Sunday, 12 June 2011
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"Haha!" To All The Girls Who Peaked in High School
Three quarters of the popular girls I went to high school with peaked 7 years ago. I absolutely love seeing them today. Or should I say – I love them seeing me.
When I began my all-girl high school almost a decade ago (ouch), I was pretty average on the popularity spectrum. I wasn't cool, and I wasn't a geek. My friends and I had a big enough group to warrant respect, but we weren't bitchy or slutty, so we didn't qualify as being part of the "cool" clique.
We were right in the middle of the social ladder – with really great times, nerd-level grades, and insanely cute boyfriends. And, even looking back today, we were very content. I wouldn't change a thing.
Unlike the girls of today who are dressing like mini Kardashians, we hadn't yet discovered the art of perfectly fitted clothing or precisely adjusted makeup. The Miraculous Push-Up bra wasn't invented yet and my ass was still what one would call a normal size for a white girl.
I would look at all the attitude-ridden popular girls and envy their style, their hair, their confidence. I was constantly attempting to find the right gel to keep my curly, puffy hair tamed, the right makeup to even out my skin, the right accessories to try and look my cutest. We wore uniforms and, looking back, thank God for that. I would have really been screwed if I had to add a wardrobe into the mix.
These girls had the bodies of college girls, when I was happy to finally put a little meat on my post-Junior High bones. They wore Mac makeup (what was that?). They went tanning (how can you tan indoors?) One girl had a tanning bed in her damn house. How was a mousy, little, puffy-haired pale girl like me going to compete with them?
After years of having my self-esteem kicked in the stomach when I saw their perfectly straightened, highlighted hair, or impeccable eyebrow shaping, or unnaturally tan skin, I finally started to come into myself.
I found the beauty of a padded bra, was introduced to Mac (who became a VERY good friend of mine over the years), and was able to transform my hair into actual curls using something called Frizz Ease (Thank you, John Frieda).
I felt better about myself. I looked good. I walked a little prouder. I wasn't as self-conscious or jealous.
The cool girls, however, still appeared to be feeling better than me. They still looked better than me. They still had an attitude. They did not seem self-conscious, and they sure as hell weren't jealous. As a matter of fact, they were bitchy as ever. I guess they liked being on top, and didn't want anyone coming close to stealing their thunder.
My best friend (whom I met on the very first day of high school) saw one of the nastiest girls from our graduating class last month. This girl had it all back in the day – looks, designer clothes, boobs (something I was much lacking). She could get any guy she wanted and befriend any girl in the school. She was tough enough to be scary and pretty enough to get away with it. But on this day, 7 years later, she sat in a hair salon carrying post-pregnancy fat and a wet towel wrapped around her head.
My best friend, on the other hand, had the opposite experience. She had just gotten her hair blown out with curls, and was walking with her head held high. She said the ex-queen-bee gave her a confused look as if to say, "I used to know you. How the hell did you get so pretty?"
I'll tell you how: Because karma is a bitch, bitch. If you want to be a rude, mean person throughout high school (or in life), then sooner or later it is going to catch up to you. And, according to Facebook pictures, it's caught up to most of my graduating class...big time.
Did you get much better looking since junior high or high school? Do you like to see that you've upgraded, while all the mean girls that looked down on you got worse looking?
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- From: Jenn
- About Me: I have been on more bad dates than I have fingers and toes to count on -- and I'm only in my early twenties! I laugh when I watch 'Sex & the City,' because I've had so many dysfunctional relationships that they might as well as made me their 5th friend. Even so, I used to love going on dates with different guys (now I only let one guy take me out on dates), eating great food, and talking on the phone until 3AM. I never did get over the idea that a guy should treat a girl like a princess -- even if I've encountered one too many frogs.
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Not even sure where to begin with this one. Seems like you grew up to become the girl you hated in high school. At the very least, that's the image you seem to keep writing about.
Finally a post of yours I can relate to. Yes, I know exactly what you're talking about. Back in the day, most people I know were concerned about being popular while I was more concerned to get the heck out of high school and never see those jerks ever again. I cared more about my studies than drinking at 16 and having kids at 17. There were girls in high school who had seen enough D for a life time while the thought of a D back then repulsed me. The only thing I let a boy do to me back then was barely kiss me on the cheek, yet here there were the popular girls who have practically seen every single high school boy's D.
Years later, after they thought they were IT back then, I hear some of them have 4 to 5 kids by 4 to 5 different guys, they're on welfare, they're jobless. I noticed all the slutty popular girls are now mostly married to men they met in college people didn't know them beforehand. I'm not surprised who'd take them seriously if they got married to someone from high school.
I used to be mistaken for a boy back then, but now I think I'm prettier than all of the has been popular girls, or at least most of them. Even the guys who thought they were it, have gotten chubby and fat from drinking in college. They still talk about the past and attempt to bring down people in the past because that's all they got is the past.
@Grtt@xanga - That's what I was thinking, too. I know what she's talking about, but it doesn't make sense if she writes it since she behaves just like them now. I don't behave like them, I only look better than most of the has been popular girls.
I dont know why you bring these little dramas up.
This was back in high school
Why are you looking down on them now ? GROW UP !!
You're in your "early 20s" ?? You look like you're in your early 30s from Cougar Town
@anonymous - Oh, I know the type she's talking about too. Luckily, we didn't have many at my high school. The geeks were the majority, since it's a magnet school for the fine arts. There were a couple that acted this way; there just weren't enough of them to make a real difference. I certainly don't understand wanting to make yourself seem like those girls if you knew how difficult they made any experience for other people. Especially when the 'other people' in question included you!
