relationships."
"Exactly!" I proclaimed. "Like a dating license!"This hypothetical license would require that you have no preexisting trust issues and no resentment towards the opposite sex that could possibly manifest itself in your new relationship. You couldn't pass the test if you were codependent, one of those people who absolutely CANNOT be single and jump into new relationships literally every other week, or if you had stalking tendencies... you know, issues that should never be inflicted on another.
Once you are rid of your issues and truly love yourself again, THEN you can receive your license and have a healthy relationship with another licensee.
Obviously, I could only imagine such a thing. I'm well aware that we all have our issues. But there are some people who truly have no business being in a relationship. I'm sure we've all encountered a completely dysfunctional mess of a relationship at some point in our lives. Hell, I'm sure we've all even BEEN in one before. So, how amazing would it be if we could skip through the trial and error process and have solid proof that someone had the chops to take on a full blown, trusting, pleasant relationship? Then when you meet someone, have an amazing few weeks/months and they want to make it official, you can say... "Yeah, sure. But just for good measure, can I see your dating license?"
Of course, there would still be "accidents," but at least there would be far less incapable people on the road.
What do you think? Wouldn't that be awesome, yet ridiculous?
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Comments (9)
lol having a relationship license would only show that a person has
passed a test, but they could still suck in a relationship. It's like
people who are shitty drivers, but somehow got their drivers license. D=
Funny idea though. =P
you wish he hadn't pursued a relationship with you? it takes two to tango, sweetheart.
I like it! It would save so much time and heartache, if it were done right! :P
@fLiPgUy31O@xanga - New Jersey?
@TheNotoriousGOD@xanga - You really have no idea what you're talking about. Know-it-alls are super sexy, though. Keep that God complex up. ;]
@MeLoveYouL0ngTime - you're right, i can only go by what you posted. so please enlighten me as to why you can take no responsibility in accepting a relationship with him. :)
@TheNotoriousGOD@xanga - Because his issues didn't come to light until well into our relationship. It became overbearingly possessive once he got really comfortable.
First off, I want you to know that I get that you're being funny, and talking about an issue in a humorous way.
But I think @TheNotoriousGOD@xanga is trying to snarkily say that there IS already a sort of screening that potential dates should, and do, go through.
It's called "using your best judgement."
I'm not trying to flame you, because I understand that a lot of times, people are complicated and sometimes tricky, so the bad/undesirable things don't really come out until you get to know them better. That's why people break up all the time. Call it "falling out of love" or whatever
but the point is that, it shouldn't really fall to anyone else to screen someone for you. You can ask your friends and family for their impressions but at the end of the day, its your decision. If you realize your mistaken, you have to take responsibility and end the relationship. If someone continues to be in a bad relationship, it's kind of still their own fault.. even if we are sympathetic to their plight, there's not much anyone else can do
I would LOVE this system!!!!!