Wednesday, 15 June 2011
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Marissa Miller Stole My Boyfriend!
If you aren't familiar with this busty babe, Marissa Miller is known for her layouts in Sports Illustrated, the Victoria's Secret catalogs and cat walks as well as the famous ad of her naked on a beach covered in sand with an iPod covering her lower region. Put me next to her 5'8 length with proportions that are outer worldly and I look like a child, although the closest I've been to her was when she was plastered on my boyfriend's wall in high school.At the time you could say that I was insecure but I was 17 years old experiencing my own sexuality. When you are trying to turn on your boyfriend all the while being compared to his fantasy woman, it's pretty hard to think you are the sexiest girl in the world or at least the room.
So I was actually jealous of a woman that was 13 years older than me but how could I help myself? I wanted to be perfect for my boyfriend that I loved so much and staring up at her, it seemed like I was so far away from achieving her hotness. But that was then.
As I've grown up, I have more than realized that looks are one thing but the feelings you acquire for a person are just so much more. I know that pointing out insecurities only make you look that much more flawed and the less confident you are the less attractive. But I couldn't help but feel the way I did when staring at the image plastered right where my boyfriend slept every night. I wondered if I measured up, if he wished I looked like that and if someday I could possibly grow up, come back from college and exude that much confidence.
At 20 years and 10 months old (I will be 21 in 2 months and I'm counting down those days) I walk around with my head held high. "Fake it till you make it" isn't just an expression. I find that when I used to pretend that I was confident, smiling at strangers and walking with a bounce to my step, I would actually believe that I was in fact confident. Now after years of faking I actually feel very confident in my own skin and even though I will never be taller than 5'5 (this includes the help of a 3 inch heel) I love the way I look.
So I ask, have you ever felt insecure when looking at the models your boyfriend drools over?
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- From: CarlyPaige
- About Me: Currently I am a college student studying English and Education. A true monogamist, I have only had 2 serious boyfriends but have been single for 2 years. The dating scene in college is complicated to say the least and here I will share with you my experiences, my friends experiences, both past and present as an example of what to do when confronted with awkwardness, confusion and love.
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I can't speak for all men, but I personally find nothing more attractive than self-confidence tempered with humility. The woman who knows she's awesome - inside and out - but doesn't feel the need to flaunt it or put other people down because of it is what I find attractive.
@confusedmessedupguy@xanga - Agreed.
She stole me too...
Well she IS a babe. If I was a teenage boy I'd have her posters on my wall too. I remember my bro had Pam Anderson pics all over his room and other girls. I think it's a going through puberty thing.
So it's good not to take him personally unless the guy is actually demeaning you because of his lusty crush.
Anyway, one ex adored these Japanese girls we saw on j dramas and Mandy Moore. I only cared because he would practically sqeeeee over them and hug his computer screen and tell me they were his dream girlfriends.
I was left thinking wtf am I? A temp til the real thing comes by? Lol.
But I brushed it off since I too held a torch for the likes of Jake Gyllenhal, RYAN GOSLING, and Channing Tatum. Those were MY dream boyfriends and still are lol. So whatevs. We all have our crushes.
I won't lie and say I don't want to look like those models, but it really doesn't matter. My boyfriend fell for me, and that's what matters. He told me yesterday - the more he's around me, the prettier I get. Looks will never win over personality in the long run :)
I absolutely know what you mean. The older I get though, the less insecure I feel. I feel more and more confident in myself everyday as I learn more, accomplish more and experience more. I just accept that I am not the prettiest or the smartest person to ever walk the face of the earth, but that as a whole I have plenty to offer. In high school, I just did not want to accept this and kept trying to turn myself into something I wasn't. Now I just focus more on improving what I can change and accepting what I cannot.
I think no matter how secure we are with ourselves, looking at a picture of someone like Marissa Miller can still be a blow to our self-esteem. How well we put that ego blow into perspective is what really makes the difference between being confident or not. I think that an understated, subtle type of confidence is extremely sexy on both men and women. It sounds like you have that! So congrats!
i always thought she was one of the fuglier vs models. she has kind of a manly looking mid section, its just not attractive to me in any way. and her face is very bland/boring. (thin lips, tiny eyes, nothing distinctive in any way) i like skinny girls, and i want to be thinner than i am now. but i always found pear or hourglass shapes much more attractive then the inverted triangle shape. (she's big on top but no butt/hips) she does have awesome legs though.
i guess it more bothers me when the guy i'm into likes girls who i find unattractive. its like "really? THATS what you're into...?" and then i kind of lose respect for his taste in women and get insecure about myself. whereas when he's into a genuinely beautiful girl, i can't really blame him. i may feel bad about myself, but at least i understand where he's coming from.
Would this be any different if you were to drool over a studly actor or male model while your boyfriend stood by wondering to himself if he would ever match to him?
The main point is that everyone will have a favorite female idol to look up to (or at) and girls will have a favorite male idol to adore (or drool over). But you just have to leave it at that. It's not that they wish you would look like that or anything. It's just someone that they expressed that star glory interest in.
