Saturday, 23 July 2011
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The Fact That You Can Make Me Laugh is Such a Turn On
I think one of the hottest things a guy can do is make me laugh. It doesn't matter how incredible you are in bed, or how talented you are, or how good looking, if you can't make me laugh then I don't want you. I have dealt with all different types of guys and I must tell you, I have yet to date a really funny guy. Of course I want you to be serious when necessary but I find myself longing for a guy who can make me take things lightly because I'm an incredibly serious person.A guy that I recently was talking to at a party made me remember how important that quality was for me. We were playing some sort of drinking game and I was doing fine until I started to mess up. He was standing next to me and placed his hand on the small of my back and whispered softly in my ear, "Babe, it's ok but don't f*** up again, ok?"
Under normal circumstances I would have been pissed but the way he delivered those words to me I found hilarious so I just grabbed onto his arm and playfully pushed him. The whole night he actually made me laugh and of course it helped that i was attracted to him but I guess I just got his sense of humor.
But I have always found myself attracted to goof-balls and I would pick a funny guy over a devastatingly handsome guy any day of the week. Because I'm hoping to marry someone that will be my best friend I'm hoping I can find someone to make me laugh every day of my life being that it's one of my favorite things to do. So find me a guy who can make me laugh and I'm his.
Do you wish you could date someone who can make you laugh? Do you find laughter to be a turn on?
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- From: CarlyPaige
- About Me: Currently I am a college student studying English and Education. A true monogamist, I have only had 2 serious boyfriends but have been single for 2 years. The dating scene in college is complicated to say the least and here I will share with you my experiences, my friends experiences, both past and present as an example of what to do when confronted with awkwardness, confusion and love.
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Love guys that can make me laugh, and usually, the first time we meet, it's all light-hearted teasing, getting to know each other, all that good stuff. It's the part after that that's hard to come by: being emotionally connected, in the same place at the same time, and willing to take risks together. Lesigh.
"I would pick a funny guy over a devastatingly handsome guy any day of the week"
"I have yet to date a really funny guy."
Notice something? You say humor is of utmost importance....and you've never dated a really funny guy! The fact is, a great number of girls will put "sense of humor" at the very top of their list.....but its rarely the biggest requirement. Often, "top of the list" is confused with with "the icing on the cake". Now, of course, the icing is actually a very important part of the cake.... its just not the most important part.
Another interesting phenomenon though is....that humor is often relative to girls.
"The whole night he actually made me laugh and of course it helped that i was attracted to him"
You betcha it helped!...it probably helped a LOT. Imagine an ugly guy saying the exact same line to you. Would your reaction have been the same?
If two guys are exactly the same level of "funniness" , but one is really good looking , and the other guy is ugly.....the girl with think the good looking guy is much funnier. I mean, that's just how it is. A good looking guy cracks a joke, he's hilarious. The ugly guy might crack the same joke and be called corny. A good looking guy shares about his emotions and feelings...he's sensitive......the ugly guy, he's kind of needy. The good looking guy calls you the next day after meeting you......he's not into playing games.....the ugly guy.....uh, how desperate is that? The good looking guy intensely stares at you from across the room....he's so mysterious! The ugly guy........yup, he's a stalker.
Of course, this is just the general case. There are a lot of girls that actually do think sense of humor is the most important characteristic. And, it seems, sense of humor becomes more important as we age. (Hell, in high school, how many "class clowns" date the head cheerleader as opposed to the good looking quarterback?) But if you say sense of humor is that important....and you've never dated a funny guy.....maybe its not really as important as you think.
Liked this article :)
Remember what David DeAngelo said: Cocky & Funny is key to winning hot girls like CarlyPaige.
I find sense of humor very subjective, and women are not up front and specific as to what type of sense of humor they are looking for. I mean, my sense of humor is more satire-based, but I also get a kick out of Danny DeVito or Gilbert Gottfried style humor. @xxthatsmexx@xanga makes a really good point in that it's easier for the guy to look attractive too. If a guy is a tall magazine cover body builder type or Justin Timberlake lookalike, all he has to do to be "funny" is act like a retard - with confidence of course. Anything such a guy says is going to come off as funny. The ugly nerd on the other hand may have a tougher time, and his sense of humor may come off as confusing or offensive.
@wizexel22@xanga - some of what you say may be true - however, what girls are looking for is not always the same guy. so what may appear "hot" to other girls, just doesn't necessarily appeal universally. idk what it is with me, but i definitely prefer quirkier funny guys, even though to most people they aren't all that physically attractive. and just because mr. abs can pull a one-liner out of his butt, that doesn't make me want to put my tongue in his mouth. in fact, usually muscle-hair gel types are totally unappealing to me, their "sense of humor" is always the same. i totally put more weight on personality.
I'm always the one making guys laugh. It's never the opposite! = (
I'm not going to lie, I'm "ugly" compared to most in looks, though I have a good sense of humor above most of my guy friends. I am always placed in the "friend zone" and I even have girls who look at me like a brother. It's annoying and pleasing at the same time.
wizexel22@xanga summed my life up to a 't'. I appear as this weird, creepy guy that no one wants to meet but when they do they are shocked and cool to see me later on. That rules me out for having a relationship, but hell; if you spend your life moaping about the girls who don't want you, then you'll miss the one that does.
