Monday, 11 July 2011
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I've Never Seen an Ugly Person!
This post was submitted by an anonymous user.
This is a response to a post I recently read on Datingish. In NO way am I trying to attack or judge the author.
However, I just wanted to say, I've never seen an ugly person. I've never met or passed someone on the streets and thought that person was ugly. I've never seen someone I would call unattractive.
I have seen people that are very attractive, but never anyone unattractive! Thinking about it, all throughout my life, I have never understood what would make someone physically ugly. I spoke to my boyfriend about this once.
Me: "Boyfriend, you would tell me if I was ugly right? I haven't ever seen an ugly person, so I am scared that I'm ugly and I don't know it!"
His response: "Girlfriend, I have something to tell you."
Me (thinking, "I'M UGLY, aren't I?"): "What?"
His response: "I will show you an ugly person tomorrow."
The next day, he pulled up a picture of an old friend of ours that we no longer associate with. She is gorgeous, in high school, boys would turn their heads as she walked down the hallway.
Me: "She's absolutely beautiful! What are you talking about?"
Boyfriend: "She sleeps with a different guy every night, lies to her friends, cries to make people feel bad for her, and steals money from her mom."
Me: "She's not ugly. She's insecure."
He went on to explain that even if she was insecure, her character is not the best. Her dishonesty, short temper, manipulative attitude, and selfishness made her unattractive to him.
Readers, I totally understand that a person's character can make them an ugly person, regardless of their outside beauty. But I really want to know what makes a person ugly when we don't know what kind of person they are!
What makes a person ugly physically? Do you think I am too indiscriminate about physical looks?
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I find very, very few people ugly. Maybe unhygienic or un-kept but not ugly. I also have trouble identifying to myself what an ugly physical characteristic would be.
Personality is what changes a persons outward appearance for me. I only find people with unattractive personalities to be unattractive physically.
Beauty is in the eye of the beholder. What may be ugly to you could be beautiful to others. Maybe someday you'll see someone who you think is physically ugly but then you'll fall in love with them and they'll automatically become more physically attractive to you. We tend to focus on the negative parts of a person because in our own ways we're all automatically judgemental and critical but when you fall in love you begin to only notice the positive parts. For instance, I've always cared about my best guy friend, but I used to think he was physically unattractive. Then I started to fall in love with him and I find pretty much every part of him extremely attractive now. In some ways I think he's the most handsome man I've ever seen.
Anyway, point being, maybe you define your standards as ugly differently then others, but everyone has people they find attractive and unattractive right off the bat. I've had guys tell me I was one of the most beautiful women they've ever seen when they first met me and others say I was one of the ugliest. Does that mean I'm ugly? No. Does that mean I'm beautiful? No. People who know and love me percieve me as beautiful because I'm beautiful on the inside. That's why I find myself physically attractive too. I'm just as critical as the next girl but when I look in the mirror I see a pretty girl staring back at me.
You're probably the only person I've ever heard say "I've never seen a ugly/unattractive person." Maybe you don't get out much? lol or maybe you think too much into it to be judgemental right off the bat.
Technically, everyone's "ugly" because everyone has at least one flaw that society wouldn't approve of. But that doesn't mean that they're ugly, it means they're human.
i saw a girl yesterday with her decent looking boyfriend. but she... she was ugly looking. beyond a butterface. like, i kept thinking how in the hell can he stand to look at her face??? @_@ her body wasnt great either but eith a cute face, so what. but damn. her face was ugly. like someone bashed her face in with a frying pan and then pulled at her features elongating her nose and making her trollish. guess ugly people are people you do an automatic ughhhh to when ya see them. or as your boyfriend pointed out, a person with an ugly awful personality. you can be gorgeous but if your personality sucks, forget it. lol.
im a very feely person, so a person cant be physically ugly to me. just maybe doesnt take the best care of themself or dress really as good as they can. for me its all spiritual, i agree with your boyfriend being a good person makes someone beautiful. acting like that girl, and having characterisitics similar and just as bad or worse is very offputting and not attractive.
I don't find most people truly ugly until I see that their personality is ugly. There are plenty of people I don't find attractive to me personally but that is just my own perspetive and beauty is completely subjective. But I rarely ever pull out the word ugly on people purely on physical matters alone. Even if they're deformed in some way, I just see them as different looking, but not ugly.
I actually remember the first time I saw someone who I thought was ugly. I was in eighth grade. She walked up and was friends with my best friend, but I had never met her before. I had to control my facial expression not to be mean, and I remember after I got to know her trying to figure out how I had ever thought she was ugly. It was a really weird experience for me.
Other than that one time I don't feel like I've ever really thought someone was ugly. I can't even remember what that girl looked like, now.Haha! Oh man.......ummm....like everyone else is saying, beauty is in the eye of the beholder. It's up to you to judge whether or not the person is ugly or attractive. Sadly, though, we all tend to judge it on physicalities.
they aren't ugly per se, just not my type. like some people might think that they are ideally attractive or decent looking, but I might think otherwise. I've seen more ugly babies than adults. they are suppose to be cute but some of them are just ugly, just saying. to each their own
I feel like the opposite. It's very hard to find a really attractive person anymore.
Listen to "Beauty is only skin deep" by the Temptations! =) I'm not naive though, I know looks play a part in attraction but if I cant talk to you or like your personality, you could be Mr./Miss Universe & I still wont like you.
Yep, I agree. I've never seen a truly ugly person until I got to know them better and their personality made them ugly. I find most people pleasant and attractive.
oh i could show you an ugly person. inside AND out.
I have seen people who are LESS unattractive but I never use the word ugly... its such a harsh word. I thing exaggerated features can make someone look funny... for example being overly skinny or overly fat. Also with facial features really large jaws, big wide faces, small squinty eyes. Of course people always have beauty aswell. You might have a big fore head but your smile can be beautiful.. things like that. I also think that being OVERLY attractive is unattractive I like a little character. I do agree with your boyfriend I have met really attractive people who just have ugly personalities. It is easy to make up exscuses for them and want to see the good in them (which there is). However, one of my best friends can be sooooo selfish sometimes ugh it just makes her so unpretty to me.
Some people use the word ugly too liberally.
On a physical level from 1 to 10, only 1s are ugly in my opinion. My bf thinks below 5, thus below average, is already ugly. My sister calls people ugly because they have a physical trait that she doesn't find attractive. I think they're too harsh. I tend to always see something beautiful in people. She's overweight, but she has super pretty eyes and smile, so she's not ugly.
I don't remember one incident where I found someone ugly on the outside, but many incidents where I found someone ugly on the inside.
I've seen many an ugly person, but the word "ugly" is relative. I think it depends on what you would think a physically ugly person is supposed to look like. Other than that, I totally agree with your post. There are many ugly people who look beautiful on the outside.
The guy in the picture looks like a cracked-out Justin Bieber.
@starcrossedloversdivine@xanga - Haha, AGREED.
I've never met a "physically ugly" person either. But if this post was about inner ugliness -- then yes.
I never met a physically ugly person. I have met several people who are very ugly because of their attitudes and behaviors toward others. I agree with most people on this list. I am not saying that I haven't judged. I mean everyone has...this is america and the 21st century. I have thought that some people's outfits are unflattering. but I never met a person who was actually ugly in appearance.
i think that really overweight people aren't very attractive.
There are people that I think are more attractive than others, but I really don't find one person physically
"ugly". Sometimes, I've said it, but realized that I'm just talking about personality. Sometimes, I may not be attracted to someone, but that doesn't mean they are ugly at all.
i like your perspective.