Friday, 15 July 2011
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An Unexpected "Happy" Ending
Recently I've been thinking a lot about cultural differences, and I'm wondering if the country of Bradshaw (2.0) is an all too liberalized country.So maybe it seems like I disappeared off the face of the Earth with a month of postless-ness. But actually, I was on a family vacation at some cities that just are far enough to be off the face of the Earth. Family vacation = no action = no point to even write this blog, right? And indeed, I got zero action until the final day when I was traveling alone, back to my current home.
I got to stop through a developed city in the Middle East. It was a fun treat and a cool cultural experience. Since I was doomed to two nights in a row in an airplane, I booked a massage in the middle of the day so I could be refreshed, maybe a little cleaner, and could sneak some Z's in. Before getting there, I found a place with high ratings from fellow Americans, made a smooth albeit noise-ridden international call to make an appointment, and got excited reading all about the city.
It was one of those atmospheric massages with oceany music, dimmed lighting, a nice silk sheet covering me up, and lavender-scented oil. The masseuse was a normal middle-aged guy from Bali and we had usual conversation, though I was mostly just relaxing and half-dozing off. The massage felt great and was a little strong (enough to still hurt two days later). He also hit some spots that most masseuses didn't hold in their repertoire - my thighs, my stomach, and my VAGINA. As I innocently laid there, at one point his hand got too close to the inside of my thigh, and before I knew it a finger was massaging a place that had forgotten its own existence during this whole family vacation.
As in, fingers were actually going inside a certain somewhere. It took me a while to realize what was happening, until I suddenly asked, "Is this normal!?" My thought process: "Is this some cultural thing? I should be understanding…" -> "Will I have to do something in return?" -> "He's probably really talented though." -> "Wait, will this cost me extra?" -> "Ack wait he's old and not that hot and the walls are thin and I don't know how to react, and awkward and aggh! Though wow he's not bad...."
After I inquired on the normality of his unique massage style, he immediately stopped (just as he was slipping off the blanket covering my chest) and apologized profusely.
The massage then went back to normal and things were good. It turns out "apparently" they had confused me with a certain "special" client over the phone with its bad sound quality and thought I had specially requested this masseuse. When it was time to pay, the store people seemed horrified that I would sue for sexual harassment (being the evil American that I am), but I just let it slide.
So in the end it wasn't a cultural difference (well okay, I guess that was obvious), but I wandered the city the rest of the day wondering about my own different way of thinking. For most people, wouldn't this feel like some sort of violation or rape or something? Or isn't this me becoming a consumer of the prostitution industry or something? But I just found it was funny and I found myself a little curious. How morally wrong would it have been if I had agreed to getting a "happy ending" in the end? How bad is it to let someone I don't know anything about and don't find at all attractive do something to me if it feels good ? Things worked out safely and honorably this time, but I wonder what I would do if a similar situation happened again.
So yes, this was the highlight of my vacation! I hope everyone is enjoying their summers just as much (but hopefully less awkwardly) as I am.
What would you have done in my position? How would you react?
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I'd have sued 'cause I wouldn't be comfy with some old dude touching my privates :S but then again going into massage places, you have to beware of this..
I probably would have punched him. I react badly to unexpected touching of sensitive areas.
wow. i've gotten more massages abroad than in america, and this has never happened to me.
i hear that the massage parlors in ktown will give you a happy ending, but i've never been, and i'd be too afraid to ask. like if the police were hiding behind a curtain or something, my life would be over. sexual pleasure shouldn't be a crime.
I don't know what I would have done in your position but it probably wouldn't be as cordial as your method! (Probably would have punched or kicked him) Usually when I get massages, I ask for a female masseuse (sp?) I didn't think that upscale spas would have "happy endings" but I guess I was wrong! Thankfully I have yet to cross this path, all the massages I've received never included this "extra service." I guess I will be wearing my panties on my next massage.
Lawl, happy endings :')
And wow, I would have kicked the guy in the face :|
You're really chilled for letting that slide..
When I took massage classes a few years ago, we were trained in how to massage stomachs, thighs, and even buttocks. I think that most massage therapists in the U.S. skip these areas because they make people uncomfortable, but they are within proper boundaries for the therapist unless the client says otherwise. However what this guy did was inappropriate for a professional therapist anywhere in the world.
