Friday, 15 July 2011

  • Fantasy Fulfilled? 19-Year-Old Babysitter Accused of Having Sex with a 14-Year-Old Boy


    A 19-year-old woman with an odd name from Clinton, Conn. was charged with second-degree sexual assault, two counts of impairing the morals of a child and permitting a minor to possess alcohol on Tuesday. Loni Bouchard, pictured above, had consensual sex with a 14-year-old boy for a period of about half a year. She's ironically to appear at Middlesex Superior Court on the 29th of July, 2011.

    I don't know about you, but as horny teenagers willing to hump the stuffing out of a pillow and holes into our socks, my male comrades and I fantasized about being taken by a hot, female babysitter. We were just-turned-teens, and the mass sprouting of boobs we had been subjected to only intensified our urges. They grew over those chilly autumn days and hibernated through the coldest of winters. Come spring time, they sprung like our collective, youthful willy-dongs in the presence of mental pornography assuredly realized.

    Unfortunately for us, we were living in New York City, and not in one of the rich buildings, either. We were growing up in the projects, where the thought of even being babysat by anyone other than your mom's ugly, overweight, immigrant friend was laughable at best. See, in the city, especially in low income buildings, you're left to fend for yourself. If you want Fruit Loops, you're fucking buying it at the local store if money isn't tight. You're going to school alone, and you better hope you don't lose that full-fare public school Metrocard.

    We weren't in the suburbs or coming from privileged families willing to spread around that corporate wealth to ensure that we were in bed at decent hours and not breaking random heirlooms and other various voodoo artifacts. What we saw on the television was not a reflection of our lives, but rather what we wanted and where we wanted to be if only for the potential sex we'd be getting illegally from a pigtailed blonde with a penchant for sexual molestation. It's a very common fantasy for your average teenage male.


    While it violates state laws, the sex in this case was consensual, and thinking back on my early teen years, you better believe that 14-year-old boy was enjoying every minute of it. It starts to become a little more complicated when you factor in gender and role reversals, though.

    What if the genders were reversed? Society still views women as weak and unable to make decisions regarding sex at an earlier age, even though people are quick to say that women mature much faster. So if women mature at a quicker pace, why do men normally get harsher sentences and a greater media backlash? It's exactly because of what I described earlier and what I technically did with this article: Men are more sexually open, and are rewarded for it. Women are the child bearers, so they're expected to be picky when it comes to sexual partners. We, on the other hand, are simply boys being boys!

    Most women hold back their sexual urges and don't make any passes or advances because of how society chooses to label them, and possibly due to biological differences between the two genders. They're sluts, harlots, and a myriad of other funny sounding names. Since this is our reality, a man in Loni Bouchard's position would quickly be deemed a monster and a rapist because men are the aggressors and the pursuers. But is this really grounded on biological differences? That's for another time.

    To put it another way, men are expected to get shot down often because they're doing the pursuing, and women are the choosers. While that's happening, guys are assumed to eternally be in a position of power, so to act on a younger girl would be an abuse of power. Younger women are easier to convince, so for a man to take advantage of the situation is just unthinkable according to societal norms. However, a guy getting offered sex by an older woman is a reversal of roles which seldom happens, so the male is expected to take advantage of it. For women, again, it's all too common to get an offering or two of man-meat.

    It's almost tiring having to bring up the same old argument about the outcome of cases if we reverse roles, but it always appears to be relevant. It boils down to this:

    Older girl violates younger boy - "What a God damn hero... that a lucky son of a bitch. He did it for every teenage boy out there who will never get to experience older vagina at an early age! Legendary."
    Older boy violates younger girl - "Throw that asshole in prison to rot with the roaches and leftover dinner rats. I hope he gets fucked in the ass by big, black dudes."


    One variable we can throw into the mix though is the attractiveness of the sexual aggressor
    . In this case, Loni is one hell of an attractive babysitter. This plays into the congratulatory response the boy will get, while the actual crime gets buried behind cheers. If the woman in question had been unattractive, more hate would be thrown in her direction because it's assumed that no guy would want to touch her vagina with a meter stick wrapped in an extra-extra-large condom for safety.

    However, since it's a tired argument, here's a little bit of a twist to make things interesting:

    Should parents hold any sort of responsibility in these cases? They're allowing a near stranger to take care of their child, though in some cases they're even family members or good friends. These individuals normally aren't filing taxes for the money they earn, nor are they being held responsible by a legitimate company to do their work at a satisfactory level. You're basically hiring an untested subject to look after your kid, and in this case, what some would call a prostitute due to the exchange of money. Better yet, they unknowingly did the kid a favor. Scratch that, MANY favors.

