I read her posts, and a lot of them seem like they were trying to create controversy by trolling, or they just didn't portray her in a good light at all.  I mean, the fake reach?  I had ZOMG THE WORST DATE EVER because the guy didn't follow the perfect set-up to compliment me? 

Most people cannot relate to that, and it's kind of an awful attitude to have, so the readers are offended.  People who actually blog for a living write to please their readers, right?

@AsylumBlue - She seems to view/complain about everything in a totally irrational way (related to dating), and she didn't gain any points when she said "WELP, I HAD A NEW BOYFRIEND'S SHOULDER TO CRY ON, SO IT'S K."  That offended a lot of people's morals, I think, which is amazing considering the ideas of morality related to dating on Datingish are pretty varied. 

Also, honesty in a post is cool and all, but when you're posting on a website like this, you're totally opening yourself to catty and judgemental comments.

Edit: I just read her most recent post about laid back, lazy hack, etc.  Tone and being judgemental herself is definitely a big part of it.  "He actually had a head set to talk to other gamers, UGH IT MAKES ME SICK."  It seems extremely nitpicky and judging.

I would write about my experiences having a crush on my then-girl's best friend, but Datingish doesn't ever take two posts that are about the exact same situation. If they do, I'll submit the things I did.

@AsylumBlue - Well, I'm planning on posting about it anyway. If it doesn't make it. Screw it. then. 

@GodlessLiberal@xanga - win

I'm just coming back from a xanga hiatus, but I already knew who you were talking to from one recent article I read prior to this. The writer in question seems kind of naive, despite all of the dating experience she seems to have. I guess if she's telling her honest feelings, that's cool, but it was a bit disturbing that she seemed to have no remorse for the guy she broke up with, and even went as far as turning the blame on HIM for what he did afterwards and making herself seem like the innocent victim. A lot of people were angered to read about such a seemingly immature and selfish person.

However, that's no excuse for name-calling. Controversial posts can be met with criticism, but calling the writer a "cunt" or a "slut" or a "bitch" or a "dumbass" or anything else is just immature.

@GodlessLiberal@xanga - MALE FEMINISM FOR THE WIN!!!

@Hinase@xanga - On the breaking up the friendship one, I've been on the losing end on that situation. It hurt like hell, and her being so goddamned cavalier about it irked me. To me it was like saying "yeah, I ran over a pedestrian, but my dad's a lawyer so I didn't spend any jail time." No admission of guilt or wrong doing, just joy at not having anything negative happen.

@GodlessLiberal@xanga - I know it hurts like hell. I've been in those situations myself. But the thing is there will always be people like that. You can't really change that. It irks me too but you can't really do anything and I think it's wasting your time to insult this person as it won't make much of a difference. Believe me it won't. I've dealt with these kinds of people before. I realized it is not worth much to say anything. 

Ok, I had to be certain that I was thinking of the same person before I made a comment.  

@sabbygurl@xanga - @thisiswhereItellyoueverything@xanga - There was actually an intern recently who was getting a ton of hate on Lovelyish for his articles about women and fashion. He posted a couple of times on Datingish, but they weren't really "offending" anyone. To offer a reply though, I would have done the same for him if he had been posting those articles on Datingish. I promise.

I'm gonna go with tone.....and also some grammar issues.

haha come on.  do you really think people are getting angry or offended because of just TONE?

but to answer your question (which should be self evident already...) ..... I think what's offensive is her judgmental attitude, her arrogance, ego, superficiality, gold-digging, irrational thoughts and actions, immaturity, and lack of humility, remorse, or self-awareness in her actions.

personally, I'm not offended at all about anything she's said....since none of it pertains to me in any way. but I can understand (and so should she) how others would be offended if they relate to the situation. personally, my problem with the posts are.....they are just plain ANNOYING. you can only take so much of reading about an immature and superficial girl, who acts irrationally (flipping out cuz a guy called her cute but not pretty) or coldly (almost breaking up a friendship) and then is usually judgmental in some lame way about it, without ever taking one iota of responsibility for the situation. and to top it all off, the posts are written in a whiny and complaining and irritating way. I actually feel dumber for reading the posts, and then I get angry at myself for falling in the trap of reading her posts again and again (I must say, her titles are quite catchy!). the combination of the ridiculousness of the post, the knowledge that I have lost another 2 IQ points (which makes 6 total after reading 3 posts), combined with my guilt of falling for the trap again makes me want to stab my own eyes out with a blue Bic ball point pen.

of course, if she actually despises men and the point is to get all men on Xanga to stab their own eyes out with various writing utensils ....then I applaud her genius.

@GodlessLiberal@xanga - I agree. I can see how this would be extra annoying to someone who went through a situation like that. I also like the analogy.....cept I think some of her situations are more like  "yeah, I ran over a pedestrian, but he really shouldn't have been walking on the sidewalk in broad daylight."

@JinnLedet@xanga - That was actually my same idea, in fact I pulse'd something along those lines after finishing a Datingish article. Mean? Yes. But entirely completely true.