Tuesday, 14 June 2011

  • I Dreamt Of You Last Night


    Dreamland - the place where all kinds of weird things can go down without fear of responsibility or repercussion. 

    But what are we to make of our dreams? Are they simply flashing lights on the backs of our eyelids - entertainment for our sleeping selves? Or do they help us access areas of our brains that the conscious mind would never dare venture? 

    There is a certain kind of dream, the waking-dream, which is so convincing in its perceived reality as to make you think it actually happened. Typically waking-dreams happen after you have woken up once already, and are drifting back to sleep; they take place in precisely the same setting where you are sleeping, which is how they trick you into thinking they are real. Sometimes, when I am half asleep and have to pee really bad, I will dream-go to the bathroom, but then some time later the feeling of having to pee is still nagging, which is when I realize that I haven't actually gone to the bathroom at all, but must lug myself out of the half-dream state and into the real world in the direction of the real toilet, before I wet the bed. 

    Whether or not dreams should be heeded or mined for meaning, they affect us in sometimes peculiar ways. If I dream (as I once did) that my father divorced my mother, I will wake up the next morning and be mildly upset at my real-life father for the things that his dream-self did, even though he does not have plans to divorce my mother and even though his dream-self is a construction of my mind. I would venture to say that everyone has had at least one sexy dream about someone we never before found attractive, and the next day at school or work we sneak looks at them sideways, to try and figure out what our dream-self found so sexy about them. 

    I had a half-dream two mornings ago that my boyfriend asked me to marry him. He was lying next to me in bed, watching and waiting non-chalantly for my answer, and I was tongue-tied. Then I woke up from the dream and saw him lying next to me, asleep. It was the weirdest thing. And while marriage is not on the real table between us, I couldn't help but wonder why my subconscious mind went there, and what my dream-self would have said if I hadn't woken up. 

    Have you ever dreamt about someone in a way that left you feeling funny around them in real life? Was the dream pleasant? Sexy? Confusing? Did you tell them about it?

Comments (12)

  • design3rskyline@xanga

    I have half dreams all the time and those are the worst. Usually those dreams are the things I want to happen in my heart that I deny when I'm awake.

    Last night I had a dream where me and one of my good guy friends were hanging out when I just asked him what he would do if I kissed him. I forget what he said, but I kissed him and then we talked about how having sex wouldn't change our friendship, and then we attempted to, but we kept getting interrupted (I cockblock myself in my own dreams -___-). I'm thinking about telling him. I'm not sure yet

  • Camouflaged_by_night@xanga

    I have dreams about people all the time, but since they're about secret crushes, I never actually tell the person.

  • shandilion@xanga

    i had a waking dream last night. it was about people on xanga. true story.

  • Footballblogs@xanga

    @design3rskyline@xanga - Cockblock for the win. I remember convincing myself not to sleep with a friend (I had crushed on this girl for 6 years) in a dream due to rational reasons, despite her lying naked right in front of me in the dream. You can imagine how annoyed I was when I woke up.

  • P0RCELA1N_D0LL@xanga

    I've had the bathroom dream many times. usually there is no toilet paper or no toilet seat cover or the toilet is flooded it is never of a golden toilet with lush toilet paper and shiny marble countertops & floors


    I only dreamt about guys that I found attractive in real life. I haven't dreamt of any ugly guys. I often float in my dreams or I'm levitated as if viewing my dream from a bird's eye view on top of a tree branch or telephone pole or sometimes I'll dream of myself or I'm watching myself in my dream like an audience member in a movie theatre, so an out of body experience in my dreams

  • BloodIsLove@xanga

    It's funny - often I'll dream about someone in a certain way ;) and then, in waking life... I do actually feel different around them. It's awkward because the dreams seem to arouse feelings I'd been repressing. Whether actual loving feelings, or simple feelings of sexual attraction that I tend to deny as soon as I meet a man (I'm so good at it now that it takes my bloody dreams to push them out into the fore again :P). So, I get this..

  • quasarglow@xanga
    Dreams are usually our mind's way of working out what we would do if put in that situation.
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  • design3rskyline@xanga

    @Footballblogs@xanga - Hahaha, it was so annoying. Everytime we'd get a bit closer, and then someone would walk in and start talking to us (despite obviously trying to get it on). Or we'd have to go to a different room for some reason. Or something else equally as stupid. I think we were both in our underwear when my alarm clock woke me up. As soon as I woke up, I was like, SERIOUSLY?!

  • love_and_blackberries@xanga

    I have odd dreams. Once I had a dream I was being chased by Cruella De Ville and her evil band of purple hippos in swim trunks. I escaped by hiding in a closet full of packing peanuts.

    Also, I keep having dreams that my boyfriend breaks up with me. It's really annoying, because I have no plans of leaving him and as far as I know he has no plans of leaving either. Things are good. Then I have those dreams and I always wake up sad.

  • apopoed@xanga

    I dream of her every time i close my eyes..she is my strength,my source of happiness  but i can't have her .so i will continue dreaming  of her

  • sailorvenusx@xanga

    Who says you're not in a "half dream" right now?

    Maybe you're dreaming about what you'd write on Xanga and what would happen if it got posted on Datingish?

    It's obvious why you dreamt about your bf proposing to you. You're trying to figure out if it would be a good idea or not.

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