    You never know what babysitters are doing behind your back, but time and time again, we hear about these cases where the child is either physically or sexually abused. Installing cameras is one tactic that works wonders, and it should be done more regularly if you're even thinking of entrusting your child's health and safety in the hands of a stranger or near stranger. The benefits of these cameras are endless; you can catch your partner drunkenly cheating or even make home videos of the xxx variety. Know that the money you spend is worth it.

    Does Loni deserve harsh punishment for her sexual acts? Should parents be held responsible in any way with cases such as this? What do you think about gender differences? Would you hit it? I certainly would.

    Extra reading: This site has a huge list of girls who have sexually violated a minor. It's more common for a man to commit a sexual crime, however.

    Sincerely,
    Nunez Love Doctor.

    Certified with a PhD in Teenage Pillow Poking & The Babysitting Kama Sutra.

    To take a page out of the Lovelyish book,

Comments (78)

  • bcronin@xanga

    Not knowing anything about the case other than what's presented above, I'm left with what I think is a more relevant question... Why the hell does a 14 year old even NEED a babysitter

  • AsylumBlue

    @bcronin@xanga - Basically this. I was going to write about it, but I felt I said enough when I mentioned how overprotective some wealthy parents can be in the suburbs. It's absurd.

  • bcronin@xanga

    @AsylumBlue - Agreed. Then again, I've also got to wonder who filed charges in this case. I'd almost suspect that she stopped being hired by the parents, or decided that she didn't want to any more and, as a fairly nasty move, the boy / family complained about it. In which case, that would mean that she wasn't so much guilty of having sex with him as she is guilty of *stopping* having sex with him.

    Makes ya wonder...

  • TheNotoriousGOD@xanga

    what the fuck, you had to pay full fare for a metrocard? 


    in response to the post:  nice.  (a la south park.)

  • phoebester@xanga

    @bcronin@xanga - Yeah, my reaction exactly. As far as I know, most fourteen-year-olds can do their homework, brush their teeth and put themselves to bed pretty easily if their parents want to catch a late-night dinner-and-a-movie thing. Maybe this fourteen-year-old was mentally impaired in some way? That would do a bit more in villainizing the hot babysitter and making her more of a predator and less of a hot fantasy for pubescent boys. BTW I think this is an excellent post and a very clear examination about the reversal of gender roles when it comes to underage sex. Men chase after under-age girls and they're monsters. Women chase after under-age boys and they're easy to forgive.

  • AsylumBlue

    @TheNotoriousGOD@xanga - Hell no, haha. I meant that I had one of those Metrocards that paid the fare in full so I didn't have to since my family's income was low enough. Free cafeteria food and err'thing!

  • bcronin@xanga

    @phoebester@xanga - Given that it says (above) "consensual", that would at least tend to argue against mental impairment on the part of the boy.

    And I absolutely agree with the points about the issue regarding role reversal. Then again, as someone who, at 15, my first partner was a 31-year-old woman (and I was the "pursuer", as it were), I probably also have a bit of a different take on the whole thing in any event.

  • AsylumBlue

    @phoebester@xanga - Thank you. :]
    There was a bit more that I edited in at the last minute which wasn't showing up, but it should be there now. In any case, it goes along with what was already stated, I just further clarified it.

    @bcronin@xanga - It definitely happens the other way around too, but it's uncommon. Since you personally experienced it though, I can understand any mixed feelings on the ideas presented.

  • starcrossedloversdivine@xanga

    The last GIF. Made. This. Post.

    At a younger age, I had an issue with statutory rape laws. I can see where they're coming from, but it's not applicable to every situation. Mine was the same age as presented, genders reversed. When my mom found out that I was dating an "older man" she accused him of statutory rape and threatened to call the police if he ever saw me again. That was very mentally traumatic for me.
     I don't think that all under-16-year-olds are incapable of making the decision to give consent. People are a lot more impressionable at that age, but I wonder where the idea of individual responsibility has gone. Teenagers around the age of 14-15 make reckless decisions, so they should have to live with the consequences. Unless they are actually being raped (not giving their consent at all), this should be a non-issue.

  • ShirleyD@xanga

    lol i was thinking the same as the first comment. at 14, kid should be left alone at home. he isnt 5. the parents are somewhat responsible for exposing him to her. when theyre leaving, dont they see him as a young man being left alone with a young woman??? @_@ they didnt even consider the possibility? obviously, legally there should be something done to loni. though if it were me, i wouldnt prosecute her. he is only 4 years younger. if he had been 17 and she 21 it may not be such a big deal. or him 24 and she 28. and since it was consensual, its all good. if she molested him and raped him, thats a different story. but he was more than down. hell id be down to if i were him. 14 and horny + 19 yr old hottie babysitter = hell yes.

  • Diary_of_a_fatman@xanga

    At first glance at the article, I would say that the girl was in the wrong in doing the act with the teenager. You're right about the way society views this act if the genders were reversed, because that was my initial thought as well. I was once a 16 year old having sex with a 26 year old woman at one point in my life.  I didnt consider it rape. I was just a dude trying to get laid. That being said, had it been a 26 year old man, going after a 16 year old girl, I would've been livid! Now that I am older, and I have girls, I am protective of them. I wouldnt want an older person, male or female, having sex with my children at a young age.  Hell, I wouldnt want a someone the same age as my children to have sex with them! lol Yes, to be fair I think this woman should be treated in the same regard as a teacher who has sex with their student... but I will tell you one thing, if I was that kid at that age, I would have a big smile on my face! Just being honest. She's a cutie. 

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  • testyman666@xanga

    Yes, I would have been all for it. F* statutory laws, I would have lied
    to protect her so we can keep banging.

    A ridiculous amount of those girls on the list are attractive.  So they have to be a
    a little crazy...I mean comon, hot girls usually have guys all the time. 

  • WaitingToShrug@xanga

    Ugh. What 19 year old girl is attracted to a 14 year old boy? And one who can't even be trusted to stay at home by himself, at that.

  • MiriamBeth@xanga

    I feel like the parents of the boy are just trying to make her look like some kind of harlot for teaching their son a big no-no. Their precious boy can't possibly know about the birds and the bees and would never stick his thingy where it doesn't belong until marriage. Puhlease.

  • c_s2@xanga

    well the sole reason why there is a harsher punishment for males than for females that commit statutory rape is that males need to be aroused in order to allow for penetration while females do not and therefore alot of the times even if it might be consensual sex between an older male and a minor female people usually still assume that its rape...cause you gotta admit its kinda hard for a girl to "rape" a guy unless the girl is super strong and forces oral sex on him or mixes viagara in his drinks...

  • lemons_to_lemonade@xanga

    Well some guys mature faster than others physically. Was he a 14 year old that looked and acted like a 14 year old or was he a 14 year old that had the body of a 17 or 18 year old? Weird though about needing a babysitter....were there younger siblings that maybe she was watching and he was just home too? Or was she like some kind of tutor or something? lol...hot babysitter/teacher fantasy in one if that was the case!


    Either way if it's consensual does it really matter? There are a lot worse things going on in the world. I've slept with someone four years younger than me, and I've slept with someone ten years older...so it might be cliche...but age is just a number. It only has meaning if you give it meaning. They should have just fired her and told her not to contact their son again and be done with it.

  • oneLBcloser@xanga

    While I did agree with most of what you said... One thing bothers me. Why is it assumed just because she was older that she was the agressor? She very well could have succumbed to HIS advances. I don't see many girls looking like her chasing 8th grade penis. But if he was cute and convincing enough, he could talk her into giving it a try. I just don't see her as being a predator, but definately lacking in judgement and not taking consequences seriously enough, Then again, she's 19. OH WELL

  • KickDrumHeart

    Sooo she was kind of like a prostitute - getting paid to have sex with a boy. :p

    I know there were some very old-looking boys with adult builds that I went to middle school with, so she wasn't necessarily the initiator. Though, they both obviously enjoyed it or it wouldn't have gone on for so long.

  • xxfl1@xanga

    idk its still not okay. they say guys cant realize the consequences of their actions until they're 25. for girls its 18. 14 is way too young, although i know thats not really uncommon. so. whatever. it worries me, if that ever happened to my kid id feel bad. yet it also could've very easily been his choice or idea. so idk.

  • kor_girl@xanga

    does it count as a "rape" charge when it's consensual, only because he was a 14 yr old minor with a 19 yr old adult?


    wtf is a cute 19 yr old having sex with a 14 yr old boy who MIGHT act and LOOK older but still can't stay home by himself?!!!! ....


    And who the heck caught them doing it? Who pressed charges? Did she find someone older, who can take care of themselves without their parents, wanted to stop doing the minor and he squealed?


    if the boy consented, are they counting it as a second degree rape because they view him as an innocent little boy?? ugh

  • meaganbme93@xanga
    The part about "your mom's ugly fat immigrant friend" almost made me pee myself. (:
    As a mother to be, who has decided not to go away to college simply because I don't find people trustworthy enough to keep my child, I definitely blame the babysitter. But it is WEIRD that he's fourteen with a babysitter. . . His parents HAD to have known.
  • P0RCELA1N_D0LL@xanga

    I was home alone since I was in the 4th grade. what a wuss that guy is. I'd be embarrassed to be associated with that guy

  • MethodOfMyMadness@xanga

    Why would a 14 year old need a babysitter?

  • missmerlot@xanga

    This was very well written, and completely true.

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