Monday, 16 May 2011
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How Quickly Do You Notice A Guy's Shoes?
I was out to dinner with a group of girlfriends recently, when we were discussing a potential love interest for my friend Margaret. "Yeah, he's cute" Margaret said "But did you notice his shoes?"
I nearly snorted my drink through my nose. His shoes? I'll notice a guys clothing choice or overall look only if it's something that looks really great, or if its especially horrible. Otherwise, I'm really not particular what a guy wears, and I've never thought to specifically look at his shoes in order to infer anything about him.
But to my surprise, the 3 other girls at the table were agreeing and nodding knowingly. Apparently, the nondescript white running shoes that this guy liked to wear were worthy of intense scrutiny, and possibly even some questions regarding his potential as a boyfriend.
Now I'm sure that even for these girls, "bad shoes" are not make or break for a relationship. But just the fact that this is a specific factor in assessing a guy as potential dating material was something I never thought of before. But apparently it's more common than I thought?
How quickly do you notice a guy's shoes? Are his footwear choices something that matter at all?
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Wow. Really!? Thank god I'm with a girl who cares nothing about material things, I couldn't stand for such a thing.
Now if we're talking some neon, bright, screaming shoes that's different, but normal white running shoes?
REAL damn quickly unfortunately.
idk much about dudes' shoes.
girls always look at my shoes after they look at my face.
yup! i look at a mans shoes when i assess his dating potential. he could be perfect looking from head to ankle, but if his shoes throw me off... im gonna look onto the next guy. its usually sketcher shoes, blocky running shoes, or just plain out ugly dirty shoes that get me looking in the opposite direction. i dont know why this is but it is true.
Another stupid superficial post. If the guy has a great personality and keeps you entertained and smiling, what does it matter about the shoes he wears?
Almost immediately.
Thank you Lovelyish for giving me a new idea. I'm selling the front of my Vans for ad space.
pfff and you ladies wonder why "he doesn't treat me right"/"men are all pigs" YOU'RE JUDGING THEM BY THEIR SHOES. WHAT!?!?!?!?
What...
I notice a guy's shoes almost immediately. But I don't judge his character by it.
In fact, the very first time I saw my husband was on the bus and I looked at his shoes in passing. Then I went to a concert later that night and he was there and complimented me on my hair. I thanked him and looked at his shoes and realized that I've seen them before and told him I saw him on the bus (yes, I recognized his shoes before his face). He thought I was making fun of him because he had on some raggedy dirty white sneakers and he didn't say much else (I wasn't making fun of him btw, I just genuinely recognized his footwear...probably because they were particularly beat up but it still wasn't a jab at him). I guess it must have intrigued him because he hit me up on Facebook the next day and the rest his history.
He recently told me that he threw the shoes out after the concert because of it. lol.
i think this really depends on where you live and in what stratum of society you consider yourself to be. new yorkers tend to be very focused on how they dress, as it speaks a lot about your personality and social position. i find myself a lot more attracted to girls who are well dressed, so i dress well myself, including my shoes.
as for the guy in the post--i think the white running shoes alone shouldn't be a dealbreaker, as much as how it matched with the rest of what he was wearing. if he had on a button-down shirt (for example) and wore sneakers with it, i think your friends were okay to judge. i don't even own sneakers--on a hot day, if i'm wearing a button-down i'll probably put sandals on. (you can take the boy out of california, but you can't take the california out of the boy.)
op: thanks for writing this post, not only was it original, but it's something i've been wondering for some time now.
@LKJSlain@xanga - hahaha i laughed when i read this.
@TheNotoriousGOD@xanga - funnily I wrote recently about how shoes are a turn off for me. Not all of them, but ugly shoes... and that unfortunately for men a LOT of shoes are ugly to me. - BUT in my defense... I still have given men with shoes that I Thought were ugly a chance ;) Including the one I'm married to.
Sounds about right. Women typically are very perceptive of details like if a man's shoe color matches his belt color or something like that. It is supposed to convey a clue of his personality. It doesn't make sense, but that's just how women typically are. They are even like this when considering interview candidates for jobs.
I... Barely ever look at shoes.
In my opinion, I'll look at his pants before his shoes.. and no I am not looking for his buldge either ;)
About four months after the fact.
I size the guy up from top to bottom, so yep, I look at his shoes amongst his overall style, posture, body expressions, voice, manners, via conversation-if he has a friendly charismatic personality or he's just plain arrogant
I generally don't look at shoes unless his outfit grabs my attention, then I'll check him out and also notice his shoes, which happened a few months ago when I noticed this very well dressed man standing in front of me at the literal and figurative checkout line
I was like...who is this fine man standing in front of me, so I was looking at him thinking how good he looks, but then he was talking to the cashier and his effeminate voice gave the clue that he's likely gay
but it didn't surprise me since gay men are often very well dressed. straight men are just well dressed, but gay men often dress like georgio armani models
I think in honor of this post, I'll wear the dirtiest, nastiest pair of shoes I own, and watch for women to notice them and have a look of disgust on their face, then I'll call them shallow
Eh, generally specific shoes aren't important. But boring shoes can be a sign of a boring person. If we're getting tedious on it, that is.
hahahaha story of my life. after i check out his face to see if hes cute or not i instantly look down to see their shoes. its kind of a deal breaker for me depending on their shoes. and its not because im shallow but shoes can tell you a lot about a guy believe it or not
Not like they're wearing shoes when they're in the bedroom.. so I don't care. (:
as a man, when looking at a girl the first two things i look at are the shoes and the hair. these to me are two of the more important keys to understanding a woman's self-perspective.
i care about how i look, and i recently realized that good shoes are important for men too. if sneakers, they should be clean and match the clothing. if i am wearing a suit or other dressy clothing, they should match and not be cheap. i own a couple of somewhat cheap dress shoes for work, but for going out on the town i now know i need to have a pair of really nice shoes. last summer i invested in a decent pair of sandals, because let's face it, even with smart dressy evening wear sandals can work for guys.
so as a guy, yeah, the shoes matter. i hate to say it, but appearances count. i will admit that most men don't care about what they wear, but since i know you girls do we kind of have to as well.
Lol I don't usually notice a guy's shoes unless they're weird or really big. And if they're weird, I'll probably just be like, "Haha, nice shoes." Topic terminated.
I am attracted to guys who wear certain types of shoes. Of course, there are exceptions (ugly guys can wear Converse, hot guys can wear basketball shoes), but time and time again, the following list has proved true to me:
Attractive/Hot: skate shoes & Converse
Cute/Okay: flip flops (but only occasionally), slip ons
Unattractive: Athletic shoes, sneakers, boots, sandals, etc.
I never look at the shoes first. I notice them after I've seen his face/build. But the shoes always match what I rate his face.
I always notice shoes. Usually I don't care, if the guy is awesome, I won't fault him for a bad fashion choice. But if it's those pointy-toed or extremely long/flat dress shoes or any sandals besides flip flops, that's hard to overcome.