You sound like you became like the girls you describe.
And for the record, yes I did become more attractive since school, and some of the pretty girls became less so, but life made it that way, they had children or let things slip, but that's life! I don't feel a sense of pride about it, it's shallow and not a characteristic I would want to carry.My english teacher used to tell our class that the ones who weren't that attractive now, would probably be much more attractive, after highschool/later in life. It really depends on the person, though. I feel that I started to look better after highschool, but most of the girls who were pretty, in my class.... are still pretty. Thankfully, I didn't deal with all this damn girl drama. I may not have been the prettiest or the most popular, but the pretty popular cheerleader girls were still nice and friendly. We were all pretty nice to each other, even if we didn't hang out all the time. I'm definitely thankful for that. lol.
"I'll tell you how: Because karma is a bitch, bitch. If you want to be a rude, mean person throughout high school (or in life), then sooner or later it is going to catch up to you. And, according to Facebook pictures, it's caught up to most of my graduating class...big time"
So true. I don't think you "grew up to become the girl you hated in high school." I think you like to see the bitch who made your life miserable in high school and thought she was so hot and so great and all the guys loved her end up gaining 30 pounds and with three STD's because she slept around so much. When I see bitches I went to school with I love to show off how great looking I am now. I parade around like I'm hot shit in front of them and act like I'm really happy. Because I'm sure as fuck happier then I was in High School.
If that makes me a bad person or shows insecurity or whatever, fine. I'll take my kicks where I can get 'em. Haters gonna hate.
i can tell how revenge must be sweet for you, and i don't blame you. i never had that in high school, i wanted to get out and to college.
I wanna see before an after pictures! High school pics versus now! :)
If you're in your twenties and are still having gripes that go wayyy back to high school, I think you need to reevaluate your life, because obviously you're doin' it wrong.
I didn't read the article, but get this: My friend (who just had a baby by the way; good for her) was out getting her hair done the other day, when she thought she recognized a girl she knew in high school. The girl looked back at her with such immature cockiness...you would've thought they were right back in high school! So rude!
Doesn't seem okay to feel triumphant over something like that, personally.
yeah when i was in jr high i was cute for a second. then puberty hit and i looked awkward and had loads of zits. lol. then i was just the weird chick who blended into walls no one noticed. but as soon as high school was over, i grew into my looks and everything began to change on me physically. as if puberty was finally doing something and hella late lol. i believe i look better and and i am sure no one would recognize me that i went to school with. i remember the girls in grade school that were popular, a lot look like crap now and some look as beautiful as ever. but whatevs, the thing that matters is i am happy with myself. forget karma. just cuz people got hit with an ugly stick, doesnt mean i gotta celebrate it. -_-
it's hilarious some people wonder why people flame Jenn so much. really, they don't see how rude she is? i know what she means, but it's 2011, and high school was well...in 2000 - 2004 for me. you're not gonna live a true definition of a happy life if you're gonna let these little high school crap continue to get to you for the rest of your life. i'm just glad i haven't seen many of the people i hate from high school anymore because most of them moved away, or i'm fortunate enough to not run into them in town for the ones who are still in town.
Also, 9 out of 10 posts of hers is just bashing girls or bashing men...um...what is the point of these posts? In turn, she gets bashed. There is no lesson learned here.
What you should have said in your blog Jenn, was that people should be nicer to the "unpopular" people in high school because most of the "unpopular" kids are the ones who turn out more successful, not bash the has beens for being "uglier" than you now.
I love this post. One girl in highschool was always comparing her body to mine and was pissed that I was smaller than her. Low and behold I added her on facebook and she's a cubby thing now. I never teased her about it because she made fun of me in a few times in our freshmen and junior year, she wasn't a total butthole to me.
I was made fun of more so by boys then girls actually. They were always the most weird looking guys with huge noses. But regardless of the fact that I knew that they were doing because they were a bunch of stupid boys it still hurt. I was the weird quiet girl with the body of a woman but dressed and looked mostly average(well outside of my goth phase). I didn't show my body off because it was weird to have boobs at 9 or 10 yrs old. I got bullied about it constantly. When I see those people now I don't think much of it. If anything I wish I would have done something about the bullying THEN. But we can't turn back time and although I still get very insecure about my weight and looks in general I don't go out of my way to do what they did to me.
Yup I know what you're talking about. It's pretty sad if you're at your prettiest in high school.
@ShirleyD@xanga - exactly! very written! just happy that YOU change for the better.
@Grtt@xanga - @SexyGamerGirl@xanga - What is your problem? I teach middle school. If you think that kids aren't going to remember how bad some of their peers treat them now -- never mind high school -- you are so wrong. Unfortunately, it is usually the hurtful things we remember. Lucky you if you went through school unscathed, but you are definitely in the minority.
You may look better now (or whatever) but with a shitting attitude, it really doesn't change anything. The best revenge is to live your life happy. Who really cares what they look like or how they are living their lives.
@design3rskyline@xanga - you're pretty judgmental yourself sweetie
@toni206 - I like how you singled us out when the majority of people seem to think the same thing. It's not even the fact that she is bitching about high school. It's the fact that she comes off as one of these girls. Maybe you haven't read any of her other posts, but the girl is literally what she is describing.
And truthfully, I've worked with children for years now, and no one remembers that shit. Most people who are "bullied" and what not grow up to have healthy normal lives. Of course there are those that were victims of severe bullying, but this stuff the she is describing is simply ridiculous. She's just glad she is better off now. All she thinks about is her high and mighty self.