Tuesday, 17 May 2011
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Can You Deal With Guy on Guy Action?
Ladies, could you have sex with a man who used to be gay or is bisexual? I think there is a lot of stigma attached to this subject. I am straight, and I am all for equal gay rights. I have many gay friends too. However, I still don't know if I could be intimate with a man who had previously had sex with a man. I definitely couldn't be with someone that was currently attracted to men. I can't really pinpoint my reasons behind it either. Maybe I don't like the feeling of having extra competition for him, considering he could potentially be interested in all of the population and not half.
I know one thing that attracts me to a man, is when he really really loves women, and maybe attraction to males a little bit away from his love of women. Also, it could be my biblical roots throwing red flags up in my brain. Who knows? Would it bother you? My friend is dating a bisexual guy and she says that he chose to be with her and it is just like any other man choosing to be with her. If he is a cheater, then he will cheat. So she doesn't worry about the extra competition.
One thing I am always thinking about is why men are so infatuated with lesbians or even straight girls "playing lesbian" for the night? AND why it doesn't work the other way around with women being attracted to guy on guy action?
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I think guy on guy action is hot... but let me get this straight: It has to be two masculine dudes, not some little cute girlish boy. Full on macho warrior man types, not the typical "gay men" who are totally noticeably so. It has to seem wrong that two seemingly straight guys are getting it on for it to be erotic to me.
I think it's just because girls are prettier than guys. I'm straight but I could care less to see a guy naked. Their bodies aren't as nice looking as ours. lol.
Ehm, not really. I don't even like straight PDA.... so lesbian / gay stuff would just be a total turn off. I'm totally 100% gay rights, but I don't want to have to see anything. I'd have no problem dating a bi guy (in fact, I have before) and I've never felt like they'd cheat more or something because of sexuality, but that's just me. My current boy has kissed a guy before but said it was weird and felt nothing, and it's nice to know he's experimented and is done with it.
That all being said, no I wouldn't have a problem dating a guy who's been with guys in the past (because the past is the past) but I hate that guys think lesbian action is hot. That's just gross. :|
There are plenty of women who actually do find male on male action arousing. Take Yaoi, for example, which is completely dedicated to male on male action for females (although, admittedly, it is drawn and not a flesh and blood example).
The whole population doesn't suddenly become competition just because someone's bisexual either. Bisexual people have preferences and standards just like everyone else; they don't sleep with everything that moves just because it has a vagina or a penis. That's like saying every person of any sexual orientation wants to sleep with or date every single person of their sexual preference they come into contact with. It's not a hard concept to understand.
Your friend is also right in saying that if he's prone to cheating, he will cheat. His sexual orientation has nothing to do with it. Straight people cheat all the time. So do gay people. Bisexual people are not any more or less prone to cheating than anyone else.
I could easily be intimate with a man who dug other men. Especially if he were willing to pick up other bisexual men to bring home.
I read Shonen-ai (translation: boy love) manga so I think it's cute & perfectly fine. Whatever floats your boat. Who am I to judge. There's ALOT of girls that like it so this post surprises me. I think it's because society make men out to be macho & unfeeling so to see two guys with each other is fascinating (not just in a sexual way either).
When I read my very first Shonen-ai manga, I blushed because it was just so sweet & romantic. After a while I forgot it was about 2 guys, I just saw the emotions in the story. Then I went & boat like 3 more books (which are NOT cheap! LOL).
Regarding the other stuff, being bisexual doesnt mean they'll cheat. I can see what you mean by being worried that he's attracted to all of the population. I've had gay friends warn me about bisexual guys because some of them SAY they are bisexual but they're just confused & they're trying to see which team they like most. But everyone is not like that. Just be safe & both of you get tested to show good faith.
Kinda creeps me out. Don't get me wrong, I love my gay friends, but when they kiss it's a little.....I dunno. Odd. And they know it too so they make sure I'm in the area when they make out. Dirty devils!
@Kittyluve@xanga - I dunno about that, some guys are much better looking naked than some girls hehe.
I never see an issue with it. Though for your last statement I've never really been too fond of girl on girl action. I mean I could careless if I was with a girl who likes, has liked, sleeps with, or has slept with other girls. But in regards to finding it as a turn on, it's just whatever. I know people who get grossed out over homo erotic humor too, which seems strange to me. But to each their own.
I don't mind seeing a quick kiss but a lengthy makeout session is not something that I'd watch. I'm straight, but I've seen gay men and lesbian porn to see what the fuss was about
and it didn't really turn me on, but made me laugh. then again...most porn, even straight porn, somehow turns out to be comedic to me:D probably because I wasn't attracted to the people in action or it seemed too fake as in they were acting instead of actual enjoyment. I don't like amateur stuff because they usually aren't clean shaven lol but umm...I think you were mostly talking about gay people making out. I wouldn't want to date a gay man because wouldn't they prefer anal sex? and it isn't limited to gay people but some straight people are also into that, but it isn't my thing, which can be talked about before of what each person likes or dislikes. I think I just feel weird knowing that anyone, gay or straight has had anal sex. I have an anal sex phobia I guess
so I wouldn't want to date a straight man either, who has a strong affinity to anal sex. so I prefer someone, who prefers vaginal and doesn't pressure me to try stuff I'm not interested in. some straight men have asked me about anal sex and it really turned me off. I can say no of course, but the thought just isn't my thing.
