Sunday, 15 May 2011
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What Do (Or Did!) You Love About Being Single?
My boyfriend and I have been living together for the last few months, and it's wonderful. I love him, and I love living together... coming home to him after work, and having the freedom to do whatever want together, knowing that its our place and that no matter what, we'll be going to sleep in the same bed and waking up together the next morning.
In the past month however, he's been doing a lot of traveling. I've had the apartment to myself for the past few weekends and honestly... it's been pretty fantastic. Most of my girlfriends are still single, so I had a few of them over one night and we all were chatting and discussing their dating life (or lack thereof). And it got me thinking.
I've never been someone who has had a problem being single. I've dated a lot, but rarely had any serious boyfriends, and certainly never lived with anyone before. For a while I was convinced I would be happiest to just spend my life dating many interesting and exciting men, and enjoying life on my own.
While meeting my boyfriend and falling head over heels changed that idea, these weekends to myself have been lovely reminders of the "me time" that is so important in relationships, but that was also the whole beauty and essence of being single. Being in a relationship is about balance, but sometimes I have to admit that I miss the imbalance of being able to spend all my time focusing solely on myself.
When I am alone, I can spend all day on my creative projects, make a mess of the apartment and not worry about when I have to clean it up. I can watch whatever TV shows I want and not worry that someone else doesn't love it too (though really, how can you NOT love Law & Order SVU?). Decisions don't have to be discussed with anyone else. I can dress up for no one and go out with girlfriends and come home to be in a deliciously large bed all alone.
So I just want to take the time to give some props to being single. Relationships, and focus on finding someone to date is a huge deal in society, and in most people's lives. And don't get me wrong, there is a whole other list of fantastic things about being a relationship... But for a moment... What do (or did) you LOVE about being single?
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I like being single though I recently had a very vivid dream of my ex.
Basically as you said, the freedom to do whatever you want without consulting anyone and then not having to worry about what another one wants or needs..
Being able to meet new people. Develop new hobbies. Work on myself. Throw myself wholly into school and the obsessive-compulsive nature my art classes bring out in me.
I like myself better sometimes when I'm single, but I miss the companionship a relationship (or dating) brings. It's a vicious cycle.
-Not dealing with a partner's bad moods and habits
-Having loads of privacy/free time
-Never being pestered when you don't want to be
-Constant freedom
-Keeping the house exactly as you want it
-More time/energy to spend on friendships
-Never having to ask: "What do YOU want to do?" "Where do YOU want to go?" "What do YOU want to eat?" "What do YOU want to watch?" &c ad infinitum.
everyyything =)
I love being single on my birthday! Men buy me drinks and I flirt all night long with anyone I want to!
don't have to tolerate his annoying quirks that drive me crazy
I can do whatever I want, whenever I want without having to explain...,because I want to, is the only answer
freedom, you dont have to constantly check up with your s.o, not having to shave all the time :)
Not having to put up with some guy's crap!
I love being single. No boyfriend, no problems. :)
That's why I have a romantic thing going on with one of my friends, but we aren't together. All the perks of a relationship without actually being in one.
I love that I don't have to worry about making someone else happy. Just myself :)
The freedom of making a whole bunch of new friends and simply talking to whomever. :]
One less person I have to please. Having a dating life without exclusively having a boyfriend/girlfriend is a perk. Less pressure. At the end of the day, no serious fights or hurt feelings. No necessary routine. And some days, it's just nice to be comfortable and alone.
Ugly panties! aha, just kidding. Wear cute panties all the time, it's somewhat empowering.
I enjoy being able to have intense eye contact, where it screams "I want you, come get me".. then walking away and not feeling guilty.
Agreed! Can't go wrong with Benson and Stabler :):)
I honestly love your attitude toward your relationship right now. I always thought moving in together would put a huge strain on the relationship but your blog shed some new light on it!
Anyway, what I loved about being single is simply the freedom to pursue whatever I want. I can go out with whoever I want whenever I want (without having to consider hurting the boyfriend's feelings), I can leave the country for awhile and do some learning by myself. Of course, the grass is always greener on the other side ;)
I've never had a boyfriend.
However I think the main advantages I have had so far is the advantage of only trusting myself.
Probably the major issues I'll face having a boyfriend is being able to trust him. To trust that the girls on his facebook page are just friends and the girls back home are strictly in a platonic relationship with him.
I love how I don't have to dress to impress...try hard to be interesting..or worry about not spending enough time with him.
Being single has its perks but ultimately at the end of the day, I would love someone to want me.
i enjoyed the simplicity of life and making decisions on my own. also, going out with friends and talking with guys without feeling guilty was nice. i still can and do, but not as often. :\
Being care-free. I've never been with a like-minded woman, so being single allows me to do what I want without worrying. It would sure be nice to have a like-minded woman though, then I'd still be allowed to do what I want without worrying, and have all the bonuses of a relationship as well. Alas...
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If you like aspects of being single, and you like aspects of being in a relationship, why don't you just have your own place? That way, you can have your "me time" whenever you want it, not just when your BF is out of town. I don't live with my boyfriend because if I'm not ready to marry him, I don't want to pretend like we're married. I want to be an independent woman while I still can be.
Also the liberal feeling that you don't have to explain yourself (in any situation) to anyone.
I've been single for...years now, hahaha. Enjoying it, still. I like the independence, the freedom, and the privacy.
being able to do whatever i want whenever i want