All my life I was never really hit on too much. I'm black, and every now and then I'd get the occasional flirty black guy to ask for my number, but it didn't happen all that often. I had a few awkward phases throughout the middle-high school range and it wasn't until college that I really fully "bloomed" so to speak. But once that happened,
I started to notice a trend in the type of guys that were approaching me: they were all foreign, as in, they were all at least born in another country.My first real date was with a Turkish guy. My first kiss was with a Bulgarian guy, second with an Armenian, and third (my current boyfriend) Russian. I've gotten hit on by Polish guys, British guys, Australian, Indian, Brazilian, Filipino, I mean I could go on.
And the only reason I know the exact ethnicities of these guys is because many have had accents, and most of them try to integrate their foreign-ness into some kind of pickup line, or at least use it to make themselves seem interesting.
It's just so funny.
I've heard so many "I bet you can't guess where I'm from." or "Did you know I'm from (insert country here)?" that it surprises me when someone is just from the US! (In fact, I rarely get hit on by non-black American guys period.) Most of them have the same story too: "I didn't even speak any English when I came to America from (exotic land) when I was six."
Even my boyfriend thought he was cool being Russian until I told him he wasn't any different than the rest.
He couldn't pinpoint any one thing about me that would make me, an African-American girl, particularly attractive to all these non-American guys. He did mention however, that being in America and dating a black girl is like "living the dream" because it's something you can't really do in Russia. One, because there aren't many black girls there in the first place and two, they're not as open to interracial dating there as they are here.
I'm very curious to know, is there any particular type of person that is consistently attracted to you?
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No! And I've never heard of this before...but my boyfriend of three years now is a native Chinese and I'm American.
actually a LOT of the guys from my art school who hit on me, were all very mexican; juan, pedro, emil, jose...they all had accents. idk, i'm open minded but idk what in particular could attract them to me, i'm plain old boring (and rather stereotypical) white-person lol
Astrologically-wise, yes. But I no longer believe in astrology.
"I'm a Foreign-Men Magnet" that would have sounded so much sexier. :) But then again, perhaps that's not where you were aiming.
Sorry, can't relate. I'm universally attractive. :\
Great Story.... For me it seems to be middle aged men and I'm only 21 years old. I believe there is a few reasons for this. 1) I'm not your average 21 year old- I don't wear abercrombie or cling to an iPhone, and I don't have a baby face...so maybe I look more like 25.. but still that's quite a bit younger. 2) Since I'm not repulsive, or super attractive.. maybe I seem more approachable? No too sure. Almost all the men who have hit on me have to be at least 28... which I think is a little weird??
I'm a white girl who's an arabic dude magnet. go figure
@mysterygirl3000@xanga - You too huh? Mine are usually from the Egypt area.
But most of the time I attract "geek" kind of guys. It's so weird because I'm not really into games myself. However they are the sweetest boyfriends you can ask for! My current boyfriend is a "geek".
I find you very fortunate as I would love to experience this. Maybe those immigrants have better taste than Americans?
I'm jealous! Send some my way. Hehehehe. Livin' the dream!!!!
I don't know about the type of person who's attracted to me, but if it counts, I happen to get a lot of creeps coming up to me and saying really ridiculous things such as "Me love you long time" or "Me so horny." It's probably an Asian fetish thing. Seriously, that is sooo lame.
I'm mostly an old white man magnet. men twice my age or even older. I'm in my 20's and a youthful looking asian. I think they want to be my sugardaddy or grandpapa. eww.
i know that guys from my own background aren't attracted to me(asian), or rather, rarely has anyone expressed that they found me attractive, everyone else does though... lolcakes
Asians. Go figure.
Same boat. The only guys who most openly express interest to me are dudes who were born in another country. Go figure.
I also happen to attract quite a lot of men who are middle aged. Un. Wanted. Creepers. Talking the obvious checking-you-out-and-giving-you-slasher-smile deal.
@heart_leigh@xanga - LOL. That's so ridiculous. How'd you react?
Short people are attracted to me. LOL.
I dunno but I find hispanics attractive.
I think I'm a magnet for foreign men. I spent some time abroad and while I was there I went on a date with guys from Pakistan, Morroco, and Korea. I also got hit on by an African. Then in America there was this hispanic guy who liked me and another African. Then there is another guy who is mixed-Italian and African.
I'm white and I've only been on a date with 1 white guy! What is it about me that repels white men and attracts foreign men?
@ohforrealson@xanga - LOL. That's so ridiculous. How'd you react?
I live in an place where there aren't a lot of Asians. When I hear the "Me love you long time" or "Me so horny" lines, I sigh, then roll my eyes, and tell these creeps I'm not interested and walk away. I've had this happen to me more than I care to remember.
@heart_leigh@xanga - People really are lame. The absurdity of your comment (what you wrote that they said to you) made me laugh out loud. I would probably crack up in their faces... haha
Oh humanity
This was basically the one and only thing all my past boyfriends had in common. I thought it was odd but cool that all my boyfriends were born internationally all across the globe. Out of all 4, 3 of them have accents sounding like total fobs(some sexier than others haha). I think it's great to have some foreign SOs because that's one of the best ways to learn about different cultures around the world. ;)
I definitely found that (big generalization here!) foreign men tend to be more romantic and straightforward than the American guys I've met. I like to joke with some flirty international guys and be like "oh, you're just using that Brazilian charm on me, aren't you" or something like that
My previous boyfriend was Albanian... and after 7 months he opened up to me and told me that foreigners like American Girls because they are easy! It did surprise me a little bit, but I actually agree that the stereotype of "easy americans" is pretty prevalent (not saying it's true). And I also get hit on a lot when traveling overseas. My bf was told me that not to offend me, but because I wasn't the "typical" American woman in his experience, because I was more conservative and prude-ish (my words) and careful about not having sex with "just anyone". When he found out I wasn't the "easy" one, he said it usually was the case that American women were more open to sexuality, more independent and more self-sufficient and that was something that men were looking for because it is less pressure on them to "court" a woman and deal with the slow process of getting in her pants.
i always get hit on by black and mexican men all the time.
awwww. girl, pleasssse tell me where you live/go to college. you are living the dream, haha. Ok, not really, but I want foreign guys to hit on me! that's really cute. Have fun, I think its a great experience you're having. Not just friendship, but really getting to know these foreign men in a meaningful way. Good for you!