Thursday, 07 July 2011
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Was That a One Night Stand?
When I woke up this morning at 7:30, I felt fairly refreshed and ready for my day after having some drinks with friends last night. Then I felt it, the two things that simultaneously reminded me of what I'd done the night before: the friend rustling around in my bed beside me, and the blankets on my very, very bare skin. I slept with my friend last night.
Yes, in that way. I know, I know - maybe it sounds a little trashy, but this is the first time I've done this with any of my friends. Hell, before last night, I'd only ever slept with one other person.
Anyhow, I scrambled out of bed, threw some clothes on and went out into the living room. I started watching a movie to pass the time and collect my thoughts when I noticed his clothes - every last article of clothing, right down to his socks - splayed out on the floor. It took a minute for it to click, but I realized soon enough that if I didn't get his clothes and set them in my room before he wakes up, he'd have to come right out to where I was, buck naked, to gather his clothes.
Finally he woke up and came out into the living room. He came and sat down beside me and watched a couple movies with me. Just like that. As if nothing had happened at all. And boy am I glad. I'm not the kind of girl to expect anything from guys, so it sits just fine with me that we don't make a big deal out of it.
I'm mulling this over in my mind, and I'm honestly trying to figure out if this was a one night stand or not. He wasn't a random that I'm never going to see or hear from again. But is that all that counts?
End note: I'm not expecting everyone to approve of what I did last night, so if you disagree with my behavior and feel the need to tell me, at least keep it civil.
How would you define a one night stand?
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Comments (21)
Wait to see if it happens again, duh
meh, i would probably just call it a hookup. one night stands, i think is more like if you just met a person or you'll never see them again. isn't a big deal, tho might be a bit of a mind-fuck if you're still friends. lol dk
Does it really matter to you if you're able to define it as a one-night stand or not? Because if I slept with a friend I'd be more worried about how are relationship would change (if at all) than its label.
I guess it depends on how good of a friend he is and he seems like a close one, so to me, I wouldn't define it as a one-night stand.
I hope all remains well with you two.
i hope there's no awkwardness or anything like that afterwards. :(
i think i agree that a one-night stand is with someone you will never see again. but that's just me.
nope. one night stand you only met that night, banged, never see them again.
I don't know. It depends on how well you know him. I guess if you're friends then that means you'll be friends after you had sex, so its not a one-night stand imo. However, I disagree with the definition of a one-night stand being someone you just met and will never see again. I think it can be someone you see around and have talked to before and after you had sex with them, but you never have sex with them again. Maybe that just happens in small towns though...
Friends with benefits?
I'm so straight forward in situations like this, its almost awkward. If I was in the situation I would flat out ask...but thats me, and I'm not really in situations like this. I feel like if it was a 1 night stand, he wouldn't have just kept hanging out the next day...even if you are friends. But then who knows...maybe you just landed yourself in the friends with benefits zone and every time you have a few drinks with this person...thats what happens. It also depends on what YOU want (and hopefully you realize that). If you want it to be a one night stand..well, it is. If you don't...you might have to take charge to get it beyond that.
That definitely wasn't a one night stand. Those are with random strangers. I would classify that as hooking up with a friend. If It were me, I would wait a little while and see how he responds to you and how he acts around you. If you notice a change, then confront him about it.. if not, I would just go about being friends. It might be a little awkward at first, but it will subside. :)
I agree with the previous comments. This cannot be considered a one night stand because it wasn't with a stranger. Definitely more of a hook-up than a one night stand.
if it is no big deal, then why do you have to define it or figure out what exactly it is
Well at least it was with your friend. To most people, that would be horrible just because it might ruin the relationship for them (emotional and attachment issues), but since you say that it isn't really a big deal, just consider it a night of guilty pleasure. XD
Doesn't sound like one. And ppl shouldn't judge you. They're not perfect either. Just don't pay attention to those comments. Hope your relationship with your friend doesn't get too messy!
Hook up.
I'm with everyone else. definitely a hook-up. One-night stands imply you'll never see them again...hell, you might not even know their names if it's a one-night stand
Sounds like fun, wear condoms.
I've done this before. I've been considering these as more of hookups. I hope you guys will still be able to be friends with no awkwardness. There was a little at first with a few of mine, mostly on their part, but we are cool and joking around about it all that. One even happened again just recently.
A one night stand is someone you met that day, slept with & don't talk to again. I would call sleeping with a friend your new friend with benefits. =]
I have had a couple of those..But never a one night stand. If I'm gonna sleep with someone, I'd rather it be someone I've known for awhile.
@ShirleyD@xanga - Pretty much!
I hope it doesn't get awkward! o____o
May be the start of something bigger..no pun intended.. a great romance? maybe!