Wednesday, 29 June 2011
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Legit Questions to the Ladies
I masturbate like a man-- once or twice a day, dude. And with enough time to get the things done that need doing. And it's not that I'm particularly nympho, I just like how it feels and that's it. Most of my life I just assumed this was normal until a game of hotseat sort of revealed that more than one of my gallpals have never ever fingered themselves."I just never felt the need to," one said.
I was reading somewhere that women require a lot more 'coaxing' to get in the mood. You gotta stroke their ego, buy them chocolates, give them presents and after gaining enough affection points, the lady will reward you with the appropriate amout of bedroom time. Me, I've never associated that kind of affection with sex rewards-- Sometimes I just get horny driving to the bars. Okay, so I'm exaggerating, but it can get pretty ridiculous.
A guy told me that a lot of girls now are turning to porn for the fem' power: that it is more a statement to feminism than an expression or outlet for a sex drive. He said that some of them aren't even turned on by it. I couldn't imagine watching porn for anything other than to get turned on... What kind of expression is it sitting in the confines of your tiny bedroom with a bunch of girls huddling around the telly watching nekky boobs? It sounds kind of like some sort of demented dungeon group torture.
Web MD (Which, I know is not a real MD but i'll take my sources where I can) compared the sex drive between men and women and I have decided that the girls who provided the source material were monumental prudes. I mean come on only 40% of women have ever masturbated? That's got to be a lie. And I'm sure that girls fantasize of sex just as often as boys do. I can barely fathom how it can not a part of one's sexual health routine.
So here are some questions I have to ask every girl who is willing to answer my questions.
1) Do you really not think of sex at least once a day? If you don't then how often does it come to mind?
2) If you're in a relationship, how often do you want to have sex with your partner? How often would you actually have sex with your partner? Doesn't it suck to have sex when you're not in the mood?
3) If you're not in the mood and someone sprung surprise sex on you-- how long does it usually take before you get into it?
4) Do you ever just want to get laid by someone hot who you care little about?
5) How often do you masturbate? Do you think that your need to is run by your biology, or is it something you learned to do through cultural or societal norms?
6) Is it really unusual to get turned on by porn?
Or am I just strange?
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I'm not a lady, so I can't help you with this.
1) Do you really not think of sex at least once a day? If you don't then how often does it come to mind?
I think of sex many times a day most days. This may have something to do with my boyfriend being in Iraq and not getting any. There are days it is almost all I can think about. I miss him, what can I say?
2)
If you're in a relationship, how often do you want to have sex with
your partner? How often would you actually have sex with your partner?
Doesn't it suck to have sex when you're not in the mood?
Hypothetically speaking since my partner is in Iraq, I would think as often as I can. I mean that might change after he's home for awhile, but we'll have a year to make up for and I plan to make up for it. And then some.
But I haven't been like this with all boyfriends. There's just something about him that gets me going.
And yes, it does suck to have sex when you aren't in the mood.
3) If you're not in the mood and someone sprung surprise sex on you-- how long does it usually take before you get into it?
Depending on the person, I might never get in the mood. I might just go along with it to get it over with. If it was a person that had an easy time getting me going (see previous answers for a clue as to who I mean), then it might not take that long at all.
4) Do you ever just want to get laid by someone hot who you care little about?
When not in a relationship? Yep. But only done it a few times in my life. Don't really enjoy it as much as you'd think. Though I don't knock it per se, just not my preference.
5)
How often do you masturbate? Do you think that your need to is run by
your biology, or is it something you learned to do through cultural
or societal norms?
Um, due to present circumstances, about four to five times a week. If I had my man here, I don't think I'd need to quite as often.I think it is a mix of biology (which changes over time) and circumstances. There are times in my cycle that I'm just not horny and there have been times in my life that I just wasn't that interested.
6) Is it really unusual to get turned on by porn?
I have no idea. Completely depends on the person, I'd say. And the porn.
