My dad's side of the family are also some of the most progressive, liberal minded thinkers that I have ever met. I am what I like to call the Hippie-Conservative. I am a forward thinking and liberal when it comes to most things, however I do not want to live to see the degradation of the United States to the United Socialist States.
Perhaps that is just me.
My dad's side of the family however, are the kind of people who wish to send every penny they have to charity, run soup kitchens out of their houses, and do pro-bono legal work (in the case of my aunt) purely for the greater good of man kind. I am all for that. I was so proud when a few years ago, all my aunts and uncles came out and marched in a protest with me for the Human Rights Campaign.
You'd think that with that being said, that my current relationship with Miss Lady would not be an issue.
This weekend is the designated weekend for my Granny's 80th birthday, even though her actual birthday was the 16th of May. This weekend was just the most convenient for all of us to trek down to Atlanta, and celebrate together. I initially was not going to be able to go, mostly because my vehicle kind of exploded.
Miss Lady saw my distress about missing the party, and offered to drive me down there, with the baby and we will split gas and food and what not, which is amazing. My family as a whole, have been very excited that I am coming. This will be the first time any of them, including my father, will meet my daughter, and I haven't been able to go to any family function due to work for the upwards of two years.
When I called my aunt last night to see if my uncle was coming I was expecting the same reaction from her that I had received from the rest of my family. Excitement, and a general well-wishing attitude towards Miss Lady. Instead, what I got was, "What would you say if I told you I think it would be better if you didn't come at all if you have to come with her."
I was completely floored. My aunt is the most liberal person ever, and for her to tell me not to come because of the gender of my SO was completely unreal to me.
She basically told me that I was being selfish for wanting to come even though I had to bring my girlfriend with me to my grandmother's birthday party. "The party is supposed to be about Granny not about you living your life alternatively with your child."
The idea of it not being about my grandmother never even crossed my mind. Of course it would be about her. I had already talked to Miss Lady about the amount of PDA that usually goes on in our house, and the difference that needs to occur when we are with my family. My grandmother knows she is my girlfriend, and has openly expressed her happiness at my happiness, but still even if I was with a man, I wouldn't be making out in front of my grandmother.
My aunt however demanded that I not touch her at all, that I use no terms of endearment or even hold eye contact with her for too long.
It is still 2011 right?
As furious as I was, I managed to just say, "Yes Kiki." and "I understand Kiki." And not rip her fucking throat out with the verbal tirade begging to escape my lips. I love my family enough to put my fury on the back burner, and thank the lord that Miss Lady understands that this behavior is A-typical. I still couldn't believe that I even had this conversation with my aunt. What would you do if your family demanded that you treat your SO as a friend for the sake of their comfort level?