I would've been totally creeped out since I'm non-sexual and a minor. = _ =;
Would've stopped him when his fingers went to my thighs.
He woulda gotten decked.
But then again, I don't like people touching me at all so I would never get a massage.
But on the off chance I did, and someone touched me 'inappropriately' they'd get decked, kicked in the balls, whatever.
IT'D GET PHYSICAL. (For them) (and not in a good way)
bahahaha this is hilarious! for me though, im a bit prude and an asshole. lol. ida been like woah there, as soon as he was going too far up my thighs and told him to back the fuck up. though, if he was sexy... i woulda been ok with it maybe. lol. i think its gotta be in the moment to really test this out. lol.
haha cool story.
It's like you are laying there for a while, nice relaxing massage, feels great. I bet a lot of people secretly wish this would happen.
It's good you weren't a prude about it
AHAHHAHAHAAHHAAHHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAH
Sorry, that was HILARIOUS. First off, I would have reacted THE SAME as you did, slightly frozen while asking "do you this to all your customers?" with a higher pitch of voice that comes up when in panic. If he didn't acknowledge the mistake and kept going, THEN I WOULD HAVE SUED, but if I thought he was really mistaken for another "special client" and was really sorry, as he sounded like he was, I would have just let it slide like you. It totally depends how the establishment handled the aftermath of the situation; if they ACTUALLY were sorry, no foul. But if they give me attitude, I'd sue.
I'm not buying it. Its their responsibility to know who they are servicing and what the service it is they are providing to that customer. There was clearly not a meeting of the minds. Contract law 101. Ignorance is not an excuse in the eyes of the law. In other circumstances, I might be less caring, but come on, this is sexual assault. You aren't likely the first and won't likely be the last. There is too many stories of this happening, and its because some women are too scared to complain. Its good you questioned them, but you should've done a whole lot more. You might not be traumatised, but what about the women who are?
that's why I won't get massages at those places because they'd have to pay me to touch my sexy body
lol I think it was an excuse that they used for supposedly mistaking you for another client. some scumbags get jobs specifically to abuse their power or for other evil intentions, such as sexual molestation,etc. I don't buy their excuse. I would've sued them out of business.
I would say: "Hey, stop that. This isn't a date."
I would have flipped out and called the cops. Fuck that shit. Do not "confuse" me with someone else, that's serious business. Wtf.
LOL. I think I would've reacted the same as you. Half confused, part horrified, part curious. If it were a lady (decent looking) doing it I probably would have let it happen...and I'm straight (mostly...) hahahaha. I totally understand that feeling of not knowing if you should be horrified or enjoying it. I mean, it couldn't hurt to get some pleasure, but then who the heck is this touching my vagina and he's not someone I'd normally let touch it...but it feels good? Ah confusing! So yes, I know what you mean, not that I've had this experience lol. At least they weren't creepy about it, it seems like they were genuine with their intentions and it was a complete mistake, which is good. They need to count their lucky stars that you were such a chill person.
"Excuse me, I think you've put your hand inside me, by mistake!" is a line that does not get said enough! hahaha. He could have at least bought you dinner first!? Awesome story :)
Happened to me in Thailand. I felt the same way when my petite masseuse started massaging my inner thigh and kept moving closer.
I wanted to stop her but....I mean she had already used plenty of oil, and her hands were terribly comforting. Who am I to tell her what she can and cannot do, she's the professional here.
@rabbitsarecool14@xanga - Yes yes yes, this is exactly how I felt! Part curious, part horrified, part confused.
Where one draws the line of sexual harassment is a difficult topic. Society would say this sort of situation is harassment, but I was pretty okay with it. And if the genders were reversed it'd be less of a weird story. I suppose in a way it's almost a sign of changing gender roles and sexual power that women are able to purchase sex. But it could also be seen as a man abusing his power (being able to see almost-naked women all the time and then use it to his convenience). Who knows...
LOL! You should have "enjoyed the ride" and not gotten all creeped out and posted it here!
Wow! It's a bit controversial in my eyes, but if I were a woman, I'd definitely freak out! Haha...I think you handled it pretty well though...but the massage place should definitely check up on their clients before the massage process next time.
meh, i'm very against having any sexual contact during massage sessions.or for a bf/husband.
I wouldn't have freaked out, but I would have explained a bit better that I wasn't looking for a happy ending.