1) I think about sex a lot. Not necessarily in a "omg I'm so horny!!!" way, but it definitely comes to mind.
2) I want to have sex in relationships about 3 times a day. It usually is about 4-5 times per week depending on the amount of time we see each other.
3) That varies depending on my mood that day, and what I'm doing.
4) Sometimes.
5)At least 3 times a week. Usually in the morning or before I got to bed.
6) I don't get turned on by porn when I watch it alone, but I definitely get into it with a partner.
1) Do you really not think of sex at least once a day? If you don't then how often does it come to mind?
Honestly it's pretty much always on my mind.
2) If you're in a relationship, how often do you want to have sex with your partner? How often would you actually have sex with your partner? Doesn't it suck to have sex when you're not in the mood?
I would like to have sex once a day. I have sex with my boyfriend a few times a week. I'm always in the mood it's more like am I wet enough?
3) If you're not in the mood and someone sprung surprise sex on you-- how long does it usually take before you get into it?
about 30 seconds or less
4) Do you ever just want to get laid by someone hot who you care little about?
Yeah
5) How often do you masturbate? Do you think that your need to is run by your biology, or is it something you learned to do through cultural or societal norms?
I play with myself a few times a week. It's biological.
6) Is it really unusual to get turned on by porn?
No it's completely normal I watch it myself.
I think there's a reason for the women/sex stereotype, but I fall outside of that stereotype. Maybe others can correct my perspective.
Those surveys and that data are bull. I believe women are just as into sex -- if not more -- than men but are more reluctant to admit it due to social constraints. Or, maybe there's a small sect of us who are crazy full of hormones.
1) Do you really not think of sex at least once a day? If you don't then how often does it come to mind? I think of sex multiple times a day, at least 10-15. Whether it's a 2 second passing fantasy or full-on getting it on with myself, it happens, a lot.
2) If you're in a relationship, how often do you want to have sex with your partner? How often would you actually have sex with your partner? Doesn't it suck to have sex when you're not in the mood? I have sex as often as our time together allows, and as often as HE allows! Heh. When I care about someone enough to be with them, I must be physically attracted to him, so wanting him isn't an issue.
3) If you're not in the mood and someone sprung surprise sex on you-- how long does it usually take before you get into it? NOT LONG.
4) Do you ever just want to get laid by someone hot who you care little about? Yes, I have before, and I probably will again.
5) How often do you masturbate? Do you think that your need to is run by your biology, or is it something you learned to do through cultural or societal norms? Two to four times a week. Depends on how busy/tired I am (I work full-time at a physically and mentally taxing job.) It's definitely run by my biology...my body tells me when it needs release.
6) Is it really unusual to get turned on by porn? Not at all. I love it, and I have female friends who love it.
Hope this helps.
I'll answer your questions as best I can, but remember, it's just my point of view, not every woman's.
1. I think about sex at least once a day, probably more. Usually when I'm about to go to bed, but I remember a few times I was teaching a class, and suddenly all I could think about was how I would love to have sex with my crush on my living room floor. It was suddenly very hard to concentrate!
2. I'm not in a relationship, but when I was, we didn't have sex. I wanted to get to know him better first, and most of the relationship was long distance. I am just as horny as anyone else, but I want to be genuinely in love before I have sex.
3. I don't know. But if I like the guy, I can get aroused pretty quickly. But even then, it doesn't mean I'll have sex. I only have sex if we're in a relationship, I love him, and I think he loves me.
4. No, not really. Unless it was another girl. But even then, I would want to care about her before we had sex.
5. Pretty much every night. I don't know why. I just like the way it feels and it relaxes me to just think of nothing but whatever sexy situation pops into my mind and go with it.
