Wednesday, 25 May 2011
One of my writers has been getting harassed for her articles, and I'm sure you know who I'm speaking of if you read the site. She's one of my new interns and still trying to get a feel for Datingish. It's really discouraging (I guess that's the point of all the negative comments?) and demeaning to have a post dismantled like that. I think she has interesting stories to tell from a different perspective than what I typically have people submit to me. It may not be the most popular view, but her honesty and willingness to share how her dating life has unfolded should be commended.
I will always post opposing opinions and differing views on similar topics to give everyone a look at both sides of the dating world.
I love you guys (d'aww) and try to provide the best content I can with what I have at my disposal. I try to stay on topic as much as possible, as difficult as that may be (asasasas echo). But if we're going to sustain a quality site, I need help from the very people writing the negative comments, as well. Go ahead and be angry, but don't direct a diatribe towards her if it's getting to a point where she's being called a "cunt" and a "slut" among other things. It's okay to disagree and comment on it, but don't insult her like that over an article. Some of you are going a tad bit too far with the insults. Or... maybe I'm mistaken and you all have a perfect set of morals.
In her latest post for example, I'm pretty sure she was using hyperbole to illustrate the point that guys who sit around and do nothing but play video games and jerk off are more likely to be unemployed, unmotivated and lacking any sort of productive passion in life. The way you say things is just as important as your main point, I know. Perhaps she needs to work on that, but without constructive criticism, all she's getting is the sense that she's being ostracized for her past experiences with men.
Yeah, I'm playing the "papa bear" role and protecting my interns, but it's not just because I feel an obligation to. If I thought one of my interns wasn't providing anything of quality or controversy (without trolling) to get you all talking, I wouldn't choose to let them write for the site. I get a lot of submissions that would make grammar personified slit its wrists with a back slash to Esc from the cruel fate of being used in repugnant ways. Other times, I get great pieces. We're a community here, not a one-man operation. You're all important to the site and I don't pretend otherwise.
If you want to help improve the site's content, turn that anger into a post and submit it. It'll be way more productive than issuing a hateful comment.
But to ask all of you guys a question: What is it about the articles that bothers you most? Is it her tone? Do you just have a bad impression of her? Do you strongly disagree with her actions in the stories she shares? Irrational hatred?