Tuesday, 05 July 2011

  • What is Your Dream Girl?


    Guys, I know that you're imagining a beautiful, sexy, "hot" woman, when I ask you who your dream girl is. But what I really want to know is deeper than just that.

    When I imagine my dream guy I imagine a man who is so blindly in love with me that he is completely unselfish. He is unselfish about sex, and getting what he wants. What he truly wants is to see me happy because he loves me. (Of course I on the other hand, am asking you this because I want to be a dream girl variety.) I want to know what the majority of you imagine your dream girl to be like.

    How does she speak to you? Is she excited, calm, mysterious, playful?

    How is she sexually? romantic, lustful?

    How does she react? How emotional is she?

    Explain it in as much detail as you can possibly imagine and in your own words. I want to know how you imagine a woman to be YOUR perfect fit.

    (I request that females may also flip this around and describe her dream guy. I simply want to hear from everyone.)

Comments (47)

  • RestlessPhoenix@xanga

    I'm dating my dream girl, basically. She's pretty (she models...) and artistic (theatre major, dancer, etc). She's nice to nearly everyone and affectionate with many. She has a childish enthusiasm for "ordinary" things, such as squirrels and cows, but she's mature in relationships and has an ability to see to the heart of issues. She's sexually adventurous but doesn't forget the value of romance. And, further, her emotions run deep and she's... well, just a little insecure. In short, she's beautiful.

    I've never really had a "dream guy." I just have types and qualities I like. I like the spiritually-driven (but not Judeo-Christian), I like those with a touch of arrogance, I like those who desire love above all else, I like poets, I like gamers and nerds, etc, etc. Basically, Dream Guy has to be supportive, intelligent, goal-oriented, and have similar enough values to me that I don't want to kill him. =D

    OP~ Don't try to become someone's "dream girl." Just be yourself as whole-heartedly as you can, and if you run into the same issues with multiple people, consider tweaking the character trait that's causing the friction. ;)

  • xxfl1@xanga

    my dream guy, i met. but- pretty much, have a good head on their shoulders, be very intelligent. be into spiritual things, alt. supportive and deeply stands for whats right and ethical. they speak passionately profound and enthusiastically. still mysterious and deep. sexually they're dynamite. really exciting, always trying new things. super fun. up for all sorts of stuff, but still very loving passionate and romantic. but wanting to play with me in all sorts of ways-- nothing too crazy, just fun stuff. lol. (but be willing to explore lots of different sides i mean). my ideal guy is really accepting, loving, but still protective and sticks his ground. but cares about my best interests, what happens to me.

    we'd go on trips together, outdoor stuff. he's supportive towards all my ventures. in shape, active, can keep me excited and entertained mind, body spirit. needs to be the whole package. adores and loves me, makes time for me, calls me. loves to see me. same life goals of 2-3 kids, married, full life, and amazing careers.

    also really good with words- that gets me. -- pretty much a major dynamic of extreme intelligence, charm, way with words. while still being passionate, adoring, and endlessly interesting - mysterious-- anything can happen, loves to travel=== the way to my heart. i love hot smart men. yes.

  • SlackerSociety@xanga

    She and I could talk to each other, and we can both sense what the other is thinking. I can elaborate what I am saying, and she won't feel like I'm insulting her intelligence. I can plainly say anything, at any time. She doesn't play games of "dropping hints" or expect me to read her mind 100% correctly all the time. She loves to compete with me occasionally. She likes to be sarcastic, and not above a dirty joke or two. She likes to surprise me with sex. She enjoys art. She is faithful, and doesn't feel the need to talk to me in order to avoid silence. She also likes video games. And deep conversation.

    So in short, an artsy/nerdy/gamer girl who is laid back, and has a bit of a dirty side.
    Most of the time people talk about looks, but I think personality traits are as equally important too.

    Also, flaws/quirks are nice. A woman who is perfect seems inhuman.

