Friday, 01 July 2011
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The "It" Factor Guys Look For
I was talking to a friend about what he looks for in a girl and he came up with something particular he looks for in a potential girlfriend. A girl could be the absolute package. She could have a law degree, found the cure for cancer, all while looking stunning. She could come from a great family and have the appeal of someone you could bring home to mom. But there is one thing she must attain to capture a guy's attention and ultimately their heart. That's the "It" factor.If you don't know what this factor is exactly, it's almost indescribable but it's an aura. An energy that a girl has that makes her personality spectacular. It's a confidence that lights up a whole room and she can make anyone feel at ease when they find themselves around her. The "It" factor is something that a girl develops over time with age. I believe it's different for each girl but it's a comfort in one's skin in not caring how people may judge you.
I find myself not always looking for this"It" factor when I like a guy but the actual package they present and the chemistry we have together. In my opinion if a guy is passionate, driven, close to his family and someone who can laugh at himself as well as make me laugh, that's the "It" factor for me.
While you can't force yourself to feel or act this way, I think as long as you love yourself, others will be eager to love and admire you.
Do you look for this "It" factor when looking for a boyfriend or girlfriend?
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Money. That's my It Factor.
I don't really know what an "it" factor is, but I couldn't be more pleased with my wife.
yeah i do. and what you're describing is Part of it.. but not the whole thing. i think people give off energies that express themselves more than words, actions or anything ever could. you dont know what it is, cant put your finger on it, but its sensational and you want more.
and some girls had the it factor their entire life, i can think of 1 right off hand. we were born secure. people became insecure with age and can decide to regain security if they decide to and commit to that. i remember this one girl from my gradeschool who had that. she was amazing. and their was a girl in my highschool who was that way too. they were both totally beautiful soulful amazing people.
I know two girls that have this thing you speak of. we can communicate on a certain level without speaking at times, and we are really open about our feelings with each other. However, since there are two of them, I have to choose between one...-sigh-
Maybe chemistry?
my "it" factor is for him to make me happy which includes liking me for who i am. wobbly bits n everthing!
i'm right here hahaha ;)
I thought this was going to be a post about how if a woman can make a man feel secure, and be a strong individual, that's his it factor.
It was with my fiance, anyway.
when I gradually get more comfortable and start to almost completely trust him, then he also lets his guard down more as he gets comfortable with me and trust me, so he reveals more about himself, and I find out that he's a sociopath
I call "it", the "something".
I'm still looking for it in people and hopefully the person that I find it in, will see "it" in me too!"It" sounds a lot like confidence accompanied by a smile.
I don't think I look for it. But I can definitely think of a girl I've liked that had it and she stands out over others. But I think it's more of a bonus than a requirement. That might change though if I keep getting ones who don't have it and they don't go anywhere.
in my opinion, the "it" factor appears in girls more than guys.
I think your "it" factor is only one version of that. Other people have different things about them that make them special, and different things that people look for. I don't think it's always just confidence, although confidence is very attractive.
I think with my boyfriend the thing that really attracted me to him was how nice and considerate he is. He liked that I'm really independent.One girl at my college definitely has the "It" factor for me. I have never even talked to her and I rarely see her, but each time I do my stomach jumps into my throat. I feel overjoyed to see her and depressed that I haven't had the opportunity to meet her all at once. I suck in my stomach. If I'm carrying food I try to hide it from her line of sight because I'm afraid she'll think less of me. Other people find her somewhat plain, yet I think she's one of the cutest, most captivating girls I've ever seen. I can't get her out of my head. And I know nothing about her.
That is the "It" factor for me.
the IT factor for me = makes me want to look into his eyes all day long, cuddle up with him, and make me laugh :)
I'm pretty sure I embody the "it" factor and anyone who accidentally mimics me is seen as being attractive, clever, intelligent, etc as I obviously am.
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the "it" factor i look for is the way he makes me feel...if he makes me feel understood and totally at ease, i'm sold. oh and a guy who makes me laugh is always a winner.
I think the "it" factor for both sexes is just general acceptance and liking of the other person. Of course this comes after all other necessary requirements like intelligence, compassion, security, etc. But the final factor that makes someone say, okay this is the one, is ironically pretty selfish; it's how special you make the other person feel. Everyone wants to feel like they're desired, interesting and the only person who can make you feel that way.
The it factor is his personality :D
Where can I buy some if IT? Cuz God knows I lack IT!
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