Hello, awful formatting.

I'm kind of interested where they get the impression that 'the majority of divorced people have regrets'. Says who? That said, if people aren't happy in a relationship, no amount of 'hard work' is going to make them so.

Let's hope your marriage isn't as awful as this formatting.

When one partner stops growing, and expects the other to stop growing too, the marriage is doomed.

They say the first year of marriage is the hardest. I'm 2 years in and it's still hard sometimes. And frankly divorce is NOT easy. PLEASE! All the disputes over who gets what, alimony, child custody, etc etc. Especially since the two parties involved rarely happen to be two people who know how to sit down like reasonable adults and discuss decent terms and who gets what. It's always tends to turn out (9 times out of 10) some greedy scorned woman who just wants to take everything she can from the man including his kids because she got her feelings hurt and wants to retaliate. 

if my parents had let those little differences get to them, they would have divorced years ago. but they lived and worked through their problems and love each other like crazy over twenty years later.  love each other so much that they both have told me that when one goes, the other wouldnt know what to do anymore. they complete one another basically. and believe me, i remember some of those intense fights growing up but they worked it out.  im down with divorce, but only if its truly needed and wanted, when things are just truly over.when they have fought for their marriage and if nothing works, so be it. i am glad divorced is now accepted in society though. i watched a movie the other day to where it was a long time ago in england and the womans husband left her for another woman  to which he knocked up. they claimed to be in love and due to the time period, the woman was stuck married to him, the government saying she wasnt "deserted" enough to be granted separation. forget that! divorce is great when separation is truly needed and wanted lol.

"When a couple splits based on “irreconcilable differences” it really means they simply gave up."

That's offensive, because you don't really know the reasons. What would you suggest people site when they're getting divorced, especially considering that the paperwork is publicly available for all to see? "He turned out to be gay," "She's an alcoholic who has refused to get treatment and almost killed one of our kids in a drunken car accident," "She lied about the paternity of her baby and the kid's not really mine"?

You don't have any business judging people for their relationship choices, because they're not yours.

Irreconcilable differences? Let's see...maybe having a baby with a mistress and keeping it secret for ten years while fooling everyone around you and getting you and the mistress pregnant at the same exact time I'd say is grounds for a divorce.  but how often does that happen?

i would never take someone back after they cheated or abused me either, even if they did that while married.

"She’s Christian, he’s an atheist – how do you raise the kids? How do you discipline them? Challenging? Yes. Irreconcilable? No."

Obviously, you have no idea.  The matter is extreme, sensitive, and too valuable for some people to give it up for another person. 

You think we can just think about the past and/or read books on relationships and inspiration books to make everything okay at the end of the day?  If so, I'm sure thousands of people wouldn't be paying to speak to a therapist and guiding them to work out their issues.  You think the majority of divorced people don't try and save their marriage?  What about those couples who has been together for twenty or thirty years?  You think they just woke up one day and say, "I want a divorce?"  Obviously, it's been building.  Something or someone had struck a cord for them to want out.  Or perhaps they have tried.  Tried all they want.  All their might.  At the end, it didn't work.

You don't know anyone's marriage or why it ended.  How could you judge that the majority divorced people have regrets?  Or that they didn't try?  That's the most naivest statement I ever heard.

I'm divorced and it was the hardest but the BEST decision I made for myself.  Our differences was extreme and a big gap in our marriage that pulled us apart from each other over the years.

You don't know what you're talking about until you've been through it.  In the mean time, I suggest you write different articles that you can relate to.

eep. I'm all up on @the_rocking_of_socks@xanga - this one.
I'm married, and I find this post a bit immature.
It almost seems like a fresh graduate with a certificate in family counseling wrote this.

I enjoyed your post.  I agree that many people take marriage too lightly and give up too easily when the going gets tough, or they just are not "madly in love" all the time, but citing "irreconcilable differences" often just means they do not want to air very private problems in front of the public, possibly destroying the reputation of one or both partners.

It's always about the sex.

@Lost_Muse@xanga - Yes, that's why I listed them.  They ARE irreconcilable differences, but they're the sort of problems that can very rarely be worked out.  Case in point, irreconcilable differences doesn't always mean the couple is just lazy and doesn't want to put forth effort.

If the couple has one Christian and one atheist, that's either not going to work, or one (or both) of them is pretty apathetic about their beliefs.