  • lyrra_askavi@xanga

    I will depict my dream guy in a conglomeration of fictional characters from TV shows.

    House's accent
    Lance Sweet's quirky humor
    Peter Bishop's intellect and smile
    Booth's masculine frame
    Bill Nye the Science Guy's ability to teach science to small children

  • myfantasydreamland@xanga

    I'm a straight girl but If I was a guy....
    I think long dark hair is lovely, especially if it is wavy and layered around the face and glossy. Quite tall and very thin, maybe big boobs but not a must. I like bones showing. I like girls who have a natural look. I think she would be naturally pretty without makeup but uses makeup such as mascara, eyeliner and light things to bring it out more. And I like full pouty lips, large eyes that look kind and warm, and small cute nose.

    But really I look up to any girl who is very smart, linguistic, kind, loyal, and cute. Also skinny usually is something I am very envious of. I think girls who have some sort of problem are sweet too, like girls who need somone to depend on<3

    Idk. =3

    btw, Gamer girls =awesomness!!

  • GodlessLiberal@xanga

    Smart, nerdy, eloquent, a total horny perv like me, confident, sense of humor, playful. Don't worry, I already found her.

  • Rob_of_the_Sky@xanga
  • Melanthanie@xanga

    I've taken a lot of time to think about both my dream girl and dream guy, but my dream girl is playful and fun with an optimistic outlook on life. (I'm an optimist myself and seem to only attract pessimists who feel the need to bring me down about anything and everything.) She would be a bit of a nerd someone I could play World of Warcraft with or talk about comics and a warm and caring person who would be there for me when I needed her and would know that anytime she needed me I'd do the same. Someone who wouldn't mind holding my hand when we're out every now and again and who would really appreciate the things I did for her.

    Looks well I don't care much about those it would be nice if she were shorter then me given that's asking a lot since I'm only five two. I honestly believe all women are beautiful and what makes them unique is what makes them special so I don't have physical attributes for my dream girl as long as she's herself and loves herself well I'll love her too. :P

  • TheNotoriousGOD@xanga

    someone who knows how to be a productive individual while at the same time has no qualms getting shitfaced any day of the week...and when doing so, can rage until the clubs close at 4, wants to get food with me, then go home and fuck.  went(/goes) to a really, really good school, is passionate about something in life (which is NOT math).  really, really sweet, but hopefully not a pushover.  i'd prefer a lover over a fucker, too.

  • Not_a_real_site@xanga

    .... one with small feet so she can be closer to the stove....  I think it was a horrible idea to ask us of our opinions.  For example I agree with @TheNotoriousGOD@xanga up until he said that she was supposed to be sweet.  I need a feisty bitch.  But that's just me.
    There is no one that will ever be perfect.  There will be plenty of bad to go with that good. So I don't have a dream girl.  I have a set of qualities that need to be met before I will consider dating them, but it's not a finite list.  

  • haltija@xanga

    all i ask is that my dream woman hikes often and has the magical ability to repel ticks. in exchange for this i will give her the whole damn world.

  • Cosmar@xanga

    I'd like a guy that talks to me because he wants me to hear what he has to say, and values my opinion on various subjects, and also wants to listen to ME.
    In short, I want a relationship where both of us care what the other person has to say, and values and respects their opinions.

    I want a guy who isn't all about getting in my pants, a guy who can be romantic.. and be satisfied with a quiet evening.... talking, watching a movie.. just hanging out, you know?
    Without there having to be any sex involved all the time.
    (I think that's the main problem in my current relationship, all my boyfriend wants is sex, sex, sex all the bloody time.. there's no cuddling or anything unless it's leading UP to sex)

    I want a guy who isn't AFRAID or ASHAMED to let me see his emotions, a guy who isn't worried what other people will think if he shows his sensetive side.
    I want love to be mutual in the relationship and neither of us afraid to show how much we care about each other!

