Tuesday, 14 June 2011
But what are we to make of our dreams? Are they simply flashing lights on the backs of our eyelids - entertainment for our sleeping selves? Or do they help us access areas of our brains that the conscious mind would never dare venture?
There is a certain kind of dream, the waking-dream, which is so convincing in its perceived reality as to make you think it actually happened. Typically waking-dreams happen after you have woken up once already, and are drifting back to sleep; they take place in precisely the same setting where you are sleeping, which is how they trick you into thinking they are real. Sometimes, when I am half asleep and have to pee really bad, I will dream-go to the bathroom, but then some time later the feeling of having to pee is still nagging, which is when I realize that I haven't actually gone to the bathroom at all, but must lug myself out of the half-dream state and into the real world in the direction of the real toilet, before I wet the bed.
Whether or not dreams should be heeded or mined for meaning, they affect us in sometimes peculiar ways. If I dream (as I once did) that my father divorced my mother, I will wake up the next morning and be mildly upset at my real-life father for the things that his dream-self did, even though he does not have plans to divorce my mother and even though his dream-self is a construction of my mind. I would venture to say that everyone has had at least one sexy dream about someone we never before found attractive, and the next day at school or work we sneak looks at them sideways, to try and figure out what our dream-self found so sexy about them.
I had a half-dream two mornings ago that my boyfriend asked me to marry him. He was lying next to me in bed, watching and waiting non-chalantly for my answer, and I was tongue-tied. Then I woke up from the dream and saw him lying next to me, asleep. It was the weirdest thing. And while marriage is not on the real table between us, I couldn't help but wonder why my subconscious mind went there, and what my dream-self would have said if I hadn't woken up.
Have you ever dreamt about someone in a way that left you feeling funny around them in real life? Was the dream pleasant? Sexy? Confusing? Did you tell them about it?