Tuesday, 12 July 2011
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Could Reading a Book Land You a Date?
I have always enjoyed reading, I am an English major after all, and I sometimes spend too much time burying my head in a good book rather than interacting with the people around me. So I never thought spending time not paying attention to my surroundings would land me a date. I was reading one of Chelsea Handler's books in the Dunkin' Donuts near my place of work when a voice interrupted the sentence I was reading, "Is it any good?"If I could have created a guy that I personally would be attracted to he would be it. He had the most beautiful smile I had ever seen and a defined jaw line with a hint of shadow, a freckled nose and deep blue eyes. His hair was dark brown and long enough to run your fingers through and he was tall, dressed in a form fitting v-neck and shorts so I could tell he had an nice athletic build. But that was just his appearance.
As he sat down with me we began discussing what I was reading and found myself in a deep conversation about what he was reading followed by what his passions were in life. If he was bait, I was hooked. This guy seemed smart, down to earth, driven, and devastatingly handsome and he loved to read!
After I regretfully said I had to run off so I wouldn't be late to get to the office he jotted down my number and a day later asked me to get dinner with him! Who would have thought that Chelsea Handler could have helped me in the dating world? Reading a book could help you find someone who is interested in the same things you are and therefore a great match. So the next time you think about reading a book know it's a fabulous way to grab attention from the people around you and possibly get you a date.
Have you ever been approached when reading a book?
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- From: CarlyPaige
- About Me: Currently I am a college student studying English and Education. A true monogamist, I have only had 2 serious boyfriends but have been single for 2 years. The dating scene in college is complicated to say the least and here I will share with you my experiences, my friends experiences, both past and present as an example of what to do when confronted with awkwardness, confusion and love.
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Yup! Sounds like fun and glad Chelsea had a hand in that. :)
i feel as though it would be better advice to say, "do proudly that which you enjoy doing... and a sexy man with similar interests will find you."
Well, I don't really read books. So, in that form of landing a date, probably not. Come to think of it, I don't land much dates anyhow.
I was approached by a guy while I was reading. He ended up talking to me for over an hour, I was too polite to tell him to buzz off. He told me he was writing a "fantasy novel along the lines of a traditional fairy tale, where a princess gets rescued by a prince." He said he would email me some of his story, and I, being too polite again, gave him my email address. He added me on Facebook and when I saw his recent status update talking about how he'd had "the best conversation ever with the girl of my dreams" I immediately deleted him and finally had to respond to his emails telling him I had a boyfriend. I didn't.
Ugh. Worst experience ever.The trick here is to read interesting books. Don't read poetry, don't read fiction published before last year, and don't read any sort of technical non-fiction. I read and write when I'm sitting around and waiting most of the time (and I do a lot of waiting for some reason...), and I've never been approached by anyone to talk about a book or whatever I'm writing.
awww, good for you!! good luck x
I don't have the attention span to read lengthy books anymore. the last book that I read was the "Melancholy death of oyster boy and other (short) stories" by tim burton
sad yet humorous stories and gets straight to the point. they are similar to pixar/dreamworks short films, which are my favorite. I remember one time while I was at barnes and noble and some skater guy walked in the same aisle that I was browsing at and just plopped down and sat on the floor next to my legs where I was standing as I was flipping through books. I think he was checking out my arse
he didn't talk to me but was reading his book while I was pretending that I didn't notice him
I grabbed a book and walked out of the aisle and when I looked back, he was indeed walking nearby but didn't have the guts to talk to me. I walked out of the bookstore and out of his life forever
oh well, not meant to be. or I used to sit on the stairway while waiting for my next class and random people would sit on the stairs directly across from me
they didn't talk to me either. I think we were both waiting for the other to say something, which nobody did
one guy did talk to me but he wasn't my type-_-
Yep. Â John Lennon is very popular.
I've never been approached by a guy while I was reading, but to be honest, that would be the most annoying thing. Unless this guy's a friend of mine, I don't want anyone interrupting my reading time, no matter how good looking he might be.
That's it no more reading in bed haha I'm going to gloria jeans!
not me so far.
If a cute guy came up to me and asked me about the book I was reading, and continued to talk to me about other books/poetry/similar topics, I'd probably fall in love right then and there. I'm super jealous of your experience. Haha.
