Let me start off by saying I'm not sure if I can make this any less confusing, or any less lengthy.
Long story short, after I was raped I told one person. It was someone I was crushing on before, but we had a fight and spent months apart. This person was sick, and sometimes used it as a guilt trip.
They blamed me for a coma, and then ditched me after I told them I was raped. Fucked up, I know.
But that was months and months ago. Almost a year. I started talking to them again, and whenever I was around them, I felt like shit. But when I wasn't, I was fine. When I tried to confront them on things that were hurtful, they'd change the subject, or get mad. They would never admit to mistakes, and never admit their faults.
I made mistakes. I just sent harsh texts to his sister because he wouldn't text me himself. They share a phone. It's weird, I know. Honestly that was pitiful. Having your younger sister fight your own battles for you. Basically it was me saying take a hike, and a few punch lines here and there. I said hey, I realized china guys aint packing, and if I wanted to date a woman I would. I'm not racist, I just knew that would hit a nerve. My recent conclusion is he must not be packing. Why else would he be such a douche bag? But obviously I had the problem to even consider talking to someone who did that to me. And who wouldn't admit ONCE not even once that they did wrong, that they have faults.
Instead it was always me holding the guilt and bearing the same. I finally realize none of it was my fault. There was a large part on his end. So.
Was I wrong to tell him I didn't want anything to do with him? I think I was right, but I would appreciate the input.
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Did Tom Cruise get a hold of you...?
Naw, he kinda sounds like a douche-nozzle. You deserve friends that care about your problems and you concerns, simple as that.
@mdongivin@mancouch - No. I'm pretty sure this guy was taller than Tom Cruise.
@Murphy_Rants@xanga - It took me a while to let that sink in. My only conclusion is that when you are strong, not only will people follow you, but they will do anything they possibly can to harm you if they are afraid. I'm not quite certain as to what it really is. There's a lot more to this story but I nixed out the vast majority of it. I think he was just weak, and felt like he needed my focus on him. I think he was afraid that I would put judgment on him. I suddenly got insecure and he did what he could to keep me that way. It was weird because on my part I'm not even angry. But the only way I would tak to him again is if he found some integrity. Some humility. And some honesty. =/
You were right. Leave the wild dogs to their animal business, let you be bitten and eaten.
I was really close friends with a girl at the beginning of the this school year. Then one day, she went back and told our guidence counselor that the girls were saying bad things about the guidence department as a whole (she's an extremely sensitive lady and the comment made her CRY). I, however, was there during the conversation about the guidence department and nothing, to the degree to make someone cry, was said. When i confronted her, in front of both of the girls she accused of saying it, she shutdown. She eventually quit talking all three of us because she couldn't admit that she was guilty of fabricating the story.
The guy you mentioned, is just like this girl. The root of it, in my opinion, is jealousy and possibly a lot of family issues. HE definitely deserved everything you said to him!
Uh, it sounds like were both horrible to each other, so yeah. I'd say let it go but also take responsibility.
im confused. a coma? is the guy the one who raped you? why would you even talk to him if he was? if he was a douche bag and you know it, whats the problem? why would it be wrong to ditch someone who brings you down? like i said, im confused. @_@
id rly ditch the whole situ. maybe see someone about it so you can get yo mind right.
Um. What?
You already know my opinion on it ;)
@ShirleyD@xanga - I'm really lost, too.
I don't really understand what this post is asking, and I have a lot of the same questions as Shirley D.
@ShirleyD@xanga - @StillNotaPrettyGirl@xanga - @Btrfly_Wngs@xanga - It's complicated, no he has never touched me. There is a lot more to this story but it is simply too long and complicated to put in words. Basically, he expected 110% from me. I offered to change myself for him, and everything. I wasted my time giving him my attention. I think he tried to control me, because he was afraid I would leave which I did. We're very very alike in some aspects. We're both stubborn. We're both independent. However, I have something he doesn't have. Self worth. And I had to suffer to earn that. He was acting a LOT like my ex boyfriend. If things didn't go his way he'd have a fit and ignore me. Both of them know I'm not used to being ignored, and it drives me insane. I'm not saying he's evil. I was just wondering if leaving him behind was the best move. I think it was.
@Hinase@xanga - Hands down you are my favorite.
@AphoticxIllusion@xanga - ;)
maybe he doesn't know how to handle talking to someone, who has been raped, and he knew that you crushed on him, so it was awkward to date you or he didn't know that you crushed on him? you said that you told one person, but then you mention "them" or "they" so it is more than one person
I think when he ignored you, it was a sign that he didn't want anything to do with you, but you texted him for a response to tell him off anyway when he already ditched you. you just wanted to vent your anger to him, which is understandable, and maybe get an apology.
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Eh, this seriously doesn't make ANY sense to me.
My comments are the same as everyone elses. This post is a bit unclear and I won't even ask about the coma situation.
Do what you need to do for you, so that you are around people who don't bring you down.
I have no idea why in the world anyone would WANT to continue spending time with someone who made them feel like shit.
After reading the last paragraph all I have to ask is if this post is a troll?
OH WAIT. The author just deleted his/her account.