6. No. Porn is made with the purpose of turning people on, so it's not weird. I, personally, am not that interested in porn movies. I get turned on by erotic artwork, but not because the male is attractive. It's because I think of how good it must feel for the woman...or because I think SHE'S attractive. (I'm bi, in case you couldn't tell)
A lot of people say that men are more visual than women, and maybe that's true. But to me, it's not that I'm not visual, it's more that women's bodies, to me, are more attractive than men's bodies. If I walk into a room full of attractive people, I notice all the beautiful women. But a man has to have a certain charisma to him as well before I'll notice him. And I have to have a crush on a guy before it will dawn on me that he actually has a nice body, and even then, if I imagine sex with him, I'll imagine more the connection, feeling his skin against mine, being close to him.... more of the emotional side, with the added benefit of intense physical pleasure. (Weird, I know. But it's how I am!)
And also, I don't see sex as a "reward" I give out for earning the right number of "points." It's more of something to celebrate the love that is there. If there's no love, I'm not comfortable having sex. It doesn't mean I don't have a sex drive, or that mine is less strong than a man's, it just means that I don't act on it with another person unless I'm comfortable with them. Just like if you're hungry and someone serves you a bowl full of live grubs and you know you could wait half an hour and go to your favorite restaurant, you'll probably hold out for the restaurant.
1) How can you NOT think about sex daily? it's everywhere!
2) I think especially when you first start getting sexual with someone you're in a relationship with, you can't keep your paws off each other! I say at least twice a day when it's all fresh, but you know if you start to chaffe that you're doing it too much. That's the only reason my last boyfriend and I would tone it down, that lasted a few months. Ideally though with busy schedules and what not, if you're not doing it like 3x a week there's something wrong.
3) This depends, if I'm in a bad mood just forget about it because I'd hate to be the guy on the other end being like, "where the hell are you, woman?!" If my head is elsewhere, it's not going to happen. It sucks. Surprise sex at work or pulling over the car somewhere though, that's effin' sexy.
4) Been there done that. Being a woman, it's empowering to treat yourself to using a man for sex.
5) I masturbate atleast 3x a week if I'm not in a relationship. Porn's a great visual and there's so much to choose from but personally I like to let my imagination get me going (not that I don't flip something on every now and again)
6) I think I just answered that question.. but no, not at all. That's what it's there for, ladies!
1) Do you really not think of sex at least once a day? If you don't then how often does it come to mind?
I never really thought about how much i think about it, but i suppose its more than once a day.
2)
If you're in a relationship, how often do you want to have sex with
your partner? How often would you actually have sex with your partner?
Doesn't it suck to have sex when you're not in the mood?
Not in a relationship anymore so i can really answer that one hah
3) If you're not in the mood and someone sprung surprise sex on you-- how long does it usually take before you get into it?
we're usually talked about it before hand so we could prepare
4) Do you ever just want to get laid by someone hot who you care little about?
Definitely. But afterward, i'll probably care more.
5)
How often do you masturbate? Do you think that your need to is run by
your biology, or is it something you learned to do through cultural
or societal norms?
About everyday or every other day. Not really sure about that second part...prob biology
6) Is it really unusual to get turned on by porn?
not at all!
I think of it more than once a day
If you don't then how often does it come to mind? n/a2) If you're in a relationship, how often do you want to have sex with your partner?
It depends on the guy..
How often would you actually have sex with your partner?I used to have it once a day and twice on the weekend days.
Doesn't it suck to have sex when you're not in the mood?If a guy is really pushy, annoyingly so, and I am feeling bad/sick then it sucks a lot. I won’t do it. If he puts a little effort into helping me get in the mood, and I don’t feel sick, then no.
3) If you're not in the mood and someone sprung surprise sex on you-- how long doesit usually take before you get into it?
Depends on my mood and the way he’s going about it.
4) Do you ever just want to get laid by someone hot who you care little about?Yes, but that’s called a fantasy and won’t happen. Especially since I'm married.
5) How often do you masturbate?That's none of your business.
Do you think that your need to is run by your biology, or is it something you learned to do through cultural or societal norms?I have no idea if it’s biological; I’ve never talked about that with any of my relatives. In that arena, I do what makes me feel good regardless of the norms.
