that's horrible.

You get up and live your life to the fullest. Sure, it'll be hard at first, but show that douche that you can do better than him. 

i, personally, would send a text calmly explaining how fucked up that is and why. tell him he is being a coward, if he does not want to be with you he needs to man up and say something. but, dont expect a response. spineless cowards liek that wont respond, i do that to get what im feeling off my chest rather than try to sway them. i would then proceed to buy myself ben and jerry's and watch twilight zone in my pajamas with a box of tissues, then you just gotta try to move on. clearly, he doesnt deserve you.

I'd say give him another two weeks and if nothing happens..then you do have to move on. You can't keep waiting on him forever. Also, it probably would do good to tell him through text. Hopefully he sees. Hopefully something good comes from this..because if he just plain abandons you..then that's douchy behavior. 

You weren't together for very long.  Having an abortion is a tremendously huge thing.  It changes peoples lives.  Maybe afterward, he had a hard time coming to terms with what just happened & he couldn't continue in the relationship.  Just because you are the one who physically went through the procedure doesn't mean it doesn't affect him as well.  I'm not excusing him but I'm saying you can't think of it only from your perspective. 

Reading some of the stories online from mens' perspective and fatherhood lost/denied - it can open your eyes to what may be going on with him. 

By the way - money isn't everything.  There are options such as adoption.  Closed adoption if you don't want anything to do with the child and open adoption if you would like to hear how the child is doing and growing and even possibly still be a part of the child's life to an extent.  There are govt programs to help women raise their children if they decide their is room in their heart to love this child they created.  Abortion isn't the only option and it isn't the best either. 

If they decide THERE is room in THEIR heart.  I can't believe I missed my own typo & now I can't edit.  Grr.

@Anonymous - Yeah, but a lot of women can't even afford the healthcare that comes with being pregnant. What the best solution is honestly depends on the situation. Nobody just gets an abortion for the sake of getting an abortion, it's an option that's thought about long and hard before any decisions are made. While you may not view abortion as the best solution, I feel that the author had good enough judgement to know what was best for her situation. Telling her she didn't make the best choice is disrespectful.

What do you do now?

Be glad you got an abortion. Your boyfriend sounds like no catch, and he would have left you at some point; at least there doesn't have to be a child involved, and you're not linked to him all your life.

Then... you just go on living. Take it day by day. Think about the kind of person you want to be, what matters to you, and concentrate on being that person every day. Pain is pretty good at changing people, the only thing you can do is try to use it to your advantage.

Best of luck!

Be glad you didn't have the baby with him! Can you imagine how much worse your life would be if you had to raise a child with a drop-out father like that?

Although I don't know you or your boyfriend, I would still say to take this situation as a blessing in disguise.  At least you know what kind of man he really is, and you don't have his child to constantly remind you of him.  It will take some time to heal and move on, but I believe you can.  It's up to how you want to handle this.  If you choose to confront him, I doubt whatever he has to say will make you feel better based on his behavior.

i feel like in such an emotionally tense situation like this you cannot jump to conclusions. maybe your boyfriend was a complete ass all along, or maybe, considering you two just went through a very traumatic experience together, he freaked out. for some reason i kind of sympathize with him. people can have crazy reactions to stressful situations, so maybe he just shut down.

if i were you, i'd want to meet together face to face and try to get to the bottom of why he just disappeared. i just find it very strange that he would disappear after you got the abortion. you would think that he would have abandoned you if you had decided to have the child. that's why i think people shouldn't jump to conclusions and assume he was a dick. maybe he just couldn't imagine things going back to normal, who knows, but i'd want to know why he left... if you don't need/want the closure then just forget about him and attempt to heal on your own. i would highly, highly recommend some form of counseling if the place you got the abortion at didn't already set that up for you.

@Rose_Hikari@xanga - Agreed. 

He didn't want anything to do with you or your baby. Just move on and next time, try to be more cautious about getting pregnant. Go on the pill just to be safe.