My honey makes me laugh all the time. We just combine our mutual weirdness and laugh about it. It's one of the best things about our relationship, I think... my ex boyfriend always pissed me off. We rarely laughed together and I think that had a lot to do with the fact that we just didn't fit together.
Laughter is very important in a relationship.
laughter makes the world go round. Regardless... the thing is that you should keep yourself surrounded by people who make you laugh! Yup... because when your laughing your having a good time.
You know what? Sense of humour rarely at the top of guys lists for girls requirements, but damn it, it will be the top of mine. I want a girl who can jokes on the same level as me.
Dammit life, where are the female comedians!
@Insomnia_Pickles_XtraTomato@xanga - You may very well be right in your case. I don't think its that some of what I'm saying is true....but that all of it is true but it only applies to some girls. (a key difference). I'm not trying to make a blanket statement that covers all girls...but at the same time, there will be girls that fall under that blanket that don't necessarily think they do when they actually do. I'm sure some will read my comment and think "No, I consider sense of humor the most important" and that might be true....but it also might not be.
I agree with you that "hotness" doesn't appeal universally....and that's actually part of what I'm saying. The relativity of it all. Just as a guy's sense of humor (or other attributes of his personality) can make him "hotter"....likewise, often the opposite happens and good looks (and/or money) make the guy seem funnier, or nicer, or more charming etc etc.
I think there are some girls that look primarily or mostly at personality....but I'm just trying to point out that most girls often don't recognize the pervasive effects good looks (or money) can have on other seemingly unrelated attributes such as sense of humor and personality.
Yes, I agree with you. I always get crushes on guys who crack me up. But for some reason I never have dated one. It's kinda sad actually. I like it when a guy can be funny and understands limits of what is not funny.
@wizexel22@xanga - You know some girls really don't place any level of importance on a guy's looks. While I agree that a lot of girls do, not all of us girls do.
Yes, it's true that it may seem the hot funny guy is funnier, but if you realize that you can evaluate the situation better and think of secondary characteristics. Most girls don't, won't even know you can.
And the fact also remains that some guys start out "average looking" and their funny sense of humor makes them "cuter".
@wizexel22@xanga - you actually may be right in that. i remember meeting a guy at a party and THINKING he was funny/interesting, because he wasn't bad looking... but when we hung out a couple more times i realized he had no personality... at least none that clicked with mine, and totally lost the attraction factor in my eyes. my boyfriend though makes me laugh all the time, we make each other laugh, even when we're fighting- and even though i didn't find him physically attractive right away, he definitely lit up as i knew him.
funny guys are my weakness too. Usually they're clever and confident, which probably has a lot to do with their appeal. My boyfriend can make me laugh, but he wouldn't be described as a "funny guy." He's still perfect to me though =)
@Footballblogs@xanga - True. Right hea.
Yes, it's true, I've never heard a chick put humour in anything other than their top 3 traits.
Mostly at number 1.
But it's not cracking jokes...you can't be a stand up comedian. You make them laugh at themselves (as the author said) and be witty.
@TiredSoVeryTired@xanga - I
agree. I actually said as much in my second comment. (I think) Of
course there are girls that can disregard looks...and on average, I
think girls do it better than guys. Again, there are exceptions and
there are guys that don't consider looks to be important (...I think). But
I only made the point because I think there are a lot of girls that think this or that characteristic is of utmost importance....without
realizing the role looks played in evaluating other characteristics.
(But again, this is just a generalization that doesn't apply to
everyone). But yeah, I don't disagree with anything you said.
@Insomnia_Pickles_XtraTomato@xanga - Yeah, I think all of us get affected in that way right off the bat. I mean, good looking people come off as more "charming"....which is again may be misinterpreted as the guy having a great personality, when its really the combination of looks and personality. Looks will always be an initial factor...but I think people with depth need more depth soon after....while some do only much later (or never). And sometimes, or for some people, good looks can simply mask or alter the perception of other characteristics ....ie sense of humor , but also, even in something deeper like "goodness". How many times has a girl defended the "bad boy" with "he's actually a really good guy deep down" ....when he's really not. haha he might actually be the biggest jerk ever....but since the guy is attractive, the girl will think "well deep down, he's a really good guy". =)
But hey, to each his own. Plus, I can deal with a serious guy, since I'm usually the childish, goofy type :P
I dunno about a turn-on but it is absolutely necessary, for me, in a relationship. We aren't going to have sex all the time or recite great romantic things. Humor becomes such a big part in a healthy relationship. Particularly humor at myself. If i can't laugh at the stupids things i might do or say then I'm a wee bit too serious.
Of course laughter is a turn on!
Almost all the guys I've dated have been the classic "class clown" or "funny guy." The one I fell hardest for? He made me laugh every day of my life. Even my mom misses him because he "was just so funny." He had other great attributes of course, but his sense of humor defined him.
WORD. Intelligence is usually first for me, but sense of humor is definitely very important as well.
#1 thing that I look for in a guy, brother's fault, he always makes me laugh :D
I always go for the funny guy! I laugh so much at a lot of things, because I love to laugh. My current boyfriend makes me laugh all the time. For example, he's not a terrible dancer, but occasionally he'll just start dancing for no reason, and even though it's actually pretty good, it still makes me laugh, because he's just so cute when he does it. He knows how to make light of a situation and be funny, but he also knows how to be serious.