6) Is it really unusual to get turned on by porn?No, it’s not unusual. Women are not quite turned on by visual stimulation as much as men are…but that doesn’t mean that we’re never turned on by it. I think some girls don’t like porn because they feel a little unnerved or jealous of the women in them. Some porn is also derogatory to women.
1) Do you really not think of sex at least once a day? If you don't then how often does it come to mind?
I think about it a couple times a day. How much depends on hormones and if I think I might get some.
2)
If you're in a relationship, how often do you want to have sex with
your partner? How often would you actually have sex with your partner?
Doesn't it suck to have sex when you're not in the mood?
Every other day would be good for me. Maybe once a week, :(. I don't usually have to. I just roll over and go to sleep if I really don't want to.
3) If you're not in the mood and someone sprung surprise sex on you-- how long does it usually take before you get into it?
If I can be persuaded maybe a few minutes. I read that women don't always become interested in having sex until they're aroused.
4) Do you ever just want to get laid by someone hot who you care little about?
Uh, not really.
5)
How often do you masturbate? Do you think that your need to is run by
your biology, or is it something you learned to do through cultural
or societal norms?
Maybe twice or thrice a week, depending on stress and amount of tail I'm getting. It's run by biology. It helps with stress, menstrual cramping and it just feels good.
6) Is it really unusual to get turned on by porn?
Nah. If the porn is good or has something hot to me in it yeah I'll get a little turned on. I actually get more turned on by erotic literature though, honestly. No fat dudes or ugly chicks that way.
1) Do you really not think of sex at least once a day? If you don't then how often does it come to mind?
depends on the day, i can't really say that i keep track of that shit.
2)
If you're in a relationship, how often do you want to have sex with
your partner? How often would you actually have sex with your partner?
Doesn't it suck to have sex when you're not in the mood?
it really varies for me, sometimes i want it 4-6 times a week, other times once a week to never. again it depends on my sex drive at the time, sometimes we'll be doing it all the time, other times once a week or less. yes, it does suck to have sex when i'm not in the mood, but that doesn't happen too much.
3) If you're not in the mood and someone sprung surprise sex on you-- how long does it usually take before you get into it?
sometimes i don't ever get into it, i just go through the motions and hope he gets off quick. other times, it takes about 5 min? totally a guess.
4) Do you ever just want to get laid by someone hot who you care little about?
yes, sometimes. usually its when i'm drunk. almost all the time i have some sort of sentimental attachment, even if i'm not looking for something serious.
5)
How often do you masturbate? Do you think that your need to is run by
your biology, or is it something you learned to do through cultural
or societal norms?
hmm again, totally depends. anywhere from 3-4 times a week, to once or twice a month. totally run by biology.
6) Is it really unusual to get turned on by porn?
depends on the porn. things that turn me off about porn: fake boobs, anal, ugly guys, rough sex. although i like porn sometimes, i feel like i enjoy sex less when i watch it for some reason, so i'm trying to stop watching it, not that i really watched a whole lot of it to begin with.
1) Do you really not think of sex at least once a day? If you don't then how often does it come to mind? Most days I think about it. It's only on really busy or stressful days that it might not cross my mind much.
2) If you're in a relationship, how often do you want to have sex with your partner? How often would you actually have sex with your partner? Doesn't it suck to have sex when you're not in the mood? I usually want to have sex at least a few times a week. And again that is just if I am really stressed out and have too much bullshit on my mind. It really is awful to try to have sex when I'm not in the mood. It just can't be done.
3) If you're not in the mood and someone sprung surprise sex on you-- how long does it usually take before you get into it? Sometimes I just never do and I let my boyfriend just do a quickie and let me get back to my business. But most of the time as long as he doesn't try to just get straight to sex and puts effort into it then it's really not that difficult to get me in the mood if I wasn't into it at first.
4) Do you ever just want to get laid by someone hot who you care little about? Every once in awhile. But it's just a passing thought or a fantasy. Cause when I really think about it in realistic terms I remember I'm the type of person that when having sex with someone that I don't at least have respect for and can trust then it is just plain awful to the point where it almost feels like rape. That has happened to me before...