    Now THAT IS MY DREAM GUY.
    :D

  • reesa14@xanga
    Passionate about something, anything. My boy is passionate about politics and history, and although I take barely an interest in the subject, I can't help but be in awe of it. I love that he's passionate about something so important. I also love that he's passionate about making a difference in that field, that he wants to get his PHD, that he wants to travel the world, that he has such big desires. He's brilliant, in all ways. He thinks differently and deeply and learning comes very easy to him. He's strong minded, sweet, and a very chill person. He treats people beautifully. He puts others before himself and he sticks to his values.
    The thing I love experiencing with him, which I haven't with any other boyfriend before, is how loyal he is. He's devoted and doesn't play any games. If I had to dab anyone as my dream guy, he sure as hell would be it.  
  • anonymous

    Great post, and I love reading all the comments! In my age group, (19) there's so few males who have dreams of getting married. :( I want to share what my dream guy is so far, though I have very little experience.  


    The whole point of finding someone you like is to have a companion in life, so I thought "hey I better find out what little nuances of other people intrigue me so things don't get boring or old!"
    Also, to preface, I am going to talk about someone who is pretty opposite of me.  I don't see him smile alot, laughing is even more rare, he's quiet, mysterious, doesn't like to talk (and, if you can't see already, I am the opposite: boisterous, loud, chatterbox, ball of fire.) He's a good balance

    I think there is something to be said for someone who is honest; no one likes to be lied to, I get that whole bit, and then trust will come, etc.  But I think being honest makes the person genuine in other areas.  I know a person who is such (guy previously described) and I love how straightforward he is.  I heard a quote from Lady Gaga and it went "you know what I hate more than money...? the truth!" and that quote always seems to come up, like right now in this post lol, but I don't like when people sugarcoat things for no reason, because then you get led on and your left with all these questions.  
    Also, I love mystery.  Not texting/calling every day or even every few days.  Don't get me wrong, I am very physical and I like to be touched, touch the person, but there is something that drives me crazy when there's sexual tension, and besides, groping each other 24/7 is no fun and gets old.  Leaving some space when you aren't living together yet is good, as long as you both are that way.  
    Also to add to the mystery trait which is evidently what I go for (its not wasy to find!) (((because you stay not knowing if its disinterest or playing hard- to - get)))) haha (((but its always me peeling back the guys layers to find he's just playing the "macho - I don't like to talk- too- much or-show-much-emotion-card"))))) But I digress! I like 1)not knowing the answer to everything and 2)guessing because, though it oft drives me crazy, its what makes it interesting.  
    Me and him are the perfect equation because even though we aren't going out, he doesn't like to sleep around, and he likes hanging out with me (more sexually,) because he really is an old soul and doesn't really talk alot. I feel like most conversations with people in my life nowadays aren't really important and I think he thinks it's important to say less and mean more.  (Which I am trying to learn from him because I love it. ) Then you don't rattle off sounding like an idiot, or talk about trivial stuff. And it leaves the other person guessing on deeper meaning, etc.  It may make the conversation shorter, but on the flip side, makes it so much more relevant and meaningful.  
    I guess I don't really go for physical stuff, (though green or blue eyes definitely makes the mystery level heighten, I have found )   ;)
  • P0RCELA1N_D0LL@xanga

    he looks handsome like a super model, has the toned body of a medium weight boxer, big donkey kong packagejust sayin, naturally charming-one wink of his eye and I'm love struck, funny as a comedian, cute as a button but can also be sexy as a pornstar, similiar naughty fantasies as mine, creative mind, stylish, mild tempered-I don't mean that he's shy but he doesn't get angry easily and has self control of his anger, romantic sometimes and knows how to tease and seduce me soothes me with his sexy voice and everything about him is just marvelous I found my dream guy

  • xhalesx@revelife

    @Not_a_real_site@xanga - 

    .... one with small feet so she can be closer to the stove....
    Bahahaha! I laughed out loud when I read this. For 2 reasons: 1) My boyfriend makes kitchen jokes all the time. I'm not the type of girl to be offended by these kinds of jokes. I think they're funny as well. And 2) I have very small feet....
  • haley1262@xanga

