Saturday, 11 June 2011
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Turn-On Survey
There is a world of difference between subtle and appropriate PDA (public displays of affection) and having sex in public - but the two have something in common: they both depend on the presence of other people.So here's a question for all y'all: If and when you find yourself being sensual and/or sexual in public, does the sensation of being seen add to your excitement and pleasure? Or does it make you uncomfortable?
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Every once in awhile it does add some excitement. My boyfriend is way more into this type of thing then I am. Sometimes our friends that are couples will come over and we have had sex in front of each other multiple times. At first it was really hard for me because I'm really insecure with my body but eventually I liked people watching me and getting turned on by it. So I wouldn't say it's specifically one of my turn ons but I definitely don't mind it as much anymore. In fact I feel more close to our friends since it's been done. But would I do it in public? Eh, probably not.
Not really.
I'm pretty sure it doesn't add or remove any feeling at all. If I'm already turned on, it doesn't make me MORE turned on, but it definitely doesn't turn me off in any way. The feeling of getting caught is more exciting though...so when you are in a public place with no people around, the possibility of someone coming around the corner is exciting.
If I'm getting into it, I don't notice anyone around me.
So their existence becomes irrelevant to me. 
Though if you are doing something in a little corner knowing full well someone can stumble upon you well... that is fun and naughty!!! I had this one boyfriend I was dating that I worked with to which we would sneak off together and do stuff. It was fun since we were at work and anyone could catch us. Good times...
i'm super anti-pda. i don't even like holding hands in public. i let the 12 year olds do that shit.
It turns me on for sure
It doesn't turn me on, but it does entertain me. One night I was at party and hooking up with this guy in the living room. I was going down on him, and I remember hearing my friends yelling in the other room and laughing in my head. Then when they came down the hall, the guy somehow pulled me up and flipped us over at the same time so that it just looked like we were innocently making out. I laughed out loud then. Besides that, I don't really care :P
I've yet to see a super hot couple making out. they are often the couples that I wouldn't want to see and disgusts me. do couples that enjoy being watch get off by knowing that they are desirable to others like they might think that they'd join in for a threesome, because I don't see the appeal
then again...it isn't some hot soap opera scene where the guy looks like a half naked model drenched in baby oil/sweat
in public, I like cuddling and subtle cute kisses on the cheek
I prefer privacy for the makeout sessions and more, because if there was a creepy guy or just anybody staring and getting off of watching us, it would gross me out. I don't think it is appropriate if the couple is groping each other and heavily kissing in a shopping plaza for example. makeout in the car or some place more exclusive and shady.
Neither, but when you're in college world where privacy is harder to find than peace in the middle east.. you gotta do what you gotta do.
my boyfriend and I have been caught 'sexting' (roommate walk in on us fooling around) a few times, and we've done some oral things outside and have been seen on passerbys... and it might have been mortifying for the first two seconds but we got over it quickly. I don't know about him but I personally don't really get turn on OR off by being exhibitionistic. It's not a choice and I'd rather privacy than anything else, but like I said that's just not possible to find sometimes.
Danger is a turn-on. I have done the deed in the middle of my university campus at night, and it was very exhilarating. Right up until the part a security van drove by and honked at us, which was followed up with whooping and catcalling, and made us flee the scene and go home to fuck each others brains out. But yeah, Danger rules!
It takes adrenaline....http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Nk2HdQTmPxw&feature=related
I wouldn't enjoy it in public but like the first commenter posted, I like the idea of other people I trust watching me at home. With my current boyfriend I doubt he would be down with that, but before we were dating I had some friends over and we all watched porn and I hooked up with one friend in my room, while the other two hooked up in my living room.
That was a pretty good time.I'm super uncomfortable with PDA in public, but it depends on what(holding hands, hugging, occassionaly kiss or two). I remember I was on the subway the other week. This guy had his gf cornered and they kept kissing. It was really sensual and really awkward because it was right in front of me and my mother =\ Then there was the other time I was sitting on the subway by the window which is horizontal, the gf sat beside me while the bf sat in the vertical seats in front of us. Mind you I don't know these ppl and our seats were like a T (for a better visualization). They started leaning in and kissing on and off ...SUPER AWKWARD bc it was directly in front of me. LOL I let out a uncomfortable *sigh* took out my book and started reading. I have nothing against pda but like i said it depends on what and the limits.
Personally I'll kiss for a few minutes at MOST. But the common thing I do for PDA is a peck on the lips and holding the person i love.
Maybe a little, but if so, that's only because I'm usually reluctant to engage in pda (thus it would be mostly out of anxiety..or something.) Especially around people i know... =p That makes it all the more awkward for some reason..
As for my bf, maybe, since he seems to be something of an exhibitionist. But we've never really tested it out... We only held hands a few times in public, and that was when it was dark... and I only kissed him when no one was around or looking. >.>
it's just like the whole "having sex/doing sexual things and the chance of being caught" it makes your nerves act up and makes you get a little anxious.. so it in a sense, turns you on more.. it's fact. :) i know when there's a chance i could get caught, i'm a little more into it.
I'm not a fan of PDA - mine or others'. Anything beyond holding hands or a quick peck is too much for me.