5) How often do you masturbate? Do you think that your need to is run by your biology, or is it something you learned to do through cultural or societal norms? It completely depends if I can get the time alone to do it in the first place. I really don't get much privacy where I live and I don't care if my boyfriend knows that I am masturbating at the time but usually it's one of those things where you want to be left the hell alone and do your thing. I would do it a lot more often if I had the privacy. Not a ton though because it just doesn't feel as good as sex. My need to do it is because I am horny at the time. Not because porn controls me or something weird like that.
6) Is it really unusual to get turned on by porn? Absolutely not. It is just fantasy and every human needs a bit of fantasy in some form. Most things that turn me on in porn would never turn me on in real life. As long as the line between reality and fantasy is clear, I see no problem with it at all and it's actually a healthy way of getting a mental/physical release.
Interesting... This is almost educational for guys.
1) Do you really not think of sex at least once a day? If you don't then how often does it come to mind?
Mmm.. Depends on the day. Sometimes it never comes to my mind, and other days I think about it a lot.
2) If you're in a relationship, how often do you want to have sex with your partner? How often would you actually have sex with your partner? Doesn't it suck to have sex when you're not in the mood?
To be honest, my previous two partners, I was always glad when I got on my period because they didn't want sex... But with my current partner? I think about it all the time and uh, would definitely have my way with him a few times a day, if I could. And yes, having sex when you don't want to is NOT pleasant.
3) If you're not in the mood and someone sprung surprise sex on you-- how long does it usually take before you get into it?
Sometimes not at all.
4) Do you ever just want to get laid by someone hot who you care little about?
Can't really think of a time when that's happened to me, honestly. Without the emotional connection, I'm generally not interested.
5) How often do you masturbate? Do you think that your need to is run by your biology, or is it something you learned to do through cultural or societal norms?
I really don't. I have before, but I just prefer to wait until I can have sex.
6) Is it really unusual to get turned on by porn?
I don't know about unusual, but it doesn't do it for me. Erotic fiction is more of a turn on for me actually.
I'm not going to copy and paste the questions. I think I memorized your questions already (hopefully).
I masturbate whenever I get horny and my husband isn't around (either he's out with the guys, fishing, or for whatever reasons). I masturbate when I read Literotica Stories and it turns me on. I masturbate when I'm bored or horny. Let's just say that my masturbation is healthy. Lol.
I think about sex at least once (if not more) a day. It just depends where and how I'm feeling at the moment. My husband and I have sex almost every day or every other day (we both have a high sex drive) except when it's the time of the month. But that means we'll just have shower sex -- usually, we'll wait it out for two to three days at the beginning of my period. Yes, I have sex when I'm not in the mood and vice versa. I usually get into the mood when I start touching myself?
When I was single, I did slept with a guy who I just met. He was hot but it never happened again. And yes, I get turned on by porn. I mean, who doesn't?
It's hot and it's a turn on.
The replies to this are great. Keep 'em coming. ;O
1) Do you really not think of sex at least once a day? If you don't then how often does it come to mind?
I might think of it once a day, but when I do it isn't about having sex usually. It is probably more like every few days anyways
2) If you're in a relationship, how often do you want to have sex with your partner? How often would you actually have sex with your partner? Doesn't it suck to have sex when you're not in the mood?
Honestly, my boyfriend and I have had sex once in the past two months - or more. With him working days, me working nights, we never see each other. Plus we are never alone. I'm never in the mood (I blame birth control). The last time we had sex I wasn't in the mood. It was horribly ridiculous, I will never do that again.
3) If you're not in the mood and someone sprung surprise sex on you-- how long does it usually take before you get into it?
20 minutes. At least, and it doesn't matter what they say or do. I have to talk myself into it and purposefully and intentionally think my body into being turned on. It is hard, and doesn't work most of the time.
