I mostly liked latino men when I was younger. they mostly resembled sean paul even though sean is a mixture of many races. nowadays, this is the typical facial features that I'm attracted to, so if I see an asian, caucasian or black man, who resembles this, I'm drawn to this look. I like the defined high arch nose in his profile, devious sexy eyes, medium lips, subtle stubble, and a cute smile often wins:) johnny depp is a caucasian example. I had the biggest crush on the old school bball player, anfernee hardaway-damn he's cute

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let me generalize the question:  "when does [something deemed okay] become [creepy]?"  and the answer, whether or not any girl wants to admit it, is "it's okay if he's cute, and creepy if he's not".  i've never understood why white guys all have yellow fever. 

i agree with you that your friend is a hypocrite, by the way. 

I don't have a "type", I know an attractive man when I see one, but I don't really date outside of my own race.

A wise man once told me:
'Everyone wants to date an asian girl, but asian guys? No one wants to date an asian guy, not even asian girls!'
 - Ronny Chieng

There is truth to that.......

This one time I was hooking up with someone who had, and these are his words not mine: "Jungle fever". Now, where I am now, I'm not really attracted to a race or color or anything, there are just little instances that make me attracted to a man/woman.

i am really disturbed by asian fetishes. i think a fetish can be defined when the guy has dated three asian girls in a row and is weirdly obsessed with all aspects of asian culture such as the language and martial arts etc.

I'd say it becomes a fetish when you ask your partner who is not of that race to dress/act/become the person of the desired race...

"So why does it seem hard for her to understand that some guys might genuinely find themselves more attracted to Asian women?"

Maybe your friend finds that it's easier to place the "burden" of the fetish tag on someone else rather than herself. Some people get insulted when told that they have "____ fever", and others embrace it unabashedly. 

I think it's a fetish when you see a person less for who they are,but for what they are; When you're attracted to someone in a crowd because of their race moreso than their actual looks.

I think it becomes a fetish when their race is the most important aspect about them. That person would rather take an okay-looking and/or incompatible person of their preferred race rather than a stunningly attractive and/or totally compatible person of a different race. Or they might have an expectation for that person to act according to racial stereotypes.

I'm half-Black and half-Korean. I admit that I'm known by my friends to have a liking for good-looking Japanese guys, but this is definitely not a requirement and it's partially out of curiosity to date one (I live in semi-rural Japan so I don't get a lot of choices here). I'll also admit that I'm not really attracted to Black guys, despite being raised mostly around Black people all my life.

In the end, as long as the guy is compatible and cute, it doesn't matter what his race(s) is/are. ^_^

For some reason, I've mostly attracted white girls throughout my life, and I'm Hispanic with a tan, not a "white hispanic" as some would put it. I'm assuming that a lot of this has to do with the way I compose myself, what I do for a living, how I act, and most importantly, the way I dress.

My point? I'm physically more attracted to white girls, but in general, all the characteristics mentioned above hold some proper weight. I would never be opposed to dating a diverse selection of women. If a woman is attractive, she's attractive. That simple.

"Now I'm not sure I completely understand this. She has a clear preference for lighter haired caucasian men, and I'm sure she would think it ridiculous if any of them ever insinuated that she might only be interested in them because they are white.  It's not a "thing", it's simply who she usually finds herself attracted to.  So why does it seem hard for her to understand that some guys might genuinely find themselves more attracted to Asian women"

Media plays a role in what and how your female friend sees men and which of the racial groups are considered "desirable." In American TV and movies, you'll rarely, if ever, see Asian male leads who plays the primary character and "gets the girl at the end." It doesn't matter what genre the movie or show is: drama, horror, action, adventure, romantic comedy, etc. Think Rush Hour (with Jackie Chan), Kiss of the Dragon and Lethal Weapon 4 (with Jet Li), Bullet Proof Monk (with Chow-Yun Fat)--these films portray Asian males as mainly kung fu masters, an expert in weaponry/killing arts, or some stoic leader who teaches a "white" pupil to become a master of sorts, who in turn, will get the girl, usually of Asian descent, at the end of the movie. In Nora's Playlist (with Michael Cera), there's the Asian male character who was characterized as simply gay with long hair and chopstick-like skinny body just to stamp down that point that he is not a desirable character. Cera's character, which is just like the Asian male character in every aspect--personality, body type, looks--(except the color of his skin and short crop hair)--is 'somehow' portrayed as desirable in the film. He gets Nora at the end of the film. What does he do that makes him different? Supposedly despite all his flaws, he still has the balls to go out and get what he wants--but when you think about it, this is a universal human trait. Anyone can go out and get what he or she wants, if you have the desire, passion, and drive for it. It doesn't make him special that he 'happens' to be able to do that. 

Even in TV shows like Smallville where Kristin Kreuk who is a mixture of Chinese and Canadian/Dutch heritage, "falls in love" with a white male lead character, namely Clark Kent (Tom Welling). She looks Asian enough to play an Asian character but you can clearly tell that she has those "European" features too (even though she isn't really European), namely high cheek bones, broad forehead, round eyes, full, round lips, etc. She even played Chun-Li in that recent Street Fighter film. The director could have chosen a more appropriate Asian female lead character, like a real Chinese woman to play a Chinese female lead character for instance, but no, they chose a half Chinese, half Canadian Dutch woman to play that role instead. Chun-Li, in the realm of gaming and comics, is a Chinese woman. They chose Kristin Kreuk, in my humble opinion, not because she's well known in the filming industry but because she has Asian enough features but not so Asian that the catered audience--mainly White folks--won't feel estranged by her looks or feel like they can't relate. Plus, it's not like there's a 'shortage' of Asian female stars in American TV/films. There's Maggie Cheung who starred in "Hero" with Jet Li, Tony Leung, Donnie Yen, and Zhang Ziyi (the same girl who played in Crouching Tiger, Hidden Dragon). Both of them are Chinese and both of them would have made great Asian female leads. Michelle Yeow could have done it too. Hell! Even the picture of Lucy Liu that you posted could have played Chun-Li.