What you would nee to focus on is like you said to not be afraid of your flaws (whatever you identify those to be) and instead look ahead with confidence. You shouldn't let it bother you one bit because think about it this: how much access does the boyfriend have to you compared to having access to Marissa Miller? And if you show that you can be beautiful in your own way, you will always win your boyfriend over.
I never had a boyfriend who had half naked women on his walls and I'm glad because I find it distasteful. I feel like a person's bedroom wall is a place to express oneself, and really? a naked women on your wall? that's how you want to express yourself? Maybe its just me. I know though when I was younger if a boyfriend did have that I would have probably compared myself.
But like others have stated a personality always trumps in the longrun.
I would love to look like all those models whose images go up on my boyfriend's walls and I can admit to some insecurities thanks to them. (He has a couple of posters and a calendar.) Fortunately, in the end, I'm by far more important than those posters. I let him have them, but I know that if I asked, he'd take them down. And at least they're not by his bed! They're all over closer to his desk, so he can't see them when he's in bed!
Nope not really.
Her torso completely turns me off.
I don't feel the same way, I don't know if it's because my body can give hers a run for it's money or if it's because I don't care.
Fantasy is healthy. You need not feel insecure. You worry about a poster on a wall, but do you worry about violent video games or movies he likely plays or sees etc. Of course not, its all fantasy. He's not going to fuck Marissa Miller, and he not going to go on a killing spree. If he does, then he's not worth your time and/or he's batshit insane anyways
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I have a framed picture of johnny depp
I asked my guy which celebrities does he think are attractive and he said that he didn't like celebrities, but real women. then I looked on his profile and indeed, he was flirting with real women on his social network
so that's worse than celebs that he'll likely never meet.
@vain_apathy@xanga - lol me too. i think miranda kerr is the prettiest vs model
my bf drools over jesse jane. i look nothing like it but i'm not really bothered by it lolWhile I am not saying that Marissa Miller isn't drop dead gorgeous, know that she has flaws too and these are photoshopped to make her look even better! she probably has her insecurites too! Especially when people point them out and change the way she looks. I've worked a lot in the fashion industry and a lot of time really beautiful women feel they are ugly and that they will never be good enough. I guess what I am trying to say is I agree with you about the confidence thing and making yourself the best you can be and BELIEVING it too. But know that evryone has flaws, even if you think they are amazing.
Yes but it's just innocent. I have my posters, too.
maybe i never dated guys who plastered Sports Illustrated models out for the public to see because they kept them hidden in a closet door or because I never knew who the guys I dated fantasized about...
but i used to model and 5ft8 chicks generally have more goods/shape than 5ft10-6ft tall models. I used to know this model friend who was 5ft11.5 that had a boyfriend who used to drool over shorter girls who did commercial ads than runway. Talk about greener on the other side, eh?
anyway, boys will be boys. when they grow up, i'm sure they'll grow out of dreaming of Marissa Millers and Angelina Jollies and start paying attention someone who is REAL and attainable. My fiance told me he thinks Angie Jolie is sexy but I think her big lips and extremely big boobs are contradiction to his attraction to me; the fact my boobs aren't double D whatevers, but I'm slim, leggy and have hips his grandmother approves of. *shrug* I got over it... when I told him my "dream guys" are Daniel Henney and Ryan Renolds. AHAH
We've all heard it, the old argument that the media has ridiculous standards of beauty. Its beginning to sound like an old record so I just can't be stuffed looking at posters or ads or whatever anymore.
Sure I get a tad jealous when a photoshopped photo of a pretty girl grabs more attention than I would but I just reached a point where I don't care and ignore the lewd comments or obvious minimal attention span of the guy in question who's ogling at Miss Hollywood.
I am my own person, I am imperfect, I am a little above average looking, I'm occasionally witty and its enough for myself. I'm not going to bother competing with some female who's a thousand miles away and has little to do with my own personal sphere.
Also, I'm happily single :>
i dunno. i think if you're mature, you won't really "drool" over anyone, guy or girl. i like famous people like singers & hockey players, but i don't look at them naked or topless. my xb doens't have pix of half-naked women in his room nor does he stare at them. i've never put up half naked pix of the backstreet boys even when i was 16. so i'm not sure if we're relaly mature or if we just don't care about ppl in that way. just cuz you look good, does not mean i'd want to date you. so i think if you feel insecure about that, then you need another bf or you need to stop worrying about that. the right ppl should be with each other. guys who have maxim models on their bedroom walls should be with girls who look like models or don't care. girls who look average & DO feel bad standing next to a 5'9" 36-24-34 tanned body should date guys who don't care or ever say "marissa miller's on my list of 5 women i'm allowed to sleep with."
This kind of thing doesn't make me insecure. My husband is gorgeous but those women wouldn't want anything to do with him if they actually met him. I think I'm an attractive woman but Ryan Reynolds wouldn't give me the time of day if I ever met him (and he is beautiful, IMO). My husband and I are open about others being attractive because we know they aren't a threat.
My ex rarely compared me to models 'cause he said I was his model.