4) Do you ever just want to get laid by someone hot who you care little about?
Sometimes I fantasize about that when I am turned on - which again is rare. On a normal day, no. My boyfriend is just fine, thanks.
5) How often do you masturbate? Do you think that your need to is run by your biology, or is it something you learned to do through cultural or societal norms?
This is something I never talk about. Honestly, I haven't masturbated to get off in years. Now, I do it at night because it helps me fall asleep. lol. I use it like a sleep aid and that's it.
6) Is it really unusual to get turned on by porn?
Porn is creepy and gross to me. But if that's your thing - that's your thing.
I just want to say in your regards to your "gallpal" who doesn't masturbate, I would actually consider that a deal breaker for me.
If a friend of mine said that to me I would either think they were lying or they were sexually repressed. There's the possibility of a hormone imbalance or other physical/health issues, but those tend to be rare. Either way that comes up as a giant red flag to me and I would immediately think there's going to be serious intimacy issues down the line and it's just not worth it.
The only exception to that statement being if they're getting laid on a pretty regular basis.
I do want to say though, thank you to all the women for the honest replies, at the very least they're refreshing if not eye opening. I do agree that women have equal, if not greater, sex drives than men; I'm just glad to hear a few proudly state it.
1) Do you really not think of sex at least once a day? If you don't then how often does it come to mind?
If I'm not in a relationship, and not bored, I probably think about sex maybe a couple times a week. I don't think about sex unless I'm REALLY REALLY F***ING BORED TO DEATH. Like in my Money & Banking lecture, for example. I think about sex more often if I'm in a relationship, because my mind will drift and I'll think about the last time we had sex (usually only just yesterday) and I'll get turned on.
2) If you're in a relationship, how often do you want to have sex with your partner? How often would you actually have sex with your partner? Doesn't it suck to have sex when you're not in the mood?
I have sex with my boyfriend once a day on average. This is just about how much sex I actually want. Why the hell would anyone have sex if they're not in the mood? There's something wrong with your SO if they enjoy continuing to have sex with you and you look like you're not at all in the mood for it.
3) If you're not in the mood and someone sprung surprise sex on you-- how long does it usually take before you get into it?
Probably about 10-20 seconds of sensual touching and kissing from my boyfriend. If it's an attractive guy I'm not dating, it's not at all likely I'll want to do more than kiss.
4) Do you ever just want to get laid by someone hot who you care little about?
Kind of. I usually just fantasize and have no intention of carrying it out. But I would just feel uncomfortable if I had sex with a different guy at greater than a rate of one per two years - I would just feel like sex isn't as special and intimate as it used to be if I had it with more than about 5 guys. That's just me personally.
5) How often do you masturbate? Do you think that your need to is run by your biology, or is it something you learned to do through cultural or societal norms?
I masturbate maybe once a week if I'm not bored out of my mind. It's not very affected by cultural or societal norms at all. I never think about them, nor do I care.
6) Is it really unusual to get turned on by porn?
Depends. If I'm not alone, then I don't get turned on at all. I have to be alone, actively searching for porn and then watching it to like it.
1) Do you really not think of sex at least once a day? If you don't then how often does it come to mind? I probably think of sex at least once a day. I've been thinking about sex since before I had sex, and for the five years since I started having sex. Sometimes I think about it more than others, but I think it's safe to say that I think about it at least a little every day.
2) If you're in a relationship, how often do you want to have sex with
your partner? How often would you actually have sex with your partner?
Doesn't it suck to have sex when you're not in the mood? I would probably have sex with my partner daily if he lived with me, or we were closer to each other. We see each other every few weeks and every time we meet, we have sex, barring some extenuating circumstances. I think about wanting him practically every time I think about sex, so I want him daily. We're a decent distance apart though, so that doesn't actually happen. It might if we moved in together someday. Once the newness of being nearby wears off though, we might have sex a three or four times a week. Just to be reasonable.
If I'm really not in the mood, the sex sucks. However, if I'm just tired or busy or something, my mood can usually be changed and I'll end up enjoying it.
