Thursday, 07 July 2011
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Can a Person Have Three Soul Mates?
I have always been a hopeless romantic. I love love and when I find it, no matter with whom, I am happiest. I believe that a person can have more than one soul mate, 3 in my opinion, and each one teaches you deeper levels of what it feels like to fall in love. Each happen at different points in your life, points where you least expect it but need it most. These loves are the great loves who help you grow into the person you were always meant to be.I believe your first love, the one that you always will compare everyone to, the one you will hold a place for in your heart forever and the one you know would have never lasted teaches you how to deal with loss, and heart break, and puppy love. They teach you what it's like to find someone you connect with on such a deep, meaningful level and they teach you trust. With your first love, most likely, you experience sex for the first time and this bond is a tie that you will always carry. Time seems to slow down when you are together and everything else seems meaningless.
You learn about what you want from the person you love and the qualities that you need them to possess and you learn the heartache of when the person you fell in love with isn't enough. Sometimes there's distance involved, and sometimes there are parents, but those are just hurdles when you look back and realize there was something missing. With this person you will always feel butterflies in your stomach and your heart beats out of your chest whenever you see them and you will always hold them up on a pedestal.
In your second soul mate you have those same feelings of falling in love all over again. Everything is new and exciting and the world is brighter but you are more cautious this time to let yourself go. You know what it feels like to lose the person you love, to push them away and to want different things.But this love is different, it's as easy as breathing and you seem to have found the person who is absolutely perfect for you and they balance you out, compliment your flaws, and teach you things you never thought you could learn from someone. They back you up when you need it, and yell at you when you are out of line, and hold you when your world seems shaky. This soul mate is the one you stay with for a very long time. Though this soul mate may not ever take form in a husband, or even a boyfriend, but a friend.
Lastly, the third soul mate is someone you teach. This love is completely unconditional. You teach them everything you know and every mistake you have made. This is the person you wrap your whole existence around and use all your experience and advice to help this person. You love them more than yourself and until the moment of meeting them you were unsure of the meaning of life. You would give the shirt off your back for this person and sacrifice your own selfish wants just so they can be happier. You would rather feel any amount of pain just to keep this person from hurting.
I obviously still have a lot to learn, and I don't know exactly when these loves come into your life and what they will be to you but this is what I think for now. Not everyone reaches number three, and some are lucky enough to find their soul mate with the first person they fall in love with and some people fall in love with many people. But with each love, you learn the meaning of life because we are happiest when we connect to another human being and the years we are not seem to blur together.
Do you believe in soul mates? How many soul mates do you believe a person could have?
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- From: CarlyPaige
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Kudos. I'm neutral on this subject just because I'm only 18 years old and I'd like to find out for myself
So so true! I've only had 2 gf's... and they definitely fit the first two... hopefully... I will hit the hat-trick...
i think the number would vary based on the person.
i believe in soulmates. for sure.
I don't think you can put a number on soul mates, but good descriptions of ones.
I'm still unsure as to whether I believe in soul mates or not. I feel like it's an idea that's too good to be true, but maybe I'm just a skeptic. :-/
That's an interesting take on the whole "soulmates" thing. Thanks for the post!
Chances are there will always be someone out there better fit to be with you than the person you end up with. Does this mean I think I have multiple soul mates and that my husband isn't the only one? No. My husband is my soul mate because I chose him to be my soul mate.
Soul mate is a choice, not destiny.
I found a few duds, who turned out to be sociopaths, so our "relationship" was actually built on manipulation and deception
so I falsely fell in love with a person, who he portrayed, or maybe I just liked the kinder half of his alter ego
I believe someone can have multiple personalities and one of those might be my partial soul mate, so I fall in love with three separate personalities-_- since nobody is perfect, then it only makes some sense that sometimes if only the 3 people combined, then they'd be totally awesome. however, that's only in a utopian world, so accept the person as who he is and hope that he is only maybe 15% evil, so it outweighs the rest or wuteva.
Lol this was cheesy. I hate my first love so much to the point where I wouldn't give a damn if he died today.
Love is bullshit, that's all I have to say about that. ;)
If soulmates do exist I think a point that some people miss is that many different kinds of people can connect to you in that "soulful" way. Soulmates do not just apply to romantic love in my opinion. You can deeply connect to a friend, family member or even a stranger in a way that is indescribable to you. So yes I do believe most people can connect that way with more then one person in their lifetime. It doesn't mean that they need to friggin marry the person. Sometimes even your soulmate is not the right person for you to spend your life with. I mean there are billions of different people in this world. I just don't believe that there is only one perfect person for everyone.
