Thursday, 07 July 2011
I have always been a hopeless romantic. I love love and when I find it, no matter with whom, I am happiest. I believe that a person can have more than one soul mate, 3 in my opinion, and each one teaches you deeper levels of what it feels like to fall in love. Each happen at different points in your life, points where you least expect it but need it most. These loves are the great loves who help you grow into the person you were always meant to be.
I believe your first love, the one that you always will compare everyone to, the one you will hold a place for in your heart forever and the one you know would have never lasted teaches you how to deal with loss, and heart break, and puppy love. They teach you what it's like to find someone you connect with on such a deep, meaningful level and they teach you trust. With your first love, most likely, you experience sex for the first time and this bond is a tie that you will always carry. Time seems to slow down when you are together and everything else seems meaningless.
You learn about what you want from the person you love and the qualities that you need them to possess and you learn the heartache of when the person you fell in love with isn't enough. Sometimes there's distance involved, and sometimes there are parents, but those are just hurdles when you look back and realize there was something missing. With this person you will always feel butterflies in your stomach and your heart beats out of your chest whenever you see them and you will always hold them up on a pedestal.
In your second soul mate you have those same feelings of falling in love all over again. Everything is new and exciting and the world is brighter but you are more cautious this time to let yourself go. You know what it feels like to lose the person you love, to push them away and to want different things.
But this love is different, it's as easy as breathing and you seem to have found the person who is absolutely perfect for you and they balance you out, compliment your flaws, and teach you things you never thought you could learn from someone. They back you up when you need it, and yell at you when you are out of line, and hold you when your world seems shaky. This soul mate is the one you stay with for a very long time. Though this soul mate may not ever take form in a husband, or even a boyfriend, but a friend.
Lastly, the third soul mate is someone you teach. This love is completely unconditional. You teach them everything you know and every mistake you have made. This is the person you wrap your whole existence around and use all your experience and advice to help this person. You love them more than yourself and until the moment of meeting them you were unsure of the meaning of life. You would give the shirt off your back for this person and sacrifice your own selfish wants just so they can be happier. You would rather feel any amount of pain just to keep this person from hurting.
I obviously still have a lot to learn, and I don't know exactly when these loves come into your life and what they will be to you but this is what I think for now. Not everyone reaches number three, and some are lucky enough to find their soul mate with the first person they fall in love with and some people fall in love with many people. But with each love, you learn the meaning of life because we are happiest when we connect to another human being and the years we are not seem to blur together.
Do you believe in soul mates? How many soul mates do you believe a person could have?