No. Although I feel neutral, and would not feel uncomfortable if I saw it, I would not go out of my way to watch it, if you know what I mean. Just not my thing.
Guys making out is a turn on to me. I'm female and if I had to label myself I'm bi. I'm still debating in my head this whole notion of pansexual which I feels like fits me more, but still becomes a challenge to openingly tell people. Pansexual basically means that a person has the feeling that they have the potential for sexual attractions or romantic love towards all gender identities and biological sex. I wouldn't have a issues with dating a bisexual man. Or a man who used to be gay.
Actually..I think currently I'm in love with a bisexual man. But I'm a coward and have yet to tell these feelings haha@AnonymousBlonde@xanga - My statement was the he could "POTENTIALLY be attracted the the whole population and not half."That statement is keeping it in even fields, saying that the straight population is potentially attracted to half. I understand that EVERYONE has standards and I wasn't implying otherwise. This is also why I included the opinion of my friend about a cheater is a cheater. I completely agree that it has nothing to do with sexual orientation. Also, I am not even saying that I am not attracted to man on man ...
@kALIAS1334@xanga - A) I did not attack you anywhere for not being attracted to male on male action, so I'm not sure why you're bringing that up. I was merely providing an example, since you posed a question about why it seems that many women do not find male on male action arousing at the end of the post.
B) I missed the "potentially" which was my fault; however, I still think it's a gross exaggeration by straight people that there is "more" or "extra" competition when it comes to dating bisexuals. That's all I was stating.
Well it depends on your attraction, you can't help what you're attracted to or not attracted to. I personally am not a fan of either one due to the fact that I don't find women attractive, and men are attractive but not with another man. When a man is making me moan that's what I am attracted to but hearing two men or women moan by pleasing one another is quite disturbing to me. Just my opinion, but it is all based on your attraction. But my answer is no I couldn't, I have nothing against homosexuals though.
@AnonymousBlonde@xanga - I didn't think you were attacking me at all! I thought your statement was well worded and not attacking me by any means so I decided to respond to you instead of others.
Whoever said women don't like guy-on-guy has never seen the inside of my dirty mind.
Also in reaction to the first part of your post, I'd date a bi guy but I wouldn't date a gay guy. Because it tends to be that those who say they "used" to be gay are just lying to themselves because society is telling them it's 'wrong' and religion is telling them it's 'immoral.' When really it's society whose wrong and it's religion whose immoral (at least in this regard if not others as well.)
@JusticeCho@xanga - lol ya that's true but a hot girl's body is much better/interesting than a hot guy's body. imo.
I don't date, but I live to see some romance.
I don't think I could date someone who used to be with men. For me, it would just emasculate him. Not to say that a gay man is less of a man than a straight one, but in my mind, he wouldn't seem as masculine, which I need in a guy.
Guy on guy doesn't freak me out whatsoever. I'm not attracted to it but i think it's adorable if i happen to come across it. However, i dunno if i could date a man who's been with other men simply because men often have unprotected sex & the threat of HIV makes me very nervous, since it's commonly spread this way. I always have protected sex anyway, but shit happens & that's one thing i don't want to risk getting.
I agree with you completely. I'm 100% pro gay rights, have many gay friends and don't have a problem seeing any of their PDA. However, it doesn't particularly turn me on, and I would not be interested in dating a guy that had been with other guys before.
I don't know why, but I would have a major problem with any guy I'm with, sleeping with another guy, more than if he cheated on me with another girl. I think its probably that its hard for me to understand how a male could be equally/differently attractive to him if he's attracted to me, since girls and guys are so different. It would mean that there's something he's attracted to that CAN'T be found in me, that I will never have or be able to have since I'm not a guy. I don't know, but for some reason it would really bother me, can't quite put my finger on it.
Also, I think naked girls are much more attractive than naked men. I think its something to do with the softness, the femininity etc. Females are beautiful! I'm attracted to men, but women are beautiful. Does that make sense?
"USED to be gay" doesn't exist in my head. either you're gay, bisexual or straight, no matter what those christians (i am catholic btw) say about turning some one straight - it's a lie. i'm attracted to some gay friends i have, but we don't have a mental connection like that. i see them as liking the opposite sex, so why should i even try?
I'm not exactly aroused by it...but then again, I'm straight and I'm not aroused by straight people kissing. BUT I do admit I am a little envious when guys do the whole make-out sessions. I go to this really nice gay club with my bisexual best friend (who I kind of had a crush on before...and no, I didn't care that he was with a guy or digs them) a lot. I always see gay men making out...whether they are both masculine or femmes they all make me so envious. I just see the passion and it makes me want my own guy...or rather, wish he was just as passionate in our kisses =__________=
@Footballblogs@xanga - Same