Thursday, 02 June 2011
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Sex with a Condom Vs Masturbation
I've given this topic a lot of thought over the course of my life as a sexually active male. From coffee shops to subway cars, I've kicked around the idea that masturbation may very well be more pleasurable than having sexual intercourse with a rubber baby deterrent. Some nights are just better spent in the comfort of your room, impulsively twitching the pleasure hand to the rhythm of your own erotic brain waves.Why bother pulling a one-nighter with some girl you'll probably never see again if it's going to feel like you're sticking your dick inside of a mini hot air balloon--potentially drunk, at that? No sir, I'll take faux-asexuality over a night of penile captivity within the confines of protective desensitization and a malevolent female birth hole, waiting to suck me into its vortex before I have a chance to rig it with vaginal suppositories.
Regardless of brand or type, condoms take away from the experience. When you're making love with the lights off, in the missionary position, for the sake of procreation in the Biblical sense, you want to feel every last inch of skin on your partner. Maybe I'm spoiled from years of early teenage masturbation and long-term, committed relationships, but I dread having to apprehend myself before a sexual encounter. An act as pleasurable and free (unless you're a politician) as sex should never incite such feelings, but it's a necessary evil if you're capable of using your brain and understand the risks involved with unprotected sex.
Some people go as far as using condoms in long-term relationships with STI-free partners on top of active birth control, in order to lessen the chances of having a rug rat or ten. That's the smartest decision you can make if you don't want to wind up on MTV's 90th season of 16 and Pregnant. I like to live on the edge, though. My adrenaline breaks loose and runs wild when I think about that one percent chance I have of ruining my life in the process of satisfying my libido, and making my partner come. It's almost as thrilling as watching myself go limp post-coition.
I'm not lackadaisical about sex and prevention, but I will refuse to wear a condom if I'm certain that my partner is on birth control and is taking it as suggested. You can lazily argue that the woman is capable of lying in order to foster my seed, but what's stopping her from poking holes in your condoms or using the "spit-and-wipe" technique if you're into oral? Abstinence is the only sure-fire way to keep your genes out of the pool (normally a good thing), otherwise you're always at risk of catching crabs and birthing the anti-Christ. You can't escape the wrath of Pascal's Wager applied to pregnancy, otherwise.
As you can see, masturbation is a happy medium, and it eliminates the risk of pregnancy and disease while still feeling better than thrusting at a dimly lit hallway. Many guys get chastised and labeled as sexless wankers, as if it were the worst possible insult aside from making homoerotic cracks at penis size and virginity. To all of you assholes out there, at least these sexless wankers aren't running the risk of a life of ruin and expensive clothing/jewelry for future daughters. They aren't putting themselves in harm's way by possibly introducing a brutish son who rebels against eating spinach and pisses his bed at the age of fourteen. Go get a vasectomy, losers. Evolution says thanks in advance.
Although I've arrived at the conclusion that masturbation will normally outclass sex with a condom, I'm in no way saying that it's inconsequential. Making love with another human being as opposed to your scrawny limbs has the added effect of touching upon multiple senses, which enhance the experience tenfold. Staring into your partner's eyes, feeling their touch, their breath... these are all things you miss out on when you duct tape yourself in a masturbatory position. However, if you're all about the climax and don't particularly care for one-night stands and their emotional disconnect, tugging away at your genitals may be preferential.
How do you feel about condoms and their effect on sexual stimulation? Is birth control enough to forgo wearing a rubber? Is John Travolta really gay? Ahh, the great mysteries of the universe!
Sincerely,
Nuñez Love Doctor.Certified with a PhD in Random Acts of Wankery and Hotdogs in Hallways.
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I'm pretty sure that my boyfriend thinks sex with me with a condom on is still a lot better than masturbation.
If you don't get pleasure with a condom on, that's fine, but plenty of other people do.
I like sex without a condom. But I like my clean blood and being healthy more. Wearing one is never an issue.
As for travolta. I dunno. I just dunno.
I don't know. I have both had sex with a condom and masturbated.
Neither had an effect on my sexual stimulation or my libido. I don't
know about any of you, but if I ever have trouble keeping stimulated,
it's because the condoms not freaking lubed up enough.
Condoms are pretty annoying, but I get more pleasure from giving the other person pleasure than from feeling it myself. Therefore, for me, sex with a condom is more satisfying than masturbation.
Also, birth control can only be enough to forgo using a condom if you know for sure the other person is STD free and isn't sleeping around. Since that knowledge is basically unknowable, I'd only really forgo the condom in a committed relationship once we both had very recent STD tests and we both saw the results.
My man and I never use a condom. We use the pull out method.
So far we've had no babies so it's been working for us and we've been extra careful. I've tried to convince him to use condoms before just to be extra safe, but since he hasn't been with anyone else besides me, I've let it slide that we don't use any.
I don't want to use birth control because it would mess me up. We only get with each other so that's why I am okay with him not using condoms and we've told each other the truth of not getting with anyone else. In fact, he's said he's actually scared to get with anyone else since he knows me best, same with me scared of getting with anyone else at the same time as well. There are lots of things out there that we don't want to contract.