    Some one who likes fat girls. Tall, beefy. Funny.
    Not a pussy. Not judgmental. and loves kids. Respectful. 
    Knows how to fix things. Not sexually selfish all the time. Gives foot massages, or back massages. 
    Wake up and tells me i'm beautiful every morning. Loves holding me, and stealing kisses in public when no one's looking. Shit like that. haha. (: 
    that's my dream guy. I'll most likely never get him though... xD


  • KnitCardigan@xanga

    that painting/drawing is bombb <3
    jolie = love x

  • TheGuyYouD0ntKnow@xanga

    She's 5'2 and is getting married to someone else.

  • nepenthium@xanga

    Someone with a great smile, and likes to go on adventures with me.

  • Shytooth@xanga

    My dream guy is tall and lean, with a nice smile. He has beautiful eyes and a great sense of humor. He has to be really into Star Wars, and like Judd Apatow movies as much as I do. He needs to have a compatible taste in music with mine. He needs to have good grammar and spell well, and enjoy reading. He also needs to be good at math since I am not. In fact, I prefer if he is an engineer because I prefer the nerdy type and I want to live a comfortable life that I will not have as a teacher. He must give great massages, and be willing to give them often [I'll reciprocate]. He needs to be honest because I don't tolerate lying. My dream guy also needs to know how to give me my space. He should have a romantic streak but not be over the top. He is great in bed, and wants to have sex as often as I do, but also can tell when I am NOT in the mood. He also needs to be a great listener, and never make me repeat myself. He needs to be very smart, but not act like he's way smarter than me or like I'm way smarter than him; He has to be confident but not arrogant, and not compliment me more than needed. He also needs to be a good decision maker as I am not. He should be able to come up with things to do when we are bored. That is my dream man.

  • xhalesx@revelife

    My boyfriend is my dream guy. He's funny, honest, good-looking, very masculine, outdoorsy, passionate, caring, he's good with kids, and he is handsome the same as good-looking? ;)


    But seriously. He know's how to make me laugh. And when I'm not happy, he puts a smile back on my face. At the same time, he's not afraid to say what's on his mind. And I love that about him. Most girls wouldn't like that about their guy, but I prefer an honest man to a boy who will say whatever his girl wants to hear. He loves getting outside. He likes to play his video games, but when it comes down to it, he would rather be outside riding his bike, taking a walk, hunting, fishing, anything involving the outdoors. He is so passionate about what he loves: God, his family, me , History (he loves watching the history and the discovery channels), etc. He is so caring. I don't know how, but he always seems to know when I'm upset (or on my period). And he always knows how to make me feel loved. And oh my goodness! You should see him around kids (little girls especially). I'm not even joking. Every little girl he comes into contact with has a little crush on him, and that's because he takes the time to get to know them and play with them, even when there are other things he could be doing. And last, but certainly not least, he is very good-looking. We are gonna have some cute kids. :)
  • lapis_lazuli917@xanga

    Hahaha I like the wrong eyes on the picture.

    For one someone who can definitely give me space. I simply can't commit to someone on a 24/7 basis, I need my private time for my own thing.Since we're talking about a dream guy, I'd want someone who could match my nerd/geekiness XD


    Someone who's honest, doesn't play games, cuts the BS, but knows how to think with an open mind, and if nothing else, agree to disagree.
  • materialactress@xanga

    @Shytooth@xanga - I wrote a post about my dream man about a year ago and toootally lines up with everything you said. =D

  • Footballblogs@xanga

    My dream girl:



    Exciting, interesting, kind, loving, playful, humorous and sex-cute. Ambitious, adventurous and physical fit (enjoys working out) are also musts. Not spiteful, a temper but knows how to control it, passion, and successful. 

    You said dream right? I will not settle though. I refuse to settle. Even if I die alone.
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