3) If you're not in the mood and someone sprung surprise sex on you-- how long does it usually take before you get into it? With proper foreplay, surprise sex is kind of nice. If I'm not already in a mood to not have sex, the turn on is almost instant. He can give me that look and I just know, and it works. Sometimes, though I am not in the mood, and it gets a little more tricky but surprise sex can still work. I might not be in the mood, but if my man takes his time and isn't pushy, my mood will quickly change. Ten minutes of patient, sweet kisses and caresses can easily turn me on, even if I've refused sex earlier that day. Whining and begging do not help his case, but simply taking the time to actually try to turn me on works wonders. He is always very respectful of me, and if I just say no, he will listen.
4) Do you ever just want to get laid by someone hot who you care little about? No. I must care about the person in order to even think about sex with them.
5) How often do you masturbate? Do you think that your need to is run by
your biology, or is it something you learned to do through cultural
or societal norms? Two or three times a week, on average. I don't really feel controlled by any sort of biological force, or social norm. I do it when I feel like it, whether it's to cheer me up, because I'm bored, or because I miss my man and can't have him. I do it for a variety of reasons, none of which I think can be pinned down to just biology or culture.
6) Is it really unusual to get turned on by porn? I like certain kinds of porn. Others not so much. Some kinds will even turn me off. I think it's all personal preference. Most porn just maintains the status quo that I already have going with myself. The kind I like can take it to another level. But don't you dare put on the girl on girl stuff because I'm just not interested and would sooner take a nap or read a book than be interested in watching it, and it stops all feelings of being sexy in their tracks. Major turn off.
1) I think of it several times a day.
2) Want to = at least every other day. Actually = at least once a week due to busy schedules. I have yet to not be in the mood with him.
3) N/A. If I ever don't feel like it initially, it's an issue of feeling unsexy, but just being around the boyfriend changes that.
4) Not really. I've always found sexiness to be a personality trait. Someone who's just hot is really just someone to look at.
5) Four times a week minimum. Started by biology, learned and controlled by cultural and societal norms.
6) No. I don't think there's anything creepy about being turned on by porn, but taste varies from person to person.
Don't forget how common it is that people, especially women lie about their sexual habits and nature because most societies would attach labels to someone who was shameless about their sexuality, which no one should be.
Also, it really irritates me when people say men and women are the same when it comes to sex. Do you know why there's a double standard? Do you know why women actually DON'T want as many sex partners? Evolution.
What kind of caveman would want a woman who likes having sex with tons of men and keeps having random children that aren't his? And who has to put more energy into reproduction? Women. We're stuck for 9 months with a fetus while the guy can go off having sex with more women, making more babies, and in the end, he'll win at natural selection.
Women are on average harder to get into bed. And men prefer women who don't sleep around tons. And women don't care too much about how many women her man has slept with before as long as he stays with her and takes care of her babies. It's how we're made. That's not to say it's "right," but it is "natural" for people to think female sluts are gross.
1) Do you really not think of sex at least once a day? If you don't then how often does it come to mind?
It's probably more than once a day, actually. As another commenter said, sex is everywhere. It's impossible not to at least have it cross your mind.
2) If you're in a relationship, how often do you want to have sex with your partner? How often would you actually have sex with your partner? Doesn't it suck to have sex when you're not in the mood?
Ideally, I'd have sex in a relationship about four times a week, possibly more. It all depends on the setting, my mood, his mood, etc. If I'm not in the mood, then I won't have sex.
3) If you're not in the mood and someone sprung surprise sex on you-- how long does it usually take before you get into it?
That all depends on my mood. If I'm feeling really anxious or depressed, I probably won't enjoy it at all. If I'm angry about something, I'll just scratch and bite significantly harder. :)
4) Do you ever just want to get laid by someone hot who you care little about?
All the time.
5) How often do you masturbate? Do you think that your need to is run by your biology, or is it something you learned to do through cultural or societal norms?
