If he has already expressed to his parents that he is dating you, maybe you guys can set up a dinner. There is always the idea of fear that they won't accept you, but you would never really know until you try and experience the time with them.

I understand where you're coming from because I'm Chinese as well and family is important to me as well as the rest of my family. We are always told to get along with everyone and to stay away from bad influences.

Who knows? Maybe they will end up liking you and has lightened up on their son dating someone of a different ethnic background. Just give it a try and see if they would like to have dinner and meet you.

But sometimes you might have to come to the position and reality that it might not work out(worse case). And his family might not end up liking you or your family may not end up liking him. The prejudices are hard to work around, I might say. 

But I think if it comes down to that point, you have to decide if your happiness is overridden by the happiness of others (good god, that's the worse) or whether or not that you deserve your happiness over what anyone thinks. And how much you both love each other among other variables. And if it's serious enough, and if neither side likes any of you, then you have lots of tough choices ahead. Whether or not to stay together because it will be hard either way.

My husband's father did not approve of me.  I did not meet him until my son was born.  The second he saw my son, things changed.  Give it time, maybe things will change and maybe they won't.  People change all the time.  People that are so wrapped up in their own prejudices that they don't even want to give others a chance aren't worth the time.
I agree with @love_and_blackberries@xanga - Even if they do accept you, you will occasionally hear something racist every now and then.  For example, my MIL constantly talks about how she is glad her white trash neighbors finally moved and even back when they first moved in she would have rather a nice black family move in instead of the white trash one that lived there.

i remember a boyfriends mom liked me but when she said something mean about hispanic people, my boyfriend laughed and told her i was hispanic.she was shocked due to my pale skin and said i didnt count since i was sweet. whatever that means. but i never took it serious. peoples ignorance is just that, ignorant. i say you two should relax, happily date, and when the day comes for you to be introduced to them, see what happens. everyone else in that family that has met you obviously like you and these are people raised by those youre afraid are racist!  -_- just cuz his siblings happened to fall in love with caucasian people, doesnt mean anything. and my dad says stuff all the time that may be considered racist, but he isnt racist. he wouldnt care if i came home with anyone of a different background as mine as ling as the guy treated me right. so hopefully despite ur guys dads offensive talk, he will appreciate that his son is happy with you and thats what matters. so relax, date, marry if your boyfriend if he asks one day. forget youre chinese. forget he is of euro descent and just be happy. celebrate each of your cultures. but my goodness, get over this kinda shit.

I had a very similar situation.  Very serious Christian Dutch family, was my ex's background.  He hesitated to tell his family he was dating me (half-Japanese).  Now less than 6 months after we broke up he's marrying some white (probably very religious) girl.  Sometimes religious and racial differences really do matter.  Hopefully your situation will end up differently.  Perhaps he'll be one to break the mold of his family (my ex's family all had siblings married and having kids, all white and Christian).  It takes strong people to be their own person and not just follow in the path that is written for them.  

I think my parents are racist towards certian ethnicities (not all, just some...its really silly and I call them out on it all the time). I can't imagine what they would say if I brought someone of a different race home.

I don't understand why many women judge a man based on his family, especially in these sorts of instances where the man is nothing like his family. If he is a nice guy, and his family is nasty, shouldn't he be encouraged in his ways rather than disposed of? If every woman disapproved a guy based on his family, he'd be doomed, even if he was a nice guy doing all he could to be a good person in this world. I certainly know I am not my family. Judge me by who I am. Similar argument with how you can judge a man by how he treats his mother. What bullshit. What if the mother is a rotten woman? If anything, judge a man by his friends, but even in that case, he may not have had the luck to meet nice people. If he hasn't been nurtured by his family rightly, who could blame him? Yes, I'm venting .

I'm German-American (white) and my boyfriend is 100% Korean.  I was never worried about the racial differences, but I was - and still am - worried about the religious part.  Although I am not greatly religious, my parents place a high importance on that sort of thing.  They're meeting my boyfriend in two days, and I'm worried they will judge him negatively just based on the fact that he's a different religion. 

It seems to me that they're not actually racist.  They haven't said anything against Chinese people yet, just assumed their son would marry someone with a similar cultural background.  Don't be too quick to play the racist card, when actually, you should probably be more concerned about the religion thing. 

My ex had traditional Korean parents and I met them a few times.  I don't think they liked me because they wanted someone that was basically a blue print of the mom (dainty Korean housewife).  I'm Chinese and I want to be a doctor.  And I outweigh his 98 lb mom by....a significant amount >.
However, they do seem to like his girlfriend now, who is white, and they seem to be working pretty well.  I think I softened them up :p
My boyfriend's family all seem to like me.  I know for a fact that the male half like me -__- (creepy!!)  My parents have had a few issues with my boyfriend, but mostly b/c our families are so different and things just don't get communicated as well between them.  My parents did NOT like my ex though.  There's a bit of racism existing between the Koreans and Chinese...

Okay, for the record I'm Chinese and female. I would never put my family through that kind of turmoil just because I like a guy. And I typically have some strong feelings for men. The religion thing is itself a big issue (I'm Christian, so in your situation it would be less of a problem) and bringing in race is a whole other issue. If your bf's parents were more tolerant or accepting, it would be less of an issue, but still worrisome. I always imagine myself as a part of my family in a marriage. This marriage will unite two families, not just two people. Sometimes we have to make the appropriate sacrifices for our families. I know he's your first and you probably think he's the one, but you'd be surprised down the road in most cases.

@TheNotoriousGOD@xanga - why does it matter how long they've been together and how old they are?

I think animals can be more loving than some humans.

I am in a similar situation. My boyfriend and I are both Indians but of different geographical locations and even though there are so many similarities between our traditions, customs, food, music etc. it is still an issue that we're not of the same "Caste" and so on. It's sickens me to know that just because I'm from a different place I'm automatically deemed beneath his family. This has been an issue in my relationship for a while. His parents don't even know that I exist because of the fear of how they'll react. Mine will pose the same issue but they are so much more open minded and will be accepting. His? Not so much. At the end of the day, no matter the differences your significant other has to be willing to fight for you and the love you share. If he doesn't put up that fight then they'll never get a glimpse of how amazing you may be.