Tuesday, 31 May 2011
I've seen a couple of posts here and there about looks. For example, the post about the guy who doesn't like short hair on girls and the girl that wont date guys that are shorter than her. I've been seeing a lot of comments where people say something like "Oh, you're so shallow, personality should matter more than looks, bla bla bla." I personally do agree with that statement, but people shouldn't judge others for having preferences. I can't deny that looks do matter to a point. I want to be with someone that I personally find attractive, it doesn't matter what other people say. I want to think highly of my partner in both personality and looks.
Here's my deal breaker list for when it comes to looks on guys:
- Big and wide noses
- Being a little more than chubby
- Having a big beer belly type of stomach
- Long hair (shoulder length or longer)
- Being shorter than me(5' 4" - 5' 5")
- Being too tall (over 6 feet of so)
- Does having unfavorable body odor count??
Now, before you start attacking me, I want to disclose a few things. For me, personality has to be a 9/10 and for looks, around 7/10. Of course, these figures are really subjective to my opinion. A guy who's a 7 to me might be a 5 to someone else. And a guy with a nasty attitude is out the door no matter how hot he is. So I stand by my claim that personality matters much, much more than looks, but it doesn't mean that looks don't matter at all.
Why is it okay to have personality preferences but not for looks? Sounds hypocritical to me. Maybe people should go around telling others that they're too "unforgiving" and "harsh" to people who have strict personality preferences for their partner. There is also biological basis to our physical preferences. We're attracted to good looking people because good looks is a signal to good genes. This may not be true all the time, but that's how our brains are wired to think. I don't want kids, but if I were to have a kid, I would want it to have a decent looking father so the kid can be good looking because life tends to be easier for good looking people.
Just for fun, the following is my deal breaker list for personality:
- Being some sort of porn addict
- Guys who put women down
- Someone that doesn't make me feel like the only one
- Being a lazy bum that doesn't want to work hard to be financially stable
Well, there you have it. The point I was trying to make is: Don't judge others for having preferences!!! Whether it has to do with looks or personality. We ALL have preferences. If we didn't, we would just going wildly about dating anyone that showed interest in us and getting married to the first person we date! I don't know about you, but I sure am glad I didn't marry my first serious boyfriend.