Friday, 08 July 2011
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When Undressing Actually Turns You Off
Maybe it's just me but when a guy takes longer than a minute to unhook my bra, the feeling of urgency turns into a waiting game to see how long he's gonna take to fumble along back there. It's a complete turn off. The difference of undressing being a turn on or a turn off is the smoothness of your partner. When anyone seems unsure of themselves it's only natural for you to feel uncomfortable.A piece of advice I would give to those who feel they need to brush up on their undressing skills is "when in doubt, slow down." When you are in a rush you are more likely to pull a girl off the bed instead of just pulling her pants off leaving her with a concussion or a nasty bruise. Fond memories of you suffocating her when trying to raise her button down blouse over her head also will not suffice.
The sexiest thing you can do is look her in the eye when you slowly unzip her pants and pull them down. Confidence is key but most importantly you should be comfortable because even if you stumble and fall while in the process of undressing you can laugh at each other and it will come off as endearing rather than embarrassing.
Have you ever been turned off when undressing? How do you turn on your partner when stripping down?
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I'm usually so ready I'm the first undressed and then taking his clothes off. I've never had a clothing malfunction. This really happens?
If I'm at home I'm probably not wearing a bra anyway. Or pants for that matter.
I've always just laughed it off when something like that happens. It's really not a big deal at all. Sometimes I get really self-conscious when undressing though, and that definitely kills the mood quickly. :(
It can get annoying, it's not hard at all.
That.s why women should stop wearing bras.
it sure turns me on, and I can't wait until he takes his pants off
I think you're just unlucky.
I've always just found it amusing and if I really thought he was taking too long, I knew how to undress myself and him as well.
"Fond memories of you suffocating her when trying to raise her button down blouse over her head also will not suffice."
OMG THIS. YES. Every man needs to learn that button-ups have buttons for a reason.
As long as I'm getting sexy time, I never complain :p
The first time he can't undo my bra, it's kind of cute.. the second time, eh, it's a little bit of a mood killer.. the third time, maybe you are not ready to be taking off a girls bra.
My one ex was so terrible at taking of bras! I mean, how hard could two little hooks be? I started taking off my own bra, because it killed the mood too much if he got me to turn completely around for him to take it off.
My boyfriend can undo my bra one-handed without looking! Now that's skill!
I can unhook a bra with one hand in 10 seconds! Pinch and twist is the secret
...Take your own bra off then? And your shirt? I feel like it's super ridiculous to lose interest in sex because the undressing takes longer or doesn't go as smoothly as it does in the movies.
I totally understand. I like to be submissive so I want the guy to be undressing me. It turns me off when I have to do it all completely myself, that's just how I think. Ideally the guy would know how to take off clothes...it's not that hard...
No, I haven't.
I honestly think it's really cute when a guy can't unhook your bra or don't know what part of you to take off first, I mean, it can be a mood killer, but you just got to laugh it off and move on...
usually the guy I was with would take my bra off first. The pants, I would usually take off myself. ahha.
I've never really paid attention to the undressing part. I remember when I was 14 though, I was standing outside with some friends and one of the guys there boasted how well he could unhook bras. I didn't volunteer, but I was closest and with my shirt on and all he managed to unhook my bra with one hand in under 5 seconds without me noticing. Definite skill. I was in too much shock to even feel violated and/or angry.
@SupperMick@xanga - I came here to say this. That is all.
:)
luckily for me, I can undo a bra with 3 fingers under 1 second without looking, yes 1 second,... faster than all of you girls and being serious
if he fumbles for more than ten seconds i unhook the bra. there is no way that's gonna be the mood killer. haha.
I remember I was once trying to be sexy while undoing a guy's pants... omg, such a disaster! I was in such a hurry and I had thought it would be a quick thing. But, I didn't take into account that I'd had a few drinks and my motor skills weren't 100%. Not to mention instead of a normal zipper, his pants had buttons and then a weird hidden interior zipper. To be honest, I doubt I could have done it if I were 100% sober, lol. It was just ridiculous. I gave up and said "omg, wth is this... you need to do this bc omg", and he did. Thank goodness lol. @Murphy_Rants@xanga - ditto... I absolutely hate pants, they're just not right. Ever. :(
I've been married 15 years this month and I gave up on trying to unhook her bras about a month after we got married. Guess it's not that much of a mood killer for everybody. There's things you can do & things you just can't, I suppose. She doesn't seem to mind.
@Murphy_Rants@xanga - Right on!
I like dating awkward guys, and seeing them squirm and get uncomfortable is a weird turn on in itself. So. I say, let them fumble. ;)