Friday, 20 May 2011
During my usual lunchtime, where I talk to my friends about life, I brought up an argument me and my boyfriend had. My boyfriend considered me going out to lunch with a friend of mine - who so happened to like me for year - a mild form of cheating. I thought this ridiculous because, although I did go out on a date with him, nothing happened. A month later, I went out with my boyfriend and sparks flew. Meaning, I love my boyfriend and even if my friend of three years decided to pull some moves, I'd stick it to him. I saw it as a friendly lunch (especially since we are all graduating) and intended on it being that way throughout.
Nonetheless, the argument still made me upset. My boyfriend and I have already established rules about cheating. His was that he didn't care about flirting but no physical actions (I don't flirt but he had this rules because his ex apparently loved to). I agreed and had this as a rule as well, since I've never had a boyfriend. Therefore, even if I decided to flirt with my friend (which I never would), it wouldn't go outside the rules HE established.
When I finished my story, I then asked my buddies if they established rules. Their responses shocked me. One girl friend responded saying that she could bump and grind a guy and even make out with him, but no sex. Another friend said that she could have sex with as many guys, as long as there wasn't an emotional connection. Yet another one stated that she could do whatever she wanted, as long as the bf knew prior to the event(s).
I was dismayed. I mean, maybe these couples have amazing trust with each other, but jealously will still play its part. I could never let my guy have sex or even kiss another girl without feeling jealous!
So Datingish readers, what do YOU feel is cheating? Has this generation really changed in terms of the cheating definition?