Monday, 13 June 2011
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Life can be good, it definitely has its highs and lows but it’s how we handle the highs and lows that make it or break it. What does this have to do with relationships? Just about EVERYTHING! Everyday of our lives is spent dealing with humans in one way or another, and we each have some sort of relationship with each other. The first relationship you will most likely have is with your parents (or whoever raised you).
When we are young, the things we experience daily help shape us into who we become as adults. People end up having mommy or daddy issues, anger problems, depression issues, low social skills, low self esteem, etc. On the more positive side, some pursue education, have the ability to love, and experience overall happiness, etc. Usually, it’s a mix of positive and negative experiences for each person.
Most people from the day they are born are not given the right tools to have healthy relationships. It’s like trying to get to a destination without a map or directions. It makes having a healthy, successful relationship very difficult. Without the right tools, it becomes yourresponsibility to discover what the right tools are and what the keys to a healthy, successful, happy relationship are.
Some people end up looking at their friends and seeing how their friends do it, they follow their parent’s example, or they sit around and wait for their prince charming to come on a white horse and take them away in the sunset.
If your friends are having one failing relationship after another, then that’s not a smart place to look.
If your parents haven’t been successful in their marriage, then that’s not the place to look either.
And I can promise you that waiting around for your prince charming to come knocking on your front door will leave you deeply disappointed and unsatisfied. As women, we love a good love story, well most of us. We’re suckers for romantic comedies and romance novels and really, just anything romantic. But we have to be careful that our views on love, relationships and life don’t become confused with reality.
The first key to having a healthy, happy, successful relationship doesn’t even involve another person, it’s all about you! Finding out who you are and what you truly want out of life is important. Being confident in who you are is a very empowering feeling. You also have to learn how to communicate what you want to those people that are in your life. You must trust yourself and love yourself – if you can’t trust yourself and love yourself, then how can you trust and love another person?
Any good book or even some inspirational books will tell you the same thing!