@lilblucherrygrl@xanga - i completely agree. people are confusing "soulmate" with "love"
the concepts aren't really connected but might be at times. but soulmates are a lot more broad and specific.
just seconding everything you said. doesnt have to be romantic, can be friendship etc.
What if you have had someone in your life that fits all three categories? Unfortunately, we're no longer dating... :(
I read this novel by Paulo Coelho. I believe it was Brida. In the novel it talked about soul mates. It said how every time the soul reaches enlightenment it divides into two souls. Therefore its a creation of many new souls from one core soul. Makes sense? The novel its self dealt with finding more than one soul mate.
I think part of me would like to believe in souls. If I believe in the human soul then of course it only makes sense in my head to believe in soul mates. Part of me just rather not get my hopes up and believe that it is a few people out there that I can connect to on a indescrible level.
Soul mates don't exist. Deep connections that seem almost instantaneous exist, but those aren't always romantic, and it's still not "soul mates."
I like those balloons
I don't really believe in soul mates. I've been told by 3 guys I've dated that I was their soul mate. I don't even think my husband is my soulmate, even though I love him more than anything. I'm happy that I married him, but I don't think he's "the one"...everything worked out for us, and we love each other, but it could have been with someone else if our paths had gone different ways.
I'm obviously not very romantic.
lol rachel mcadams looks weird in that pic.
still love the note book though <3
Kudos to the post, but I don't believe in soul mates. /3\
I don't really believe in soul mates, but I do agree that you can fall in love with more than one person. My "loves" are backwards from your formula. The first guy I was really serious with had a big impact on my life, but I don't think I really loved him anywhere near the level of passion I had for my second serious boyfriend. The 2nd guy fits the description of your 1st guy more. And now I'm with my current boyfriend who i'm pretty sure will be my husband. :)
I also dont believe in soul mates because things seem a little too "wrong guy/right time" or "right guy/wrong time" to me, both with my life and friend's lives. The 2nd guy I was talking about, I probably would've married him if we had started dating a little later in life. My best friend wanted to marry this guy she was dating--it was a great time in her life for it--but he just ended up not being the right guy.
o.O Apparently I've had all three (am on number three). Weird.
I've never associated soul mates with the guys I've dated. I'm still with the first guy I've fallen in love with and he pretty much fits all the categories. I think I'll probably keep him around :p. I have fallen heavily in like with different guys and they've all taught me different things. I think that's why things worked out so well with my current boyfriend. I've told him before that he's my soul mate and he's told me the same thing. There was a lot of fate happening in our relationship though and I definitely think that we were meant to be together because of everything that's happened.
Yes I agree! I've had 3 loves.
I do not believe in "soul mates" or "the one". I don't believe in monogamy or that we are meant to spend our life with the same person forever. I think there's enough statistics out there to support my view as well (hello, divorce rate lol).
That said... I DO believe in "forever love" and "true love". I believe you can truly, absolutely, undoubtedly, love someone forever. I also believe we can love more than one person. If you can love your whole family (parents, siblings, etc), your spouse(s), all your children, etc. - then why can't you feel that same love for the same guy/girl again? So I feel we can truly love someone 100%. I also believe it can last forever, even when the person is gone.
I have had the "fortune" of experimenting with my theories enough to believe strongly in what I've stated. I have loved 4 men in my entire life, out of plenty of... other men. I refer to them as "the loves of my life". I still to this day love all 4 of them incredibly and with profound depth. All 4 are gone, we split ways through time. I haven't seen or spoken to any of them in 1-4 years depending on which guy it was. I still love all 4 of them, and loved them while I was with another guy. But for whatever reason, it didn't work out in this life time. I can't imagine ever falling out of love with them. 2 of them still love me (it's been so long with the other two that I don't know, but I like to think they still love me too) just as much as I love them. Maybe some day there will be a 5th guy, maybe there won't. I'd be fine either way, because I've loved like crazy and I will never forget the men who changed my life.
So there's my theory. Soul mates and 'the one' don't exist, but true love and forever love do.
@ChuuCheee@xanga - What is that /3\? If it's some emoticon, I don't see what it's supposed to be, haha.
If this is true, then I still haven't found #1. Yet, I was in love with someone and we even had a child together. But I don't compare him to everyone else and find them lower than he was. I compare him and go "EVERYONE is so much better and I was stupid to fall for him." I dunno. I'm not sure about soul mates at all, much less 3 of them. But I am holding out for real, lasting love...