We still enjoy each other's company though, so we're not just only doing it with each other because we know each other best, but because we like to have fun with each other, too we don't need it from anyone else. We satisfy each other.
@anonymous - I forgot to add...with or without a condom, lol
@anonymous - You know there's sperm in pre-cum, right?
the few guys that I've surveyed lol have told me that they get very turned on when they feel the female's liquids, so a condom would prevent the moisture LOL but the moist word makes me cringe because it also reminds me of moist chocolate chip cookies. hmm...nevermind
@thepsychoticraccoon@xanga - Yes, I'm well aware of that. but like I said, we've been extra careful...and no babies so far!
I've heard this one story online where this one dude always used condoms with his girlfriend plus birth control and he still got her pregnant. If people don't want to worry about pregnancy at all, might as well not do the deed period. Condoms most of the time work, but there are times where condoms also don't work.
Hand job anyone?
I would much rather have sex with my current sexual partner with a condom then masturbate. He and I can both go even with a condom.
I will admit it is better without a condom, but I'm not currently on birth control so I'm not risking anything. When I go back on the pill and I've been on it for a while then we can stop using condoms and have even more awesome sex.
But sex is always better than masturbating, unless the guy doesn't know what he's doing.
Yeah... Sex without a condom is awesome. But then again sex with a condom can be awesome if your partner is everything you want, the way you do it, the type of condom is right etc etc
I do think its probably better to have a wank than a one night stand, but then again I am have far too much experience of the former, and not enough of the latter. I don't think I could hack a one-night stand though... I would make an awkward joke and then be forced to kill myself or something....
BUT I am gonna, and always will, take as many precautions as possible to stop babies coming into my life. I do not like kids. I do not want kids. But I am well aware this opinion may change (before I am told to get a vasectomy...). So for now, condoms are necessary.
@alice_eigailia@xanga - I'll take 5 to go please
All jokes aside,
Its true you can get tested for STD's (yeah i said it, i am oldschool) and yeah birthcontrol is all good an plenty. but if there is anything i do know about humanity is this;
Nothing is 100%.
Nothing.
Doesn't feel as good with a condom, but my honey and I try to use one every time... I do use the pill regularly though, so it's a nice backup.
And I don't think John Travolta is gay, lolll
I have to say, as a side note, I think oral stimulation (receiving) and using a vibrator are the most wonderful sensations
There seem to be a lot of people here saying that they don't worry about STDs because they're in a committed relationship or know their past. The same might not be true for your partner.
when i was on the pill religiously and in serious relationships, we ditched condoms. we were covered: no babies, no stds. but since i have been off the pill, condoms are a must if i am to have sex. though im not into casual sex. i prefer to masturbate as well lol. i know ill orgasm and enjoy myself as to where with a random partner, there is no guarantee of either things happening. though i have never been off the pill in my sexual history, i wonder what will happen when i decide to have sex again when in a serious relationship. i wish there was a male birth control already!
but yes condoms ruin some sensation, theres nothing like flesh on flesh. birth control is enough to forgo condoms if ur in a serious committed relationship where you trust one another. and i dunno, is he gay? lolYeah I don't trust condoms anyway I say just wait until you're married.
Didn't enjoy this post as much as your previous ones, though I guess it's because I'm biased.
Sex is far too wonderful for me to choose masturbation over condoms. I'm very much anti-baby until I am well-off, but that doesn't mean I will not be having sex in the meantime. Condoms and sex. Yes.
Even still, if I was you I wouldn't take the chance. I wouldn't give people that much credit. People do lie you know, probably a lot more than you realized. Though I know some women do that, but a lot won't. But I think the man should handle the condom thing if he is worried about the woman doing that(poking holes at the tip). That pretty much solves that problem up there. With bc, a lot of women do forget to take it one day and then a few days beyond that. I've had this problem and had my hormones a bit screwy because of it. I've known others that have done this. It's best to have a condom as a back up.
OP:
Though I do agree with @Liquid_Pain_523@xanga -. Sex really should also be about making the other person feel good besides yourself. Even though I'm in a committed relationship, my bf uses condoms and even if I was to get on the pill...then he would still. Better be safe than sorry in my opinion.
He wears condoms, so I feel it's only fair that I also dress up for him in special outfits. We both don't always like having to put on our attire, but it works well for us. And it's fair.
You know what's awesome? Being in a committed relationship where both partners have been tested negative for stds and not using them.
@Hinase@xanga - But condoms can also break, you see what I mean? I understand that an extra layer of protection is better than none, but how big of a difference does it make to use a condom on top of birth control pills if they're being used properly?
Of course I wouldn't trust just any girl and if she misses her pill, I'll just jerk off later that night or use that God-forsaken condom. I'm simply stating that I feel safe enough relying on pills in a committed relationship.
@ohforrealson@xanga - That's a combination you simply can't beat (get it? Beat? Beating off? Harharhar).
@quasarglow@xanga - Right on. :D
@starcrossedloversdivine@xanga - Definitely. But I'm sure someone will say that you have to be cautious anyway because your partner MAY cheat and get AIDS or something.