Often. I'd say five times a week, at most. But that's because I haven't had sex in a good while. If I'm having sex, I don't really need to do it that much. My need is run by... well, I don't know what it's run by, exactly. I get turned on and have at it. That's all there is to it.
6) Is it really unusual to get turned on by porn?
For me, yes. Have I always been like this? Definitely not. I was seriously ADDICTED to porn when I was in middle school. 8th grade, 9th grade... I would watch porn right after school and be so mesmerized by it. I think it's because I had never experienced it, and wanted to really bad. But now that I have, it's just frustrating to watch. Most of the people who do porn are gross-looking, I'm not feeling any pleasure from it, and I'm not going to feel any pleasure afterward either. I don't see the point anymore.
1) Do you really not think of sex at least once a day? If you don't then how often does it come to mind? This one honestly depends on the time of the month for me and what I'm doing - if I am not on my period, I will think of sex maybe a couple times a day... but if I am sitting in a really boring calculus lecture, I will think of sex the whole damn 3 hours to pass the time! :p But on my period, I'll think about it quite often in the day.
2) If you're in a relationship, how often do you want to have sex with your partner? How often would you actually have sex with your partner? Doesn't it suck to have sex when you're not in the mood? First part - I like to have sex 1-2 times a day on average days (week day, work day) but on a weekend day with no school/work, my boyfriend and I have been known to have "bed days" where we'll just go through 5-7 rounds of sex, eat dinner and pass out. The next morning we wake up sore as hell and wonder why we ever did it, but we'll do it again in a week or two anyways hahahaha.
Second part - We have sex when I want to. Seriously. Unless we are on round 6 and my boyfriend is tired, he never turns me down.
Third part - I will NEVER have sex when I am not in the mood. On the other hand, I've never turned him down for sex. This goes two ways - If my boyfriend wants sex but knows nothing will get me in the mood (ie; no sleep for two days, cramming for a final), he does not even hint to me that he wants sex. But if I am not in the mood and not under a massive ammount of stress, it doesn't take much for him to get me INTO the mood, so then he'll make his efforts and we'll have great sex because I will end up in the mood.
3) If you're not in the mood and someone sprung surprise sex on you-- how long does it usually take before you get into it? I would NOT get into it, at all. Surprise foreplay is amazing and very welcome, but I am NOT ok with surprise sex. If I am not naturally lubricated - which I am not when I am not in the mood!- that would be incredibly painful for me. But my boyfriend also understand this about my body, so he has never and will never try this on me.
4) Do you ever just want to get laid by someone hot who you care little about? Yes, in the past. Lately, my thoughts are too full up with medical school and all that stress to really be checking anyone out. Besides, my peers look just as shitty as I do under the massive stress we're in, lol.
5) How often do you masturbate? Do you think that your need to is run by your biology, or is it something you learned to do through cultural or societal norms? For me, I think it is definitely run by biology. To be 100% honest, I "discovered" masturbation on my own when i was 7, in the 2nd grade, and did it once in a while til I was maybe in the 7th grade, as I approached puberty- then it became a nightly thing before bed. I almost couldn't sleep without it. It also corresponded with me participating in a lot of sports, so I feel like my fitness level also spurs my libido. As I've grown older (now 18), I find that it really goes with my stress level (stress = less mastubation... but paradoxically, extreme stress leads to more) AND my period - on my period, I'll masturbate 1, 2, 3, 4 times in a day, oh lord. Off my period, maybe 1-2 times in a week... but you have to realize, 3-4 of those days of the week I am also having sex with my boyfriend and I don't feel like I need to masturbate on a day I've had sex. And again I find a correlation between fitness and libido, because when I have more free time to hike and exercise, I find I want to masturbate and have sex in general more as well.
6) Is it really unusual to get turned on by porn? I don't think so. I watch porn once in a while, though I honestly prefer to read erotica if I am using some kind of aide. Generally though my imagination is hotter than anything they film.