So jealous!!! And I tend to read a lot of Shakespeare and old British novels in public...maybe I can snag a cute, well-educated British guy? Haha
i read math papers, so...until i meet a girl who considers herself a skilled mathematician, i don't think this is really gonna work out for me.
I think that totally depends on whether the girl is only wearing the book... However, there is something uncontrollably attractive to a woman who is an intellectual. It could also tell you alot about the person's personality and interests; philosophy, fiction, science fiction, romance, horror, poetry, religion, etc... I know I would avoid a woman reading about Catholocism or about Satan, just as much as I would avoid a girl who reads romance. Let me explain that last part. A woman who endulges in romance has been too involved in fantasy styled relationships and has completely lost perspective with a healthy normal relationship.
being cute also helps
Sadly "The Wind-Up Bird Chronicle" got me more conversations than the countless classics that I normally read. I guess it depends how intimidating the book you're reading is. Or how new. For instance the hottie math major didn't even know what book I was reading he just always saw me reading it on the streetcar we both took to University and finally got the courage to talk to me when I, for once, wasn't immersed in a book.
@lonestardust - That's a shame ;) I like to read older books. Hahaha
OP:
I've had people ask me about the books that I was reading before. Depending if they already had a crush on me, they'd use that moment to ask me out.
Yes. Seems like what gets the most interest is any kind of philosophy, maybe because that can easily start a conversation. I dated a guy once who told me that he thought it was "so hot" that I carried a book in my purse instead of a makeup bag.
...didn't she write that one about a collection of one-night stands? I can see that cover attracting a guy's attention. Just sayin'.
I'd love to be approached by a guy asking about my reading material, though I have a bad habit of taking off dust jackets if I'm reading hardcover. This could change.
I read all the time because reading is enjoyable to me. I do not read to attract people nor land dates. I read because it's fun. Simply exciting to me. However the guys I have dated do not read. I still wonder why they did not last.
what happened to me was, my first date in life approached me as i was reading research papers seriously in the Uni library and it turned out to be a 7 years relationship. another popped up while i was diligently working.
recently, i went to an acquaintance's home and i screamed as i found that he had a book of my interest (but couldn't find it in shops). i couldn't help but rushed to the shelf and asked if i could borrow that. I have known this guy for over a year, and, before the borrowing, he usually gazed at me while i was reading 'boring' books (psycholinguistic).
i think guys like girls who are enthusiastic in something because they said they like the way i was. what they said was 'so intently, so adorable'.
@lonestardust - "The trick here is to read interesting books. Don't read poetry, don't read fiction published before last year, and don't read any sort of technical non-fiction."
Are you kidding me? Not only are you saying that poetry, old fiction, and non-fiction aren't interesting, but you're also seriously giving women advice to try to read books that will be interesting to some random person who may or may not walk up to hit on them while reading? Oh for the love of god.I guess I should stop reading Catch 22 then because it was published before last year. Jesus.
@thisiswhereItellyoueverything@xanga - Yo. Stave off that internet rage. If you'd read the whole schtick of the comment, I'm saying those things clearly aren't interesting because no one's ever approached me when I read them. (Ah - see! I'm being snarky and pessimistic. People don't find those books interesting, so abandon all hope ye who enter.) I'm not sure I even own anything published as fiction written after 1990, and I can certainly count my poetry past that same date with a single, non-maimed hand. Hell, the most valuable book I own is probably my Riverside Chaucer (which I might legitimately take a bullet for).
Being a bookaholic myself, to me this sounds like the absolute best thing that could ever happen to a girl!
I have been approached like this once...though it was a creepy experience.
I was 14, on a cruise, and reading in a designated "quiet activity" room by the deck. Some guy in his twenties just interrupts me and starts asking about my book (The Thief Lord by Cornelia Funke, something I read in fourth grade but still love!) and then about me and I couldn't get away. He just felt creepy and we were the only ones in the room. Now I don't think that the minute a guy speaks to me he is hitting on me....but the whole time I sat there thinking, "He's going to rape me or kill me and I don't have my phone to get dad here for an excuse to leave and..." etc. Before leaving for the cruise my mom loaded my mind with horror stories of that nature. Bad day for me.
I'm still waiting for the day that I'm rooting through the shelves at Border's and Mr. McHotAsHeck comes and starts discussing my favorite series with me. :] You're so lucky